You may be surprised to hear that the source of your assumed animal magnetism is not what you think.  Sexual prowess relates to confidence, and appreciation of the physical body, but there's more.  Beneath the surface, attraction is an energetic force.  You allow yourself to feel it through acceptance and being aware of something deeper.  Its about raising awareness of a soul connection.

In essence, the source of true power of attraction is to tap into existing mental clarity.  That's right! This is about seeing through what ego tells you attraction is and focusing all faculties and skills to manifest the purpose known deep in the soul.  You know when you are in the presence of someone who lives in the now.  You feel peace and contentment of the universe without doing anything. Be the divine force inherent in us all.

"The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe." -Deepak Chopra 

On some level, whatever you do or do not do serves you in some way.  On another level, being conscious and making connections between thoughts, feelings and behaviour enriches your life.  Which life changes do you wish to bring about?

Notice that as you know how balance and harmony feel, you are in position to truly help others help themselves.  When something does not feel right in your life, this also invites closer attention.  As you focus on the joy arising in what you do, and even when you do nothing, you notice the right thoughts and right choices come naturally.  You are what you eat and what you think about too.

If you find yourself over-thinking, feeling worried and anxious, and generally out of sorts, you may be in relationships you outgrow or, be doing things out of habit that imprision your soul. What can you do to be free? Discover 5 things you can you do now;

1) Recognize things only seem to get worse before they get better.

Some relationships break up or fade out of life before new ones grab your attention.  It could be romance, business arrangments, friendships or other connections that no longer resonate or feel right. Shifts are part of a natural cycle much like how day flows into night, sunrise leads to sunset. Attitude or how you feel about it all, can help you to accept what comes with grace and relief,  allow being in the flow, and know all is well.

2)  Know letting go of self-criticism is as easy as you decide.

Notice that nobody is as hard on you as you are on yourself.  You are your own judge and jury.   Anytime you tell a sob story of struggle or victimhood, you are allowing this to sap your energy and prevent you from being all you can be.  Imagine how much easier life is as you fill up with compassion and understanding. Chalk everything about discomfort up to experience. Let go of sources of irritation.  View it as a gift.  Move on.

3) Trust your life offers endless joy, inspiration and opportunities.

Even now, endless opportunties are available to you.  You simply decide how to see as well as what to overlook. Consider the Sun, Moon, stars,  celestial bodies and other objects are always in the same sky. Why choose to notice some things more in day or night? Conditioning. In fact, you are selectively aware about your abilities and potential. As you grow aware of your beliefs and esteem, you are free to shift focus.

4) Be true to yourself

As you make choices that are true to your heart, you bring joy and comfort into the lives of others.  You have no urge to cling to situations that evoke imbalance and anger. You welcome upheavals as signs of growth and do not permit the gripes and grudges of others to bother you. Feel what its like to bless and forgive as part of your journey.

Notice whether you allow others to impose their world of emotions on you.  You can choose to deflect or transcend such things. Simply stop taking things personally.

Notice if you always seem to be busy and/or get your kids' schedules jam-packed. Why are you really avoiding solitude and silence? Watch what happens as you reach that unspoken threshold.  Life as you know it,  falls apart.  Nature takes things into its own hands.  The universe reminds you that you cannot avoid facing yourself forever.

When you are finally alone, and the mind is quiet, you, the "ego" disappears.  As you view this as a symbolic release of what is not you, you start to notice thought and awareness of thought. The desire to control thoughts and events is replaced with trust and awareness of feeling.  Fighting, conflict, competition all cease. This is the end of a sense of togetherness, loneliness and comparing. In fact, no other remains. How do you respond to nothing?

Whether or not you spend time with others, you can choose to be friends with yourself. When you run away from something, like during nightmares, a goal you doubt, a relationship or opportunity you deny yourself, fear of not being, getting or doing exerts a hold over you. 

As you stop looking for answers outside yourself, the loving heart melts that which blocks you from merging with everything.  How you relate to peace determines whether you allow yourself to be disturbed. Grasp how it is to be free.  You are the problem and solution.

"People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself. But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates." -Thomas Szasz

"When you stop controlling things, you are not disturbing life, and life does not disturb you."
- Ajahn Brahm

1) Allocate regular 'me time' to reflect on what is going well

2) Find the silver lining in your current conditions

3) Celebrate every step along your journey to a goal

4) Spend time with positive and inspirational mentors

5) Create mantras & affirmations that uplift your spirits

6) Focus on your strengths and demonstrate them

7) Anchor your views in present, direct experience not fear of future "what ifs"

8) Remind yourself that everything unreal (evokes discomfort and) is impermanent

9) Keep an open mind & reach for guidance if it feels right

10) Always expect the best. You get what you think about!

"Let there be more joy and laughter in your living."  -Eileen Caddy

Beyond emotional and mental seeing, you access other ways of seeing.  The universe unfolds as it does regardless of how you think and feel.  Without interpretation, awareness and peace are present.  Yet, the mind would have you believe in a series of tests, struggle and pain.  As you step back, what reveals itself about your attachments, dreams, and programming. Which revelations arise?

Notice how problems arise and what enriches you as you see a purpose.  As you decide something is not going right, you create stress and discomfort.  Notice how you respond to someone who complains to you.   Do you say how you understand, share in the 'pity party' and fuel the fire with negativity? Or, do you say, "is that so?" with indifference or, "well done!" with enthusiasm? 

As you appreciate monsters in your life, they are suddenly less scary. The monstrous situations, anger and negativity do not exert power over you unless you give your power away.   To starve the anger-eating demons, simply love them.  Let go of that conditioned fault-finder. Watch what happens as you find something good in everything.  Accept yourself and all emotions that arise.

Ultimately, physical scenarios and relationships come and go. How you view them is a choice. Knowing this, notice you attract and find what you look for. Nothing exists but what you create.

"But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads?"
-Albert Camus

Rest assured, you are always on the right track.  Everything you think and feel is always conveying messages about what is helping you or hindering you be true to yourself.  Every thought and choice is guiding you.  So when teach question arises, "do I or don't I listen?"  Sharpening your listening skills is a way to be more attentive to what matters to your soul. Listening to your vibes is always in your interest.  Do what you can to sharpen the senses.

"Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong."
-Peter T. Mcintyre

In essence, experience is the best teacher.  You offer yourself wisdom every moment but have selective awareness based on judging what is useful. Stop judging and then see what happens.

As you begin to slow down, you see clearer.  Be your Dream.  Realize it is not just noticing you do the things you do that's important. It's also being conscious of them, seeing you attribute or overlook value in everything.  Only you can uncover the underlying purpose behind your own apparent madness.  Delve deeper.  Nothing is purposeless.  Every behaviour speaks through you.

"Multi-tasking arises out of distraction itself." - Marilyn vos Savant

As you begin to recognize the 'quest' within the question has different purposes and lessons, the game of life rises to a whole new level.  You can move through beliefs and perceived problems,  brainstorm possible causes, create affirmations, and new patterns.  Feel the roadmap to peace.

In essence, this tells you awakening is not the same for everyone.  What you think you want at different stages of life evolves.  Underneath every desire and quest, who you are is constant.  What stands out as a current priority is impermanent.  Each experience you choose serves you and also reveals what is permanent.  Everything is here but you may forget how to see.  Just ask.

"Act with a spirit of detachment, being equal to success and failure.  Such evenness of mind is called yoga."  -Bhagavad Gita