5 Pointers to a satisfying relationship

Creating a good (reciprical) relationship implies learning how to interact with your partner in ways that promote and enhance honest communication while allowing for trust and vulnerability. Becoming skillful at relationships requires both your own inner work and external work (on your partnership).  Consider 5 pointers to nourish a satisfying relationship:

Unconditional Love & Compassion: How to have a satisfying relationship? Some say its key to always put your partner first. Yet, you cannot ignore yourself. Focus on what you are giving and how you are caring in balance with what you are receiving.  Express your needs in a way your partner can understand. If s/he does not get it, this may not be the right person for you.

Absolute Courage and Vulnerability: Love no matter what and commit to absolute truth. Treat someone else as you would have done unto you or treat your partner better to raise the bar on how you would like to be treated. The power of compliments, kind gestures and expressing love is often underestimated. Yet, if this baffles or overwhelms your partner, you may not see eye -to-eye and the relationship may drain rather than energize you.

Know the Truth: This is not about blaming. The key to extraordinary relationships is to know your partner’s soul and never make them wrong. Understand their needs, past hurts, behaviours and patterns. If it resonates, do what you can to satisfy their needs.  Yet, being a good partner in a relationship is also about feeling complete unto yourself without the other person. Know that you cannot satisfy each other's voids, only enrich each other.

Be Honest with yourself: Get conscious and commit to moment-to-moment awareness. Your state, body language, words and actions have a direct and potentially lasting impact on your relationship.

Giving Freedom: The power of forgiving, forgetting is profound. There is a saying: if you give a bird freedom and he comes back, he is yours. If the bird never comes back, he was never yours.  This is not about possession but rather about free will.  Create a safe space for your partner to make honest mistakes and make them feel that they can take comfort in a secure relationship. You cannot force anything. Satisfying relationships arise from giving partners the freedom to value you as you are or move on without imposing guitlt or coersion. 

Break down the barriers

Many people convince themselves they do not deserve to be happy.  This is an invitation to make peace with the past, to recognize and understand the nature of guilt so you can let it go.  Ask why you desire to punish yourself.  Guilt and grief are psychological barriers to the peace and harmony you already have but choose not to see.  Choose to see your own inner beauty.  Harmonize with everything. Transition is seemless.  Reframe the unfolding path of your life.

Get to the heart of guilt

Many people feel guilty about pleasing themselves. Your misery and your joy are independent of what other people are doing or saying. What is at the heart of your feelings of guilt? Why do you feel guilty about wanting freedom? Consider the essence of being, or, the energy being you are, is already free. Consider why it serves you to temporarily forget. How are you expanding back into who you are? Consciousness is aware of non-physical reality and dimensions beyond the physical. You are raising awareness of all that is without fear now. Get to the heart of your guilt and it easily melts away.

Choose eternity over time

What ego wants, you come to expect. Why is that? What can you do from this moment to shift focus?

Any decision of the mind affects both behaviour and experience. Consider feelings that ground you in a sense of physical time. Guilt may trigger regret, and evoke fears like retaliation or abandonment. Ego may convince you the future simply repeats the past. What if nothing the ego perceives is interpreted correctly?

As you step back and witness ego, notice its judgment of what is worthy makes something worthy for you. Notice only loving thoughts are timeless.  To rediscover a sense of eternity reminds you who you are.

Let go of the prison you imagine

Many people look into the mirror and assume they have reasons to feel guilt or other negativity.  They hear echos of what other people tell them they are and forget to listen to their inner voice. They lose themselves in the illusion of the game.  They forget how it feels to have complete awareness, to see through the fog.  Instead, they twist and distort who they are, and lose themselves in turmoil.

It is the moment to return to who you are.  You bring love and joy with you wherever you go.  All of this is felt as you choose to let go of the prison you imagine.  You may be searching for a purpose, and to do so, you live vicariously through the experiences of other people. Open yourself to discover everything you admire in others is within you.  Understanding comes from the heart.

As you open inside, you are receptive to harmony, balance and light.  As you choose to let go of beliefs and thoughts of what you are not, you recognize the meaning in all experiences.  They all empower you to attune to love.  No ideas fit into this space.  Relinquish all beliefs. Lose the self you adopted and remember to feel the flow of vibrations now. This is how to align and Transform Your Life.