3 Steps to transform your life

Many people ask what they can do to change their unfulfilling conditions and by extension, alleviate anxiety and intense emotion.  Getting the most out of coaching or mentoring relates to exploring key attitudes or beliefs. Consider 3 questions to get to the root of the matter and consciously transform your life:

Question 1: What do you really want right now?

While each person sees things in unique ways, a satisfying life is commonly based on three things:

• Transforming dreams into reality (getting measurable "results")
• Finding joy in what arises; harnessing power to understand, appreciate existence at the deepest level
• Realizing life is happening through us and for us rather than to us. (taking responsibility for our thoughts, feelings as well as our power to change them, change how we respond to the external)

Question 2: What prevents you from having/ getting what you want?

Only three things prevent you from having anything you want:

• You lack clarity about what it is you really want
• You are missing/ unaware of the proven tools and strategies
• Your resistance stands in in the way of allowing  (inner conflicts exist- energy is out of alignment)

The biggest problem for most people is looking for ways to solve their problems instead of focusing on creating the life they want – a life of their own design. For coahing and mentoring to guide you effectively to a new way of being, start with what you want instead of thinking about what you don’t want. (Focus on outcomes)

Question 3: How do you change life in this moment?

An integrated approach can take your journey to the next level so you live the best version of yourself.  This implies you

• come to recognize your own patterns (make the unconccious conscious)
• are willing to take steps to make new choices (step outside the familliar/ break patterns),
• accept a different life is possible for you. 

Make yourself vulnerable & Live fully

Notice we are often conditioned to believe that getting up close and personal, making ourselves vulnerable, can evoke significant discomfort and suffering. The surprising thing is, its precisely doing what evokes discomfort that builds strength and resilience. What we seek is right here within. Its closer than we think. The truth is self-evident. We must simply be willing to step outside our comfort zone to remember what enables us to feel most alive. Marcel Proust reminds us, "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new lands but seeing with new eyes." 

Heal conflict naturally

Notice from the moment conflicts of the external world are recognized as symbolic of the conflicts within consciousness, we are no longer fazed or disturbed by events. Rather, we shift into a sense of energy flow. To expand consciousness is to rise energetically, and bring or reframe the whole world, which is the vibration of your thought. This can only happen as you purify ego consciousness. To be drawn out or extricated from adversity is to go beyond family, religious, socio-cultural context, to individuate, to leave behind the known, or easy comfort zone. We are invited to move forward on this journey alone. Sacrifical death and rebirth is where the identity of the ego is let go. Unless you come to face your own shadows, you continue to see them in others as the world outside simply mirrors what is inside. Shift instead to align with inner radiance.

5 Tips to Raise the Bar of Adventure

As human beings, we are taught to set goals and push our own boundaries. When we feel excited, we know we are listening to the heart.  Joe Vitale says, A good goal should scare you a little and excite you a lot. As we tune in, yhe same energy can be felt by fear or excitement, depending on where we focus our attention. We can allow fear to hold us back or, harness the energy of excitement and accept it can propel us forward.  Which direction resonates most? That is a choice we make moment-to-moment.

As author of The Secret, The Magic, The Power, and Hero, Rhonda Byrne echoes, Start telling the story of your amazing life, and the law of attraction must make sure you receive it !

Similarly, Vishen Lakhiani, visionary entrepreneur, trailblazer and author of The Code of the Extraordinary Mind, invites us each to listen to the non-conformist within and ground ourselves in a new trajectory. So, be bold and daring. Take these 7 Tips to Raise your Bar of Adventure to  a new level of excitement and peace of mind;

1. Imagine going somewhere new 

Whether its choosing to take a different route to a familliar destination, envisioning an exotic vacation, or travel beyond this world, it is life-transforming to step outside comfort zones. In my case, travel to over 65 countries has repeatedly brought me out of comfort zones, prompted me to face fears, expand my vision and be open to flow beyond physical worlds.  If you astral travel, know out-of-body experiences (OBEs), or other mystical experiences, imagine going further, deeper into new dimensions or future life progressions so you can bring some of that higher wisdom back to this lifetime. When we can dream it, something beyond us creates it.

2. Imagine being something new

Whether or not we believe in reincarnation, shapeshifting or transforming into superheros, what if changing form is a real possibility?  Part of us cannot escape our mind.  We may wish to turn it off sometimes. Yet,  parts of us are always changing. Our cells are constantly dying and replacing themselves. Our thoughts, beliefs and emotions change regularly. Whether and how we respond to change varies. Bruce Lee says, "[We] must be shapeless, formless, like water. When [we] pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup...."  If we have never imagined something like this could happen, take stories and night dreams to heart. Ask how often we live vicariously through fictional characters, imagine being someone or something else?  We may not awaken in fear as a bug like the protagonist in Kafka's, The Metamophosis.  Rather, we may awaken to love in such a way as what we see and feel within adn around us is radically different. Closing our eyes is a step to imagining new states of being. The wind and voice of the Soul guide us.

3. Create new learning opportunities for our kids

What if we could create unique opportunities for our kids to learn and also allow them to teach us? As teen phenomenon singer Grace VanderWaal echoes,  See[ing] Clearly  happens as we consciously create while accepting those things we cannot change.  In my own reality, as a child, I read in a magazine about a highschool that took place on a tall ship that sailed the globe for a year, stopping at exotic ports.  Although that experience did not pan out for me, it inspired me to find and participate in a unique summer camp for Kids of the World where I did circus training and other activities beyond my Wildest Dreams.  As I stretched myself, I used my ingenuity to create opportunities abroad, won scholarships to unique institutions, even attended International Space University (ISU) and explored roles and travel at different life stages. Listening to my Soul prompts me to shake up my life again, drop everything and move 2000km with my family for a school I sense resonates with my kids at this point in their lives.  

4.  Interact with Inspirations

What if connecting more deeply and listening to our true selves is the key to activating what is dormant inside us?  What is this is what revitalizes us and truly gives life meaning? We may describe this as accessig and realizing untapped potential, switching on dormant energetic systems or something else. At some stage, we are each drawn to mentors in this world and even Spiritual or Ascended Masters beyond to empower us to see them as shadows of ourselves. Living in integrity brings freedom and also brings new levels of responsibility. In my case, during self-directed doctoral research, I listed all the leaders and managers I wished to interview, found out where they would be and when, communicated directly or found ways to get myself to attend events where they would be. In total, I interviewed 1500 people in public and private sectors in 10 countries, having created a pioneering exercise in strategic diplomacy. I continue to envision who I wish to interact with, such as imagining fictional characters  as dinner, guests, as well as feel intuitively drawn to interview individuals who help me better understand myself.  Where some people aspire to be evolve into more spiritual side, I am evolving to feel more grounded.

5. Share our revelations

Each of us is on a unique journey in this world, growing aware and integrating unique downloads that are worthy of sharing through our own perspective.  As we uncover our calling, uncover our evolving purpose, this is about embracing our own authority. It also nudges each of us to share our revelations, that is, what is illuminating inside of us that can enrich others. We can share ourselves though media, books, worskshops, seminars, offering courses, though setting examples like living simply, sharing uplifting vibrations and love or other means that feel right now.  Being limitless implies we allow and accept we deny or accelerate our own breakthroughs. 

3 reasons to trust yourself more

What would you say that if every moment, you have the option to view every event of your life as a stepping stone to the unforeseen? What if you begin to view right where you are as a pivotal moment, a turning point, to competely shifting your sense of reality? Have you ever said to yourself: what if I had the courage to make life choices that bring me closer to experiencing my ideal life? First, you would need to know what that ideal life is or feels like.  Clarifying this vision is easier than imagined. Visions evolve with us.  Consider three reasons to trust yourself more:

1. Sense that the feeling of "risk" changes

At different life stages, we create and grow aware of different kinds of comfort zones.  Creating dreams is one way we concretize or challenge our comfort zones.  We constantly ask ourselves, how far are we willing to go to realize dreams or reach certain goals? In other words, what am I willing to risk or sacrifice  in order to change some experience or overcome fear of inadequacy? 

Invite you to view an example:  'my biggest risk ever' post series.

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“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us." 

-Marianne Williamson

2. Act to have no regrets

Regardless of ares of life you contemplate, the key to growth is to make choices that allow you to push the envelope.  That is, desirable action is that which does not have you asking, what would have happened if I had done that? Reflect on when you trust or doubt instincts, hesitate or go down unfamilliar paths. What is the universe inviting me to do if my job is no longer? or you are restless where you are? Only you know how it feels if you are holding yourself back or moving forward. 

3. Do the unthinkable

Have a you ever reached a stage in your life where you feel ready or willing to move away from much or all you know? Maybe this involves letting go or moving on from relationships you outgrow, changing job or career, somehow taking things to reach a whole new level.  Points of reference form your identity or sense of security. Letting go is a process.  To develop greater fearlessness requires you take steps to stretch yourself, do the unthinkable, venture into more of the unknown. If you have ever changed jobs, moved house, or considered other big changes, you know the feeling of fear can also be felt as excitement. Reflect on examples of big changes you have made or are making. Are these proactive or reactive behaviours? What do you feel and what is being reflected back in responses from people around you?

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**As I write this post, I am preparing to move 5000km with my family. This is a symptom of shifting priorities, trusting intuition more fully and being more authentic. This path involves finishing renovations to get ready for house sale, letting go of what is outgrown or no longer used, researching school and new home options while being increasingly transparent, open and deepening connections.  All of this is clarifying a new path. 

Any changes in or discomfort you feel about your external world reflects ongoing internal shifts. Although I have moved many times before, this current experience takes things to a whole new level for me. What would take things to a whole new level for you in this world? What grounds you, enables you to feel human?

Awakening cannot be learned...it is a process of growth...it's what happens when you grow through total living.  Its born of living in total awareness. -Isira