10 Tips to Transform your Relationship

People approach me to address discomfort  and restlessness they experience in their relationships. You may experience a partner or child who is angry, stand-offish and feel alienated for varied reasons. This can be the start of a deep dive into many issues that currently baffle you. Reaching out for mentor support can be helpful.

Wherever you are at, there exist things you can do yourself to begin to get yourself on track. Heed 10 tips to transform from inside out: 

1. Create the vision for your relationship and yout life

 2. Recall or relearn to truly love yourself.

3. Be open to what could change your perspective.

4. Find courage to uncover self-created obstacles and blind spots.

5. Grow awareness and explore causes of behaviour patterns.

6. Learn to create emotional safety for yourself (then others).

7. Become your own source of enouragement.

8. Discover what your emotional needs are and how to meet them.

9. Accept you are the cause of how you see things and can turn this around.

10. Tke full responsibility for your thoughts, words and feelings. 

Dream Analysis of the Week- Shower of Change

Dream:

I ws in the shower.  I did not physically ressembe my current appearance. I had short black hair and I was a cartoon character. As the water came down on my body, the colour was washed off and there was nothing left. 

 

Insight:

This may be viewed as a shapeshifting dream.  It is a reminder of what Shakespeare reminds us: "All the world's a stage and men and women are only players."

Water dreams or falling water echo we are healing from the past, and optimistic about things. It also refers to purifying ourselves physically and spiritually to preparing for new realities where we realize a different state of mind and being.  If showering or bathing evokes unsettled thoughts or feeling "dirty", something deeper may need to be addressed. These generally include emotionally distressing or stressful situations that arise for acceptance and healing.

To dream that our life or body is a cartoon implies we don't take life too seriously or would be better off if we found ways to lighten up.. This could mean we would benefit from growing aware of a stressful habits or thinking patterns.  Consider it a possible wake up call to reframe our life, to remind us we can always shift perspective.  We can always erase a version of ourselves through integrating lessons and/or letting go of what we outgrow.

When rewriting (or rescripting) our dreams, we are growing more conscious of who we are and our true power.  This is a way to actively approach the storyboard of our soul journey. That is, we close our eyes and run through the images in our mind, and then rewind the image and rewrite it – rewrite the story, in whatever way we choose. In essence, we are taking charge of the image on our own terms.  At any given moment, we realize we decide how we wish to feel and where we will allow energy to flow.  When focused, every thought and feeling can be harsessed and redirected consciously. 

Consciously shift frequency

Notice the more we take responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, health and conditions the more we recognize being vulnerable is what allows us to be real, connect with others, dissolve illusions of separation. In fact, as we gain insight into trauma or adversity and the message or lesson offered, it would be selfish to keep that insight and source of growth for ourselves. It is in sharing our stories that others are inspired to bravely face themselves and blossom into true nature.

So, we must be willing to be completely honest with ourselves, recognize where and with whom we are, have been dishonest. Turns out, we are only ever dishonest with others in the same way we are dishonest with ourselves. As we expand, we are able to hold what is happening in the consciousness of love, to honour the interconnectedness of life. This is about seeing from wider view, so we can be what we came to be, access all of who we are.

Many people forget the deeper vibration of responsibility. Contrary to popular belief, its not about duty or meeting others' expectations. Its about being spontaneous. We have response -ability to be in this moment. Our attention, consciousness, focus, is only ever present. Being here is responding with our whole being. Be like a dragonfly, consciously shift frequency & vision.

Listen to wake up calls

Notice what it is to remember and embody the power of spiritual mysteries. Seeing from/ into varied perspectives alters what enters scope of awareness. The purification process elicits wake up calls. People we encounter always set us up to feel exactly how they feel. The unconscious is triggered unless we make it conscious, heal, outgrow it. The key is to shift to see from awareness behind it.

So, to resolve a conflict in your life, identify how you feel in the moment, realize this feeling is energetically self-created, and devise a solution based on those specific emotions. With awareness, we are empowered to change our response. Maturity happens as we encounter the same situation yet respond differently, in love and acceptance of self and understanding of the interconnectedness of all.

Consider a child or adult throwing a tantrum feels powerlessness or anger. Intense energy is hard to ignore. The point is we must feel, and respond in love to truly shift energy. Every relationship conflict arises to teach us something about ourselves.

Turn Life Around

(Ladybug macrophotography and water droplets by Don Komarechka)

Notice sometimes only seeing things upside down allows us to truly see things right side up. More than once, we may contemplate living differently, imagine what it would be like to somehow change or even leave our old life behind, and yet hesitate to take off. As we reach the end of our rope, or (tip)ping point, the excitement of the unknown is more powerful than the fear that held us back. Fearless Soul takes the helm over Ego. Only then do we see the obvious. This is the process of getting in touch with and being ourselves.