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Wednesday
Sep122018

The genius of adaptive strategies

When you feel that something is not working on your terms or timeline, you may feel frustrated.  Its moments such as these where it pays to reframe events and recognize the genius of your brain's adaptive strategies. Yes! You are a true genius!

In order to gow aware of and accept your own sheer brilliance, it is  valuable to shift focus from negative energy and discomfort to grow aware of what is really going on.   Ever wonder what the signs and signals of your body-mind are saying? Ready to decode them?

Consider the examples of; anger, depression, anxiety, stress, trauma, drug addiction, rashes, and self destructive behaviours and dysfunctional relationships.  Every human being is wired for survival.  The ego exists to self-protect.  This is what the body and mind are up to as you repress, suppress and dissociate from what troubles you. Its part of the strategy.

When ready, you can retrain your brain, your mind as well as your palette for life just as you can shift which foods and flavours appeal to you. It takes time to be attracted to and enjoy foods, behaviours and experiences of what is natural and good without self-judgement. Get ready to embrace a whole new way of existing.  Invite a new level of satisfaction.

From the moment you understand why you do the things you do, you are empowered  to make positive and lasting change.  This applies to not only how you view yourself, but also how you interact in the world.  As you let go and stop wanting things so badly, it seems miraculous yet suddenly, what you need comes to you without effort. Insight to ponder: what does surrender look and feel like in your life? What could it look like as you embrace it more fully?

Tuesday
Sep112018

10 Tips to rendez-vous with destiny

A popular question that arises is how to catch up with destiny. Many people admit they view destiny as a kind of carrot at the end of a fishing line they feel they are often chasing. Although life purpose may change at different life stages, destiny is viewed as your unique and ultimate reason for being. Does this confuse you? You may be asking what you need to do, where to go, to feel at ease or in harmony with yourself. Reflect on 10 tips to r.d.v. with your destiny: 

1. Recognize your 'comfort zone' 

This entails recognizing your comfort zone in different areas of your life and how this limits you.  In general, the more rigid your (or your kids') schedule, the more comfort zones you have created.  If you are caring for other people, (i.e., relations, pets or other friends), the more jam-packed their routine, the more you fear letting go of control, the more you fear spontaneity, fear creating something new, lasting and enriching in your life or feel uncomfortable stepping into the unfamilliar.  Conscious awareness of why you do things greatly empowers you to shift reality.

2. Find the courage to heal

Comfort zones do not just happen.  They are a symptom of repressed/ suppressed negative emotions, unhealed pain and mental suffering. Finding courage to heal implies the willingness to grow aware of triggers and habits (why these arise), and how you numb out or shift focus from the root cause of discomfort. This involves exploring character traits, possible co-dependence, people-pleasing, unconscious self-sabotage, self-hate or rejection and fear-based action.  Discover what blocks true intimacy, connnection, personal fulfillment & professional success. 

3. Stretch yourself

Watch what unfolds as you envision yourself beyond your current circumstances.  Depending on your readiness, this could mean taking up a course or training, shifting into a new vocation, moving geographically, building a dream home, renovating something, changing entourage, or generally building a new foundation from where to grow. Every instance you see things differently, even taking a new route to work, choosing to wear more comfortable shoes, or openly confiding intimate details of your life without fear of vulnerability, you are tasting your destiny. Every moment, you can take steps to find your way. Consider working with a mentor.

4. Adopt an optimistic attitude

The moment is ripe to function with an optimistic attitude. Listen to your thoughts and words more closely. How often do you hear yourself saying, "this is not possible because..." or "the time is not right because...?" Be aware of how often you talk yourself out of what you want, what feels right or do not even allow yourself to explore possibilities beyond habit. Who is really in charge here? Being optimistic is part of the process of reclaiming personal power you gave away. Imagine reclaiming it and letting go of what holds you back. How does your perception shift?

5. Stop acting to appease others

Whether or not its obvious to you at this stage, you are not always acting based on your own heart-felt desires and dreams.  Self-acceptance does not depend on the nature and intensity of your fitness practices or the amount of what you accomplish in the eyes of family or mentors and role models you admire. As you recognize and stop unconscious behaviours that arise to appease others, you move into that place where you do things you only used to speak or dream about.  

6. Tap into unused potential

Imagine the possibility you only use a fraction of your innate intelligence, wisdom and resources.  Remind yourself the moment is ripe to access diverse skills and abilities that you habitually fail to see and use. Know and accept that within you are powers that facilitate everything imaginable you could become. Simply get out of your own way. Talking to yourself can help you clarify what you wish to do or create in life.  Where you are is perfect for this moment and you are catching up with dreams realized by a future version of you watching your progress. 

7. Set new goals

Watch what happens as you give up complacency in favor of extending your wings more fully, of raising the bar for yourself.  Imagine what it feels like to blossom beyond self-created boundaries.  Set new goals that draw out the best in you.  Work toward those things that enable you to develop a sense of mastery and peak performance.  Begin with a pad of paper, writing implement and undivided attention.  Unleash the unthinkable. Let your fingers do the talking.

8. Imagine no limitations

Take a few moments to imagine you have no limitations in terms of money, no time constraints, health issues, no obstacles to contacts, experience, knowledge or education. That is, imagine whatever you write is possible for you, provided you want it genuinely and are willing to make whatever efforts and sacrifices are necessary.  This implies seeing through mid-life crisis. Go on, surprise yourself.  What would it look like?

9. Build unshakable self-confidence

It may surprise you but the mere act of writing dreams on paper takes a concept to the next level while building your self-confidence. Focusing physical and mental energy on specific ideas gives them life.  The process of adding detail and taking steps to realize it generates a greater sense of personal power and ability.  This is not ego-driven arrogance or pride but heartfelt love of life. 

 10.  Achieve peak performance

Achieving peak performance happens as you clarify goals, challenge and revise your own standards, invite feedback, do not take things personally, give yourself heart and soul to what enables you to feel harmony within yourself.  This may seem like a big ask or a tall order.  Yet, it happens naturally when you are in a state of flow because you function with extraordinary energy and clarity. Everything simply comes together. Uncover what you are uniquely qualified to do and be and even the stranger you speak to in passing reveals a connection to where you are heading. Making a meaningful and lasting impact on the world begins with cracking the shield you have build oer your own heart.  Are you ready to be proactive? Let the Soul be your pilot.

Monday
Sep102018

3 Ways taboos are pointers

Notice whatever evokes discomfort in you is the key and path to your own liberation and destiny. Recognize and join the dots of your own unique life experiences, and uncover an unconscious map to reclaim your personal power. Sounds easier said than done? Discover what surprising pointers guide you to your heart's deepest secrets.  Funny thing is, you may not even know how or why you gave this power away. This is invitation to contact us to engage in practices or therapies that enable you to access innate unconscious intelligence and wisdom and set it free.

1. List topics that bother you the most

Based on a surveys, thirteen of the most taboo adult subjects include; sexism, sexuality/sex/ prostitution, money, politics, rape, death (i.e. rituals, suicide) pornography, religion, weight, drugs, war (violence), abuse of power of authority, and stigmatized illness/ addiction (or any combo). Ask yourself what gives you the heebee-geebees or rattles your chain. Brainstorm what evokes anger, fear or heavy emotion.  Notice what you resist speaking openly about.  This points to sources of repressed/ suppressed pain or trauma you refuse to feel. You exist to decode why.

2. Notice what children blurt out

Ever notice children are direct, tend to tell it like it is until taught otherwise.  They speak freely and openly about body functions: burps, farts, digestion, poops, nudity, and  mysteriously voice those things you aim to hide or feel embarassed about. Ask yourself why its okay to speak about certain topics in the presence of kids or fellow parents, yet decide its taboo to speak about these topics more widely in other circles. At what stage or for which reasons do you begin to go silent?

3.  Be honest about where things need to change

When you feel some public system, structure or services are outdated or that things need to change, you are actually inviting yourself to view yourself differently so you access and activate more untapped potential.  Thinking about these things is a step toward speaking about or challenging the status quo in thoughts, beliefs and behaviour.  Beginning to change your view of the world and how you imagine your place in it is the path to feeling more comfortable with transparency.  This is a stepping stone to more consciously evolving into a futurist who is co-creating a new reality. Now is the moment to listen, empathize and flourish.  Simply be real.

Saturday
Sep082018

5 Tips to shake you up 

Perhaps you have heard people set the intention to find a parking spot nearby their destination. What about yourself? Do you always get that space, even visualize it before it comes into sight? Do you regularly set intentions, and experience their power in action in real time?  If you do, are you satisfied with how things play out and how you feel?  If not, what are you waiting for?

1. Clarify what you want

Maybe you have a general idea of the partner you seek or begin to add detail for the ideal vision of where you wish to live, work or play? Only taking a moment to ponder general ideas is not enough energy to consciouslt shape your life.   Ever wonder why things seem to pass you by? What if you could add more detail to your vision, even polish it so you feel repeatedly energized and exhilarated about unfolding events?  What if writing things down makes a big difference?

2. Give yourself a deadline

This could be a goal of meeting or surpassing a monthly quota, structuring life changes or preparations based on an upcoming event such as a birth, wedding, divorce, retirement, or family move.  Whatever that point in time, working backwards from here can enable you to feel more relaxed and better organized for what is coming. The point is to get your butt in gear to act.

3. Adapt or extend the deadline as needed

Maybe you feel under the weather, unforseen obstacles crop up or you just do not feel motivated to carry out some of your original plans. Whatever the reason for diverging, the point is to be kind, gentle and understanding with yourself. The point of shaking yourself up can be to loosen up your own reigns.  If you sail, you know you have to adapt to changing weather. If you engage in interactive sport, you know the value of changing direction.

4. Rediscover the art of surrender

As much as you might like to think you can control everything, being shaken up is also about accepting what it is to set an intention and let go of attachment to the timing of results. Nurturing a vision and repeatedly focusing attention on it is also part of the art of not controlling what/when a vision comes through. What if you get a cream opal car instead of the white one? Can you accept the result the universe brings and know its the best option?

5. Keep your eyes on the prize

Come what may, you may not always get what you think you want but you always get what you need. Blessings are found in whatever arises. You may not get the meal you envisioned eating at a restaurant because its sold out.  Yet, as the result, you may be pleasantly surprised to discover what turns out to be perfect for your palette. Keeping an open mind changes everything.

Your intellect may be confused by your emotions never lie to you. -Roger Ebert

Friday
Sep072018

7 Tips to see gifts in your defences

Defences are an ingenious gift we give ourselves.  They are strategies that help us get through adversity, trauma, and even survive.  The child's mind and adult mind have unique ways of dealing with discomfort. In order to master yourself, you need to appreciate and grasp ALL levels of defences.  That is, you have to grow conscious of what you are hiding from and why so the unconscious patterns cease to control your patterns of behaviour and projections. This allows you to form ‘the big picture’ of the way all the levels of defences interplay.  Contact us for session details.  Meanwhile, ponder 7 tips to gain new insight into the nature of your own defences:

1. Grow aware of childhood defence mechanisms

2. Get clear on adult defence tendencies

3. Explore character or personality structures that enable you to survive

4. Identify day-to-day behaviours that are defences in disguise

5. Connect defences with emotional blockages

6. Make shadows conscious & heal them

7. Allow effortless transformation to happen

(We all have a Self-Actualising’ Tendency that comes into play once our ‘blockages’ are removed.  In other words, your dreams realize themselves when you know to get out of your own way)

Colors, like features, follow the changes of emotions.- Pablo Picasso