12 Ways to master your fear

Resistance is fear in disguise. It has the power to stop you dead in your tracks, stagnate your growth, limit your perception and understanding. Notice specific experiences you reach for or deny yourself right now. Whenever you say you postpone anything, far more is going on.  

Hesitation is fear in action. Fear arises when something threatens your comfort zone. You may tell yourself you do not have the time, the money, the freedom, the right mindset, adequate insight, to take advantage of what is presenting. Its all fear taking shape as excuses. Telling yourself why you cannot do something simply reinforces the fear that holds you hostage. The moment is here to address this and move through it.  

Review these 12 ways to master your fear:

1. Shift focus from the future

Your fear is always about assumptions on what’s going to happen next. Thus, your fear is always about that which does not exist. If your fear is about the non-existent, your fear is completely unfounded, imaginary. The future is always pointing and guiding you to the present moment where intuition is the most reliable guide. If you have the urge to act, fear only holds you back if you are unconscious to the mind's tricks.

2. Decide why you are here

You must decide whether you are on this planet to experience life or avoid life. If you exist to experience life, intensity is required. Without it, you are not living fully. Using fear as a tool to protect yourself reduces the energy flow available to you to create. Once the visceral is gone, you are no longer really living.  You only live based on mental ideas or heresay. You cannot experience anything fantastic and ecstatic.  When you are fearful, you cannot experience wild abandon. You cannot sing, dance, laugh, cry, fall inor lose yourself in love. You cut yourself off from what makes you feel alive. You only sit, grieve, regret not taking risks. 

3. Get comfortable with the unknown

Admit it.  You are taught to feel comfortable with the familliar, with what is predictable, or  perceived 'normal' though no such thing exists.  The more you accept life is energy in motion where nothing is permanent or predictable, the more you realize you are living with the unknown every moment and doing just fine. Be conscious of this and watch your perception of fear transform into excitement about the unknown.

4.  Let go of the urge to control

HUmans are taught that unless we can exert control, we must fear. But is it possible to ever have control? Even if you can swim, you can drown. A professional musician or experienced chef can still make mistakes. Give up the illusion of control, and you are free.

5.  Surrender

Surrender to what is is powerful, even if it seems 'way out there.' because as long as we try to change what is, we allow the mind's filtered version of reality convince us that is real.  In doing so, we cut oursleves off from far more.

6. Get rooted in reality

When you are not rooted (grounded) in reality, suffering happens. Suffering is always about that which does not exist.  When not rooted in reality, you are always rooted in your mind. Mind is – one part of it is memory, another part of it is imagination. Both of them are in one way imagination, because both of them don’t exist right now. You’re lost in your imagination, that’s the basis of your fear. If you were rooted in reality, there would be no fear.  If you are suffering the non-existential, we call that insanity. So, people may be in just socially accepted levels of insanity, but if you’re afraid or if you’re suffering anything which does not exist, it amounts to insanity,

7. Consult a Life Coach 

Do you fear success or fear failure? A good life coach can help you examine what you truly want from life, and guides you to pinpoint the true origin of your fears. Its crucial to be clear on what you really want and what is actually holding you back.  Commit to loving the process.

8. Read & Listen

Reading a book, scanning relevant webpages or listening to podcasts that touch on your specific fear can open new doors on how you can get rid of it. Access motivational and inspirational work or glimpses of workshops about topics you recognize you are avoiding.

9. Get into the flow

Inactivity can be a sign from your inner guidance system telling you that you still have preparation to do. If you tell yourself you cannot do something due lack of income, it helps to see everything as the flow of the same energy.  Taking action to generate income begins with loving yourself and being true to who you are. Loving more, doing what you love and seeing everything as energy in motion, allows flow to happen. 

10. Watch films & Youtube videos

Watching a movie, documentary or Youtube videos can be eye-opening. Sometimes it’s nice to distract yourself from your fear, but if you really want to, you can find loads of movies on the fear you’re dealing with and empower yourself to see your fear from a completely new perspective.

11. Identify the lesson

Fears are pointers to lessons we create for soul growth. Overcoming fear involves learning related lessons and moving ahead.  The Path of life is about identifying lessons, accepting and expressing more of yourself. This shapes all areas of your life; relationships, career, and far more.

12. Model a master

Connect with a person or people who have experienced the fear you have and also moved beyond it.  Spend time with them, ask how they did it, and explore whether this approach could work for you.  Discuss the nature of the process. You can learn a lot about yourself and the emerging master within.

Comments

[Mandy]

This post is very helpful. Please comment further on how to address lingering inner struggle. I question whether I wish to be where I am.

[Liara]

Hi Mandy. Thanks for your comment. Human beings are taught to put up a facade, to portray themselves in the world as something they are not. Often, this masks unconscious avoidance of Self. When you lie to yourself, you always struggle inside. When you put yourself in a situation which is beyond your wit or want, a situation beyond your capabilities or understanding which you are not ready for, then you suffer insecurity and fear. With fear can arise malevolent thoughts. Give somebody something beyond what they deserve, they get mean-minded because somewhere inside, they feel inadequate and do not want anyone to know. They thus put on a big act. When you sit in a certain space, feel a certain energy, simply sit and allow everything to unfold without judgement, memory or expectation. As you get out of your own head, grow into higher possibilities, everything possible happens to you. If you only aspire to what you have not experienced directly, then you bring trouble upon yourself. Rest assured, to doubt is a good state to be in for you are seeking and do not limit yourself to specific conclusions.

[Anne]

Great piece. Can you suggest other ways a person can get more grounded in the now?

[Liara]

Hi Anne. Glad the post resonates. Your breath (breathing itself) grounds you in the Now. Focus here to anchor more in this moment. Meditation sharpens the senses. Listen to the silence and begin to see through even the most pervasive fears.

[Denise Norwood]

I am astonished at the relevancy and timing of this piece as related to my current situation. Thank you to Liara for the WordMagic. Xo

[Elsie]

This article prompts me to wonder whether fear could be the underlying cause of my health issues. Please comment on this idea.

[Liara]

Hi Denise. Every experience you have stems back to the choice between love and fear. Always choose in favor of love. Things that do not seem to be working in your life are because you are afraid you are not enough, afraid you are going to get hurt, afraid history has to repeat, afraid you are less than worthy. None of this is true. Everything you fear is illusion. Your mission here is to see through your self-created illusions and live a life where love is in charge.

[Liara]

Elsie, the vibration of fear is indeed the trigger for imbalance that manifests in many different ways, including health issues. Physical imbalance is always a symptom of something going on energetically (in the etheric).