Top 9 Things People Desire

In an email survey, I asked willing participants:

"If you could say in one word what you want more of in life, what would that be?"

Among the responses, those desired most are those listed below witha. few highlighted comments. I share my take on these points, and suggest why people often feel can’t get enough of the elusive experiences or states. See which stand out for you.  Leave a comment about your feelings and experience:

1: Happiness

Biggest challenge: “Not knowing what I want to do.”

Many seek to achieve happiness as if its a carrot on the end of s stick, or find it hard to keep once experienced. In my professional work, I’ve seen that happiness often escapes people if (1) they find it hard to define happiness and  2) they are taught the key is external. As a result, happiness is a perpetual moving target.

2: Abundance

Biggest challenge: “Not having enough money or time to accomplish the things I want to do.”

I’ve interested with people of diverse walks of life. In many cases, regardless of what we earn, we somehow feel we never have enough.  The question is: how much money do you really need to feel fulfilled? And what other views on wealth and abundance stand out? if you want more money, do you understand the key principles and behaviors required to generate it? Its important to review your money "story."

3: Freedom

Biggest challenge: “Having the freedom to find my ‘true purpose’ or being lit up by the day-to-day at work.”

Ah, freedom. We all want it, yet so many people I meet are resistant to doing what’s required to get it. 

What is necessary to experience freedom? I’ve seen that it requires making yourself right (not wrong), following your own authentic values and beliefs, and building strong boundaries to protect yourself from what others will tell you is right for you or try to force on you. And it takes forging your own path in life and work, despite challenges and rejection. It requires boldness and courage to make yourself your own highest authority.  Connecting with inner passion and commitment are stepping stones to rediscovering freedom.

4: Peace

Biggest challenge: “Lack of clarity about who I am and my purpose.”

We long for peace,. Peace from noise, chatter, pressure, responsibilities. We also want peace from the painful thumping inside our own heads – the conflicts and strain we inflict on ourselves every minute to be better, stronger, smarter (prettier, thinner, better parents, _______ [you fill in the blank]).

Peace, I’ve found, doesn’t come from being better at anything, or even figuring anything out. Attaining peace is a practice that we need to cultivate, regardless of what's going on. We have to carve out space within ourselves and in our lives to tune into peace, do the work to expand peace as a feeling and commit to it. You don’t have to know your purpose to be at peace – you just have to commit to being at peace, and building daily practices.

5: Joy

Biggest challenge: “How to find the right role or position for me now that will bring joy in my work.”

I’ve observed how the process of stepping up to our highest potential and honoring our best visions for contributing to the world in a meaningful way does indeed pave the way for more joy. I believe (and have lived) that we simply can’t feel joy in our lives if the work we do pains us. We’re not able to effectively separate who we are from what we do (and why would we want to?).

So when you’re stuck in work you hate, with people you don’t respect, supporting outcomes that feel wrong to you, then your life as a whole can’t help but be joyless, even if your personal or family life brings you happiness. Joy emerges as you ar authentic and simply be true to yourself.

6: Balance

Biggest challenge: “Balancing my need/desire for flexibility while making enough money and having the benefits I want.”

I’ve researched work-life balance extensively, and believe that it’s doable only under one condition: that you  honour your priorities. It takes understanding your non-negotiables (what you won’t compromise on, what you won’t say “yes” to), and then living from that knowledge, and making the "right" decisions that align with your top life priorities. If you can’t do that, you can’t create or sustain balance.

7: Fulfillment

Biggest challenge: “Utilizing my potential in the best possible way, for myself and for others.”

Fulfillment can be defined as this: “Satisfaction or happiness as a result of fully developing one’s abilities or character.” We simply can’t experience fulfillment if we’re not living up to what we know is our highest and best potential. Have you ever settled for something much less than you know you want or deserve? It hurts – a lot.

It dawns we must leave our comfort zones, and identity, and the stories we tell ourselves about what we’re capable of, so that we can become the person we dream to be. We may also need to leave some people and relationships behind (the ones that don’t support us to soar higher and grow because it threatens them).

Fulfillment is possible when you are filling up your cup, honoring your own potential, not forsaking yourself by putting everyone else in front of you. Fulfillment comes when you take bold actions that say “yes” to the future vision of you, even well before it’s “hatched.”

8: Confidence

Biggest challenge: “Feeling like I have something to offer now, rather than feeling constantly as if I’m not ready and need more training.”

I’ve seen in working with many people and in my former therapy and corporate work, that we humans only see what’s at the tip of our noses. When we’re in situations that are hurtful, demeaning, challenging, we sometimes lose confidence, forget who we are  We're often taught that it's not advisable to think for ourselves, and we shouldn't follow our own path if it conflicts with the values of our "tribe." In short, we're taught not to believe that we can govern our own lives well if we don't listen to our authority figures, family members, teachers and others around us.  that keeps us stuck living someone else's life, is extremely damaging and severely limits our potential and our happiness. Confidence comes from acknowledging our own magnificence.

9: That which we cannot put our finger on

"This is the intangible"

The reality is that it's a tough world out there, with many challenges we're simply not prepared to face. But throughout those challenges, there are countless ways we can remain true to ourselves, leverage our gifts, and foster our self-esteem and passion for life and work. And we can continually build our confidence, happiness, and fulfillment, despite these challenges. For that, we need an abundance of self-love, and also support from others who don't want to tell us what to do, but instead, want to help us follow our own, internal value system and beliefs. And we need to believe in ourselves without fail, despite the evidence around us that says we’re not “ready” to soar in creating what we long to.

8 Steps to Activate your Light Body

Many people ask about how to activate thier light body. Consider these 6  Steps & Practices:

1. Meditation & Stillness

Focus on the peace within, even in busy situations, to expand your light field.  Energy Meditation: Use deep breathing (inhale light, exhale heavy energy) and visualize energy flowing through your body.  

2. Body Scan

Gently focus awareness on different body parts, from toes to head, feeling inside each area.

3. Breathwork (Pranayama):

Deep, Slow Breaths: Inhale through the nose, exhale through the mouth, visualizing light entering and leaving. Explore a range of breathwork with a facilitator.

4, Naval Breathing.

Yoga breathing such as breath of fire is about exhaling forcefully from your navel.

5. Visualisations:

Rainbow Light: Imagine brilliant rainbow light pouring from the sky, through you (especially the heart center), and into the earth.

Crystal Form: Picture yourself as a clear quartz crystal, illuminated by this divine light.

6. Mind Movement and alignment (mind body spirit)

Posture: Stand with feet aligned, pelvis tucked, shoulders back, and spine straight, feeling energy flow.Dynamic Poses: Gentle yoga or movement (like opening the chest, squatting) can energize the body.

7. Energy & Intention:

Set Intentions: Clearly state your goal to connect with your inner light.

Activate Energy Centers: Work with chakras and energy points (heart, third eye, pineal gland).

8. Nourish a Healthy Lifestyle:

Reduce Stress: High stress drains energy needed for activation.

Nourish Your Body: Eat well, exercise, and limit alcohol/smoking. 

 By combining these and smilar techniques, you cultivate a more vibrant, energetic, and spiritually connected experience, allowing your "light body" to develop and operate more fully. 

10 Tips to Transform your Relationship

People approach me to address discomfort  and restlessness they experience in their relationships. You may experience a partner or child who is angry, stand-offish and feel alienated for varied reasons. This can be the start of a deep dive into many issues that currently baffle you. Reaching out for mentor support can be helpful.

Wherever you are at, there exist things you can do yourself to begin to get yourself on track. Heed 10 tips to transform from inside out: 

1. Create the vision for your relationship and yout life

 2. Recall or relearn to truly love yourself.

3. Be open to what could change your perspective.

4. Find courage to uncover self-created obstacles and blind spots.

5. Grow awareness and explore causes of behaviour patterns.

6. Learn to create emotional safety for yourself (then others).

7. Become your own source of enouragement.

8. Discover what your emotional needs are and how to meet them.

9. Accept you are the cause of how you see things and can turn this around.

10. Tke full responsibility for your thoughts, words and feelings. 

12 Attitudes of Self Mastery

12 Attitudes of Mastery

1. LOVE – Recognition of the TRUTH of the ALL-ONE-ness

2. GRACE – Allowing the ALL-ONE-ness to Be what IT IS regardless of whether it suits you. Living Perpetual Forgiveness.

3. GRATITUDE – Appreciating the ALL-ONE-ness; knowing your Alive-ness.

4. REVERENCE – RESPECT – Acknowledging and giving to the ALL-ONE-ness.

5. RESPONSIBILITY – Co-Creating with, Serving and being able to Respond to
the ALL-ONE-ness.

6. TRUST – Knowing the Power and Love of the ALL-ONE-ness.

7. ACCOUNTABILITY – Being in a state of TRUTH with the ALL-ONE-ness.

8. IMPECCABILITY – Upholding and Protecting the ALL-ONE-ness.

9. MINDFULNESS – Loving, Nurturing, and Being Attentive to the ALL-ONE-ness.

10. FEARLESSNESS – Recognizing the Eternal Infinite Nature and Unconditional Love of the ALL-ONE-ness.

11. DETACHMENT – Permitting the ALL-ONE-ness to BE without assigning Critique, Condemnation or Value Judgment; understanding the IS-ness of and Validating the ALL-ONE-ness.

12. JOY – Choosing to BE the embodied ALL-ONE-ness.

13 Steps to Restore Creative Sexual Power

Much information circulates about the nature of creative sexual power, societal misunderstandings, misuse and exploitation of sexual energy. Heavy emotions like fear, shame and guilt can hijack attention away from the original purpose of the human womb and also what it has the potential to birth from this moment.  Imagine the power of womb can birth or manifest anything. It is the channel between non-physical and physical realms.

This article invites not necessarily celibacy or extreme indulgence. Its about creative sexual power as an expression of love.  Many carry mental, psychological and energetic wounds (especially related to the bottom three chakras- root, sacral, solar plexus). These wounds stem from events their own lives and sometimes energetic residue from unresolved ancestral wounds as overlays.

The state of creative sexual power is also felt in collective human consciousness.  Many men and women are shifting energetically. Some are outgrowing relationships and unconscious behaviours.  People often ask how they can restore or replace what was lost or forgotten, tap into untapped energy,  how they can revitalize or redirect sexual power in different endeavours. This is about consciously accessing the ultimate source of creation.

It is important to recongize that both men and woman have energetic wombs from which they have the power to create amazing things. This can relate to children, but also relates to the power of manifesting on many other levels widely forgotten or overlooked.

Consider 12 ways you can explore how to restore and expand from creative sexual power:

1. Return to innocence

This is about focusing on the right or "soulful" relationship with source. Know that your sexual energy is a life force energy that is under your conscious stewardship. You decide where to direct it, what you are creating. Decide that how you use it flows in alignment with your Higher Self and heartfelt truth. 

2.  Grow aware of external programs 

This includes societal, cultural, religious, familial, romantic and other. The original notion of true pleasure and power arises in using creative sexual power to bring one into unity with the creator within.

3. Regard the womb as your temple.

We often hear the body is your temple. Tune into the belly button and pelvic area.  Use breath, touch, prayer and spiritual practices to recognize the womb space as sacred. Close your eyes. Place your hand on your belly.  Remind yourself how it feels as the belly rises and falls. You channel life energy into the world via every breath.

4. Clear past lovers' trauma and implants

This can be done with intention, sound, support, community circles and spiritual practices.  This can be helped by immersing in nature, reconnecting with Gaia, revisiting the meanings of divine symbols.

5. Heal scalar shields

Perform meditations and focus attention on the areas of concern. This often involves healing sacral and heart distortions in the energy fields. This can be part of a soul retrieval process that helps align soul fragments stuck in past experiences of trauma loops. This is about inviting whole Oversoul self to hold space for repatterning.

6. Reclaim your Womb

This is about reversing soul contracts, attachments, severing energetic cords to past partners that are no longer aligned, and facing dark shadows with love and light.

7. Burn dependency templates and false projections

Sometimes we find ourselves in destructive, co-dependent or narcissistic situations. To grow aware of this is part of awakening. Shifting your paradigm requires an understanding of your whole being, why patterns arise and how to heal yourself to transcend them. Holistic healing approaches regard everything as frequency alignment or misalignment. Watch priorities shift.

8. Returning to the body innocence without an agenda

Allow sensuality to be a dance, a prayer of the sacred, to not see it as a performance with expectations.  Body movement, breathwork, plant medicine, holistic therapies offer ways that can help release shame-based programming. Use discernment with facilitators. 

9. Unite pleasure with the heart 

Come to see arousal or orgasm are not separate from heartfelt presence. This is about staying in the physical body. Speak words of truth and trust during consenusal sexual exploration. Watch what happens as every sexual experience arises from a torus of coherence within yourself. This builds a sense of safety and security.

10. Stop leaking life force in porn and emotionally unavailable partners.

You can grow more aware of the nature and stimulus of your sexual arousal. Are you numbing out from anything? Is how you channel sexual creative energy unconscious? Learn to seal your auric field energy after encounters. Withdraw energy from distorted grids. use discernment and maturity to make choices that are inalignment with your soul rather than ego-driven intentions and desires.

11. Pray befpre pleasure.

This is not related to religious doctrine. It is about being in touch with yourself, feelingcomforatble gazing into the eyes of your partner, sharing your true feelings and not sharing your body with just anyone on a whim. Call in the soul and oversoul before a sexual encounter. If it resonates, grow familiar with base 12 techniques. Seal the field. Recognize that when you enter into intimate communion with someone, this act is also about connecting and healing the Earth on an energetic level. 

12.  Speak about needs and attarction without shame on more than a superficial level.  

Whether celebate or in conscious intimate union with another, erotic truth is spoken and clearly understood as an act of planetary recalibration. Its not a personal ego-driven experience we create or pursue out of self interest. It helps to have an understanding of the soulful meaning of the 7 "enemies "( pride, greed, wrath, envy, lust, gluttony, and sloth) and their counterparts. Move beyond distorted perception of human incarnation. Only then can one move beyond the reincarnation loop and understand the bigger picture.

13. Create your own pleasure codes.

State what you will and will not allow into your life, what you will no longer tolerate and what you are inviting. You could create a a personal prayer to direct or redirect personal creative sexual energy. This is about recognizeing you are your own source of wisdom, allowing or resisting. It is about reclaiming sovereignty, control over your body-mind and what you accept. It is about understanding the root of fear. You could decide that all acts of harnessing and directing creative sexual power are light activiations to heal earth. Define coherence as alignment in thought, word and action.