Be the quantum reality

Notice the moment arises when everything you have ever seen registers in a completely new way. It suddenly dawns that it was all guiding you here, to this focus here, to what may seem to manifest as new conditions, opportunities, a fresh start, a different mindset. Come what may, perceived change is simply an external recalibration of energy we detect as we tune into as inner harmony. Experiences of things can change. Be the quantum leap. The one unified reality is unchanging, patiently waiting for us to catch up. Who is willing to take this journey more consciously?

1. Live every day with a fresh new start. Don’t be held back by what happened yesterday, the day before, the week before, the year before, or even decades ago. Life is short, so live in the present moment.
2. Be true to who you are. Stop trying to please other people or to be someone else. It’s better to be an original version of yourself rather than be an exact duplicate of someone else.
3. Quit complaining. Don’t be like the howling dog, always howling and never doing anything. Stop complaining about your problems and work on them instead.
4. Be proactive. Stop waiting for others around you to do something and take action yourself instead.
5. Rather than think “what if,” think “next time.” Don’t think about the things you can’t change. Instead, focus on the things you can act on. That’s the most constructive thing you can do in any situation.
6. Focus on WHAT vs. How. Focus on WHAT you want first before you think about HOW to do it. Anything is possible if you set your mind, heart, and soul to it.
7. Create your opportunities. You can wait for opportunities, or you can get out there and create your own. The latter is definite and much more empowering.
8. Live consciously each day. Stop sleepwalking through life. Your life is something to be experienced, not coasted through.
9. Be committed to your growth. Take courses. Self-reflect. Build on your strengths. Don’t rely on the feeling of familiarity but focus on what will enable you to grow the most.
10. Know your inner self. This means knowing who you are and what you represent. Be clear about your identity. Read: Finding Your Inner Self
11. Discover your life purpose. Set the mission statement for your life, one that will drive you to live your life to the fullest. Read: How To Find Your Life Purpose (7-part series)
12. Live in alignment with your purpose. What can you start doing immediately that will let you live 100% in alignment with your purpose? How can you live true to your purpose within every situation you are in, every second of the day?
13. Set your life commandments. Define your personal commandments to live your best life. What adages and principles do you want to follow in your life?
14. Discover your values. Values are the essence of what makes you, you.
15. Hold yourself to the highest conduct. Every one of us has our own set of ethics and principles. Live true to them every day. Also, live in full alignment with your purpose (#12), commandments (#13), and values (#14).
16. Stop putting life on hold. Are you putting any parts of your life on hold? What is one area of your life you have been putting off, avoiding, or denying? Uncover that and start working on it.
17. Create your life handbook. Your life handbook is your manual to live your best life. It contains your mission statement, values, goals, personal strengths, blind spots, and action plans. Start with a few basic pages, and then build on them.
18. Design your ideal life. What is your ideal life? Design it. Firstly, assess your life via the life wheel. Then, ask yourself what it takes to live a 10/10 life. What is the life that will make you shout for joy? There are no limits in life — only those you set for yourself!
19. Set your goals. After you design your ideal life, set your 5-year, 3-year, and 1-year goals. The more specific they are, the better!
20. Take action on your goals and dreams. Create an action plan for your goals and work on it!
21. Create your bucket list, which is a list of things to do before you die. Then, get out there to achieve them.
22. Don’t do things for the sake of doing them. Always evaluate what you’re doing and only do it if there is meaning behind them. Don’t be afraid to quit the things that don’t serve your path.
23. Do the things you love because life is too precious to be doing anything else. If you don’t enjoy something, then don’t do it. Spend your time and energy on things that bring you fulfillment and happiness.
24. Discover your passion in life. What sets you on fire? Go out there to discover what you love to do. Read: How To Know What You Want To Do In Life
25. Make your passion a full-fledged career. Then, start pursuing it. Stop working in a job you feel passionless about. Quit your job when you are ready to do it full-time. Read: How To Pursue Your Passion (series)
26. Turn your passion into a huge success. Turn your passion into a multi-million dollar business. Better yet, make it a multi-billion dollar one.
27. Learn from criticism. Be open to criticism but don’t be affected by it. Criticism is meant to help you be a better person. Learn from it. Watch: 5 Tips To Deal With Negative Criticism [Video]
28. Be positive. Is the glass half empty or half full? What if I say it’s neither? It’s actually all full — the bottom half is water and the top half is air. It’s all a matter of perception. Take on perceptions that empower you, not those that bind you. If you can see the positive side of everything, you’ll be able to live a much richer life than others.
29. Don’t badmouth other people. If there’s something you don’t like about someone, say it to his/her face — otherwise, don’t say it at all. It’s not nice to badmouth others, and it also reflects a small mind.
30. Be empathetic. If everyone only sees life from his/her perspective, we’ll forever be close-minded and insular. See things from others’ shoes.
31. Be compassionate. Show compassion and kindness to everyone around you.
32. Develop 100% self-belief. Believe in yourself and your abilities. Remove your limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones (In Days 26-27 of Be a Better Me in 30 Days, you identify your limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones). If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect others to believe in you? Read: How To Be The Most Confident Person In The World
33. Let go of unhappy past. This means past grievances, heartbreaks, sadness, disappointments, and anger.
34. Forgive those who have done you wrong in the past. This includes backstabbers, those who took credit for your achievements, and those who have done you wrong. “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and realize it was you.” — Lewis B. Smedes
    
35. Let go of attachments. Don’t get fixated on achieving a certain status, fame, wealth, or material possessions. These are impermanent and will ultimately disappear one day when you die. Focus on growing and living life to the fullest instead.
36. Let go of relationships that do not serve you. That means negative people, dishonest people, people who don’t respect you, people who are overly critical, and relationships that prevent you from growing.
37. Spend more time with people who enable you. Hang out with people whom you are compatible with: like-minded people and people who are positive, successful, and positive for your growth. You are after all the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
    
38. Build genuine, authentic connections with people around you — friends, family, colleagues, business partners, customers/clients, and acquaintances. Spend time to know them better and foster stronger connections.
39. Connect with an old friend. There is no end to the number of friends you can have. Reach out to people from the past.
40. Do a kind deed a day. What is something you can do today that will make the world a better place? Go and do it.
41. Help other people who are in need. Volunteering is one outlet. You can also start with your friends and family.
42. Help people when they least expect it, without reason. You don’t need any reason to help others. Do it because you want to. Share the love with everyone.
43. Go dating (if you’re single).
44. Fall in love. ♥ :) Read: How To Find Your Soulmate (7-part series)
45. Review your life. Set a weekly review to assess how you are doing for your goals. Review your purpose once every 3-6 months so that you know you’re on the right path.
46. Overcome procrastination. Procrastination is a huge waste of your time (and your life). Get rid of it once and for all. Read: How To Overcome Procrastination (5-part series)
47. 30 minutes a day. Set aside at least 30 minutes every day to work on a Quadrant 2 goal that, when you achieve it, will bring about the biggest fulfillment and happiness in your life.
48. Get out there and make new friends — whether at your workplace, online, or in social groups. Read: 10 Tips To Make New Friends and Cooped Up Indoors? Get a Life with These 7 Tips
49. Make deeper connections. Beyond making new friends, aim to make deeper connections. Read: How to Have More Best Friends in Life
50. Be your advisor (from the future). Imagine you’re the future you from 5 years later. How would you advise yourself? Write this advice down. Now, apply them.
51. Write a letter to your future self. Envision what you’ll be like in the future, one year from now. Write as much as you like. Now, seal it and put it in a safe place. Set a calendar appointment one year from now, so you’ll know to open when it’s time. Watch: Write a Letter to Your Future Self [Video]
    
52. Declutter. Start from your computer, then proceed to your work desk, your bedroom, and your home. When you throw unwanted stuff away, you make room for new things and new energy to enter your life.
53. Keep learning. There is something to learn from everything you see, hear, and experience. This includes your mistakes and past mishaps (if any). Learn to interpret each event objectively. Focus on what you can learn from it so that you can apply the lessons moving forward.
54. Keep developing yourself. Equip yourself with a huge breadth of knowledge. Learn different skills, pick up different hobbies, and study different fields.
55. Keep upgrading yourself. Equip yourself with a huge depth of knowledge. While you can usually only reach level 99 in video games, in real life you can level up to infinity. Go for further studies if need be. Develop your skills. Level up. Invest your >10,000 hours in each skill.
56. Try new things. What is something you would normally not do? Get out of your comfort zone to try something different. It can be something simple like taking a new bus route, trying a new food item, picking up a new hobby, or something bigger like studying in a different field, learning a new skill, and traveling to a country you’ll never visit. There are no limits (except whatever is illegal and morally wrong of course)!
57. Get yourself out there. (a) Get out there geographically. Go out, travel, and explore the world. Set sail into the sea. Go backpacking by yourself and visit as many countries as possible. Get on a road trip and visit all the places that you see during your trip. (B) Get out there situationally. Stop sticking to routines and comfort zones. Try something different. (c) Get out there in life. Stop watching TV and living vicariously through the TV characters. Go and live the life of your dreams.
58. Be the absolute best at what you do. Go for the #1 position in what you do. If you want to spend your time doing something, you might as well be the best at it!
59. Don’t settle. In the same vein as #58, don’t settle for less. Don’t settle for someone you don’t like as your partner. Don’t settle for a job you don’t like. Don’t settle for friends who make you feel like a lesser person. Don’t settle for a weight you are unhappy with. Go for what you really want.
60. Stretch yourself. What are you doing now? How can you achieve more? Set bigger goals. Explore your limits and break them.
61. Embrace new ideas. Don’t mentally limit yourself. Let your mind be a breeding ground for new ideas. Read: 25 Brainstorming Techniques
62. Create your inspirational haven. Turn your room into a place you love. Do the same for your work desk. Get rid of things that make you unproductive. Surround it with things that inspire you and trigger you into action. Read more: Create Your Inspirational Room
63. Behave as your ideal self will. All of us have an ideal vision of who we want to be. What is your ideal self like? How can you start to be your ideal self now?
64. Set your role models in life. With role models, you become much better than you can be by yourself. I am personally inspired by Oprah Winfrey (for how she has impacted millions of lives), Lady Gaga (for her talent and not being afraid to be different), Leonardo Dicaprio (for his dedication to his craft and his commitment to environmentalism), and many more. Seeing them and what they do reminds me of what I can be and what I can do, so they drive me to greater heights.
65. Get mentors/coaches. There’s no faster way to improve than to have someone work with you on your goals. Not only will they drive you to achieve more, but they’ll also share important advice which you can use to create even more success for yourself. Many of my clients approach me to coach them and the net result is this: they achieve significantly more progress and results than if they had worked alone.
66. Uncover your blind spots. The more you uncover, the more you grow, and the better you become. Read: Blind Spots In Personal Growth
    
67. Increase your consciousness. Having a high consciousness level means being able to transcend beyond fear-based reactions and make wise choices that positively impact everyone.
68. Ask for feedback. As much as we can try to uncover our blind spots (#66), there will be blind spots that we cannot identify. Asking for feedback gives us an added perspective about ourselves. Some people to approach are our friends, family, colleagues, boss, and even acquaintances. Day 17 of the Be a Better Me in 30 Days is about getting feedback from others to uncover our blind spots.
69. Generate passive income. Create passive income streams so that your income is not tied to the time you spend on work. Of course, you’ll continue to work, but only because you want to and not because you have to.
70. Help others live their best lives. There is no better way to grow than to help others grow. Ultimately, the world is one. We are all on this journey of life together.
71. Get married / Start your family / Have kids!
72. Improve the world. Many things in the world need your help and attention. Poverty. Disaster recovery. Illiteracy. Children in need. Depleting rainforests. Animal rescue. Endangered species. How can you do your part?
73. Spearhead a humanitarian cause or organization that you are passionate about.
74. Give more value than you receive. There is so much unspeakable joy that comes from giving. And when you give, you’ll find that you receive a lot more in return.
75. Be big-picture focused. You can either set your eyes on the big things or get hung up by the nitty-gritty details. The former will help you get a lot more out of life than the latter. Focus on your big rocks and put first things first.
76. Be clear about your end objective. What is the end goal you seek? Is the task that you’re working on bringing you there? If not, put it aside. As long as you keep working on tasks that match your end goal, you’ll eventually reach there.
77. Go the 80/20 route. For every goal you have, there are different paths to achieve it. Pick the 80/20 path, i.e. the most effective path that brings you to your goal with the least amount of effort. Read: The 80/20 Rule: How To Achieve More With Less In Life (3-part series)
78. Work on the 80/20 actions (Prioritize). As you embark on the 80/20 path for your goals, focus on the important tasks and cut out the less important ones. Work on the 20% actions that give you the 80% results.
79. Live in the moment. Do you often have a very busy mind? Calm your mind down. Be present. The only time you’re ever living is in this moment. Meditation helps remove mental clutter. Read: How To Meditate in 5 Simple Steps
80. Relish in the little moments. Snuggling under warm covers on a rainy day. Having ice cream on a hot day. A kiss with your loved one. Being with your best friend. A walk by the park. The breeze on your face. Quiet, alone time. Watching the sunrise/set. Soak in all these little moments of life. They are what make up your life.
81. Take a break. Being the best also requires you to take breaks when needed. Make sure you rest when needed. Doing so lets you walk the long road ahead.
82. Stop wanting things a certain way. I have a 3-part series on the downsides of perfectionism and how to overcome them. Be firm on your end goals and ideals, but let go of the obsession to have things done a certain way. You’ll realize that when you do so, you achieve what you want. Read: How To Overcome Perfectionism (3-part series)
    
83. Focus on creation. Think about what you can bring to the world and create that.
84. Don’t criticize or judge others. Respect others for who they are.
85. The only person you can change is yourself. Stop expecting others to behave in a certain way. Rather than demand that others around you change, focus on changing yourself. You’ll be happier and live a more fulfilling life this way.
86. Practice gratitude. Be grateful for everything you have today, and everything you will get in the future.
87. Express gratitude. Let the people who’ve touched you know about your gratitude towards them. You’ll be surprised what a little act like this can do. If you don’t tell them, they’ll never know.
88. Let loose and have fun. Sing at the top of your lungs. Dance in the rain. :D Run barefoot and feel the ground underneath your feet. Hug everyone you know. Release yourself of your self-imposed shackles and be free! :D
89. Get into nature. Many of us live in concrete jungles. Get out of the urban city environment and soak in the beauty of nature.
90. You have a choice. Recognize you always have a choice in how to live your life.
91. Laugh more. :D Are you reading this with a straight face? Smile and have fun. :D
92. Embrace change. The only thing that’s constant is change. Change means growth. Rather than resist change, learn to be versatile so you can make the best out of the changes that come. In fact, become an agent of change.
93. Be more risk inclined. Don’t be afraid to take risks. The bigger your risks, the bigger your return.
94. Embrace mistakes. The more mistakes you make, the more experienced you become, and the higher your chances of success. Make sure to identify lessons from each experience so that you can build on them.
95. Embrace disappointments. Many people try to avoid feeling disappointed. They develop a negative relationship with disappointment. However, disappointment is part and parcel of being human — it reflects your real emotions. Don’t resist it — instead, embrace it. Learn to channel your disappointment and turn it into positive energy. Read: How To Overcome Disappointment (4-part series)
96. Challenge your fears. All of us have fears. Fear of uncertainty, fear of public speaking, fear of risk… all these fears keep us in the same position and prevent us from growing. Rather than avoid your fears, recognize that they are the compass for growth. Address and overcome them. Read: 4 Reasons We Should Overcome Fear
97. Maximize your mind, body, heart, and soul. Living your best life requires you to maximize yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. If you are highly successful, have lots of money, have a big circle of friends, and are very spiritually aware but you neglect your physical health, that’s not living your life to the fullest. The same for other scenarios where you block off a part of yourself. Maximize all 4 aspects of you.
98. Be your best self. When we work on being better people, we live a richer life. Read: 101 Ways To Be a Better Person
99. Love yourself. You are the one constant in your life. Remember to always treasure and love yourself. ♥ You deserve nothing less. Read: How To Love Your Body
100. Love others. Be grateful to all the people around you because they help you grow. They enrich your life experience. Without them, your life would not be the same.
101. Finally, Love life. I find living to be a fascinating experience. How we’re all on earth with millions of species, 30,000 different life forms, and over 7 billion people, and everyone is thriving in their own way, existing, co-existing, and co-creating. There’s so much we don’t know out there and so much to be experienced that it’s just wonderful. As you live on earth, remember to love life. It’s the only way to live.

10 Tips to Live an Amazing Life

Life is a journey of endless opportunities, challenges, and uncertainties. To feel truly fulfilled, it is crucial to embody certain virtues that empower us to navigate through its twists and turns with grace and determination. Let us delve into the significance of 10 tips we can use in daily lives to enrich our life experience:

I. The Power of Diligence

Be diligent, attentive, and detail-oriented. Take pride in work.  Pay attention to the subtleties, and ensure that everything is done to the best of our ability. This virtue applies to personal & professional endeavours.

2. Redefine Success

Many people limit ideas of success to being meticulous and creating higher-quality endeavours. Commitment to excellence certainly earns respect and admiration.  Yet, to accept self fully is to know and reflect true success.

3. Prioritize Personal Growth

To explore options for personal development enables us to make well-informed decisions, and expand on what we think. To identify areas for growth allows us to create a sense of progress, be the best version of ourselves.

4. Embrace Foresight 

Foresight is the ability to anticipate and see through illusions of time. It is an indispensable quality that allows us to envision a path forward, navigate uncertainties, and seize opportunities, ensure us a sense of direction. 

 5. Adapt to Change

Life is dynamic, and unforeseen circumstances often arise. To anticipate potential challenges, feel comfortable with spontaneity reduces stress and allows us to adapt swiftly to change.

6. Develop Fearlessness 

Fearlessness is the courage to face challenges, embrace vulnerability, and step outside of our comfort zones. It is about acknowledging doubts, not allowing them to dictate our actions. Overcome self-imposed limitations and societal expectations. By challenging our fears, we unleash dormant potential and discover newfound strengths.

7. Pursue Passion

To pursue our passions wholeheartedly, implies we do not hold back due to the prospect of external judgments, possible rejection or failure. It opens doors to opportunities that might have remained hidden.

8. Build Self-Awareness

Understand the nature of perception. Hone your strengths to work on areas of growth.

9. Practice Daily Gratitude

Focus on reasons to feel grateful for everything in your life.  Acknowledge lessons are available in every situation. Acept that progress is being made and the blessings are being received.

10. Nourish Resilience

Life may throw curveballs, yet we have elasticity and potential to bounce back stronger and wiser. To transform our lives is about seeing the extraordinary in the ordinary.  Its not about being comething we are not. The path to an amazing life involves being diligent in our endeavours, embracing our fears, and pursuing our passions wholeheartedly. By living a purpose-driven life, we redefine fulfillment, harmony and peace rigth where we are. So, let us seize the day, make the most of where we are, unleash our true greateness.  Savour this moment.

Consciously Adjust your Frequency

Notice everything we sense or tune into, any frequency on the energetic radio dial, is calling or inviting us to see something specific to us. All we perceive is part of our own unique universe. Something only emerges as real to us as we perceive it. At times, we contract (resist/ withdraw from) people, places, things, ideas, situations, environments. As we take action that seems out of character, we are awakening. A more expanded version of us knows conscious change is rewiring the brain, healing emotional patterns, accessing a wider spectrum of knowing, accelerating energetic experience so we can hold more light in our being and blossom into a more fully functioning version of our true nature. With awareness, unconscious or fearful patterns transform. As we change how, whom and what we tune into, we can withdraw like a caterpillar preparing to go through metamorphosis. When ready, we shift octave, expand into a new consciousness. Sense of home, success, time, wealth, fulfillment, opportunity, love, harmony, service, shifts into resonance with the recalibrating version of us.

So, to align with new understanding or new level of authenticity, it is imperative to listen to intuition, let go of the who we thought we were to embrace what is waiting for us. As we come to consciously adjust our frequency, our self-view and whole world transform. Over a period of perceived time, we can read and re-read the same book, and relate to it differently, tune into different vibrations between the lines, even see versions of us in book characters as if in parallel realities. In truth, we simply function with different insight into the holodeck (holographic universe).

10 Ways to give Presence

As the festive season or occasions arise, people often offer physical gifts to others.  Another approach is to reflect on priceless gestures that can be offered not only for special occasions, but also to reinforce connection, acceptance and support everyday. For instance, people want to be seen and heard. Rather than offer 'things,' what if giving full attention is an appealing way to go? Consider 10 Ways to give presence as another kind of present:

1.  Practice Mindfulness

Tune into your physical sensations.  Ground yourself in the now. Feel your feet on the ground, the sensations on your fingers and toes. Be open to your environment. Tune into your senses. Be aware of feelings. Actively check in. Pay attention to your thoughts. Pay attention to how other people in your life are doing. Check in on your loved ones. 

2. Listen Closely

Be present to other people.  Validate their thoughts and feelings. Give them your full attention. Listen without thinking. In addition to verbal communication, use multiple forms of nonverbal communication (eyes, body language, nods when appropriate) to let others know you are listening. Limit splitting your attention between the person and technology. It is hard to tune into others or yourself when you are bombarded with distractions. Be present. Listen to intuition. (Refer to The Definitive Book of Body Language by Allan & Barbara Pease)

3. Honour Self-care

Meditate. Ask yourself what you want and need right now. During the holidays people get busy. Take time out for you. If overwhelm arises, step back.  Take a break. Notice when you are Hungry, Angry/Anxious, Lonely, or Tired (HALT). If hungry, don’t get angry—eat. If angry, take some space. If anxious, recognize you control how you feel/ respond. If lonely, connect with nourishing and supportive people or pets. If tired, nap.  Focus on your breath. When you're trying your best to focus, simply take steps to recenter self. 

4. Offer Service

Offering service is about being aware of what brings you joy and sharing the joyful vibration in ways that uplift others. In this way, we can engage in self-care and spend time with those who nourishing us, model both an act of self-care and its value.

5. Be Light-hearted

Spend time having fun by yourself or focus on what evokes light-heartedness.   Play outside—stomp on leaves, make a snowball, get a little wet in the rain, get warm when the sun is out. Be present to how others are doing and if they need a little pick-me-up, have a dance party for a song or two.  Limit the time you spend on social media.

6. Create Boundaries

Set good boundaries. No need to always be a “yes” person.  Modelling boundaries is useful for others to see in your life. This time of year, it can be hard to balance yours and others’ needs. Consider your emotional and physical health in the choices you make and actions you take. You can take a pause before responding to a request, especially a text or email. You can think something over. Boundaries are a two-way street; before you ask someone to do something, consider whether you are asking too much. 

7. Show Appreciation

Keep a gratitude journal. Ask others what they are grateful for. Acknowledge what matters to you. Let people know what you are grateful for them. It is okay to be proud of yourself and let others know when you are proud of them. Uplift others, as well as yourself.

8. Be Kind & Compassionate

Reflect on how you would like to be treated. Do them for another and/ or yourself. Don’t always do for others and neglect yourself. Watch what happens as we are kind for no reason. Remember, even when we get angry with someone, we still love them. Tell the closest people in your life often that you love them. Engage in self-love by telling yourself the same. Write post-it notes of kindness as little reminders. Surprise another person by showing you care.

9. Take a Break from Social Media

Recall what life is like without social media. Communicate with others through a call, a text, or a face-to-face visit. Turn off social media for even a few hours. We rely so heavily on social media that it is nice to do things offline too. Consider something completely natural unrelated to tech. 

10. Pay attention to energy

Notice duality is concerned with opposites. They key to everything is to find and align with balance. This happens as energy is the focus. Its insightful to notice our own triggers as well as ups and downs.  These are gifts we give ourselves. Notice in truth, we are more than every colour in every spectrum and every music note in every octave. Meditation is the path to let go of illusions, reclaim territory from the mind. As senses expand, we register new depth and texture, tune into a growing range of vibration, frequency, sound and light. Paradigm shifts echo changes in intensity, perception and expansion of consciousness. To know the nature of energy is to grow conscious of multidimensionality and blossom into new directions to feel more alive. Energy wisdom is the fountain of immortality.