7 Ways to Trust yourself More

Many people agree that building trust in themselves can have many benefits in different life areas. Consider 7 ways to trust yourself more:

1.  Deepen connection with yourself

Trusting our own intuition may not seem easy if adversity or traume have taught us to distrust.  These experiences are like energetic blockages to self-trust.  So, if feeling indecisive, consider asking or journalling, “is this what I really want?” When we repeat this, true feelings get louder.  We only hear when ready to truly listen. As we reconnect with inner voice, creating boundaries happens naturally and help us distance from harmful actions or relationships.

2. Practice Self-Compassion

Sometimes, a mistrust of self can come from a lack of self-compassion.  Sometimes we forget every human is imperfect.  Come what may, life choices do not define us. Being kind to ourselves makes us less judgemental.  Shifting into self love and acceptance is the road to building the foundation of self-trust.

3. Revisit the power of intention

Although it’s wonderful to have lofty goals in the long term, it can help to set some reasonable goals that are achieveable in a shorter term. If we only aim high, we may get frustrated or discouraged. This could impact self-trust and affect overall energy level and motivation.  Setting clear intentions are ery important also.

4. Value Solitude 

Many people are afraid to be alone. It can bring up feelings of discomfort or loneliness.  While loneliness may harm your mental health, there are benefits to spending some quality time in solitude. Alone time can help you work out your own needs and preferences. It gives you time to make decisions that feel right to you without being influenced by the external.

5. Master a New Skill

When you lose trust in yourself, you also lose confidence that you can cope or care for yourself.  Building mastery over a specific skill can help you regain your self-esteem and trust in your ability to cope with life’s challenges.  To get started, choose a skill that evokes enthusiasm. Commit to learning and practicing this skill until you feel confident in your ability to perform it.

6. Consult a Mentor

While on the journey to learning something new or shifting habits and life focus, it can be helpful to work with a mentor or coach to keep you on track.  It is valuable to be exposed to different perspectives that you may not have considered.  Interacting with someone having deep insight or simialr life experience has unexpected benefits.

7. Commit to Dreamwork

What we dream during the night can be very educational.  Yet, many people do not recall details regularly or see value in closer reflection.  Dreams can reveal how we are feeling and coping with life or obstacles we are facing. It can offer insight about level of consciousness and other gems. Consider taking exploring self-view from different vantage points during day and nightime hours.

10 Ways to give Presence

As the festive season or occasions arise, people often offer physical gifts to others.  Another approach is to reflect on priceless gestures that can be offered not only for special occasions, but also to reinforce connection, acceptance and support everyday. For instance, people want to be seen and heard. Rather than offer 'things,' what if giving full attention is an appealing way to go? Consider 10 Ways to give presence as another kind of present:

1.  Practice Mindfulness

Tune into your physical sensations.  Ground yourself in the now. Feel your feet on the ground, the sensations on your fingers and toes. Be open to your environment. Tune into your senses. Be aware of feelings. Actively check in. Pay attention to your thoughts. Pay attention to how other people in your life are doing. Check in on your loved ones. 

2. Listen Closely

Be present to other people.  Validate their thoughts and feelings. Give them your full attention. Listen without thinking. In addition to verbal communication, use multiple forms of nonverbal communication (eyes, body language, nods when appropriate) to let others know you are listening. Limit splitting your attention between the person and technology. It is hard to tune into others or yourself when you are bombarded with distractions. Be present. Listen to intuition. (Refer to The Definitive Book of Body Language by Allan & Barbara Pease)

3. Honour Self-care

Meditate. Ask yourself what you want and need right now. During the holidays people get busy. Take time out for you. If overwhelm arises, step back.  Take a break. Notice when you are Hungry, Angry/Anxious, Lonely, or Tired (HALT). If hungry, don’t get angry—eat. If angry, take some space. If anxious, recognize you control how you feel/ respond. If lonely, connect with nourishing and supportive people or pets. If tired, nap.  Focus on your breath. When you're trying your best to focus, simply take steps to recenter self. 

4. Offer Service

Offering service is about being aware of what brings you joy and sharing the joyful vibration in ways that uplift others. In this way, we can engage in self-care and spend time with those who nourishing us, model both an act of self-care and its value.

5. Be Light-hearted

Spend time having fun by yourself or focus on what evokes light-heartedness.   Play outside—stomp on leaves, make a snowball, get a little wet in the rain, get warm when the sun is out. Be present to how others are doing and if they need a little pick-me-up, have a dance party for a song or two.  Limit the time you spend on social media.

6. Create Boundaries

Set good boundaries. No need to always be a “yes” person.  Modelling boundaries is useful for others to see in your life. This time of year, it can be hard to balance yours and others’ needs. Consider your emotional and physical health in the choices you make and actions you take. You can take a pause before responding to a request, especially a text or email. You can think something over. Boundaries are a two-way street; before you ask someone to do something, consider whether you are asking too much. 

7. Show Appreciation

Keep a gratitude journal. Ask others what they are grateful for. Acknowledge what matters to you. Let people know what you are grateful for them. It is okay to be proud of yourself and let others know when you are proud of them. Uplift others, as well as yourself.

8. Be Kind & Compassionate

Reflect on how you would like to be treated. Do them for another and/ or yourself. Don’t always do for others and neglect yourself. Watch what happens as we are kind for no reason. Remember, even when we get angry with someone, we still love them. Tell the closest people in your life often that you love them. Engage in self-love by telling yourself the same. Write post-it notes of kindness as little reminders. Surprise another person by showing you care.

9. Take a Break from Social Media

Recall what life is like without social media. Communicate with others through a call, a text, or a face-to-face visit. Turn off social media for even a few hours. We rely so heavily on social media that it is nice to do things offline too. Consider something completely natural unrelated to tech. 

10. Pay attention to energy

Notice duality is concerned with opposites. They key to everything is to find and align with balance. This happens as energy is the focus. Its insightful to notice our own triggers as well as ups and downs.  These are gifts we give ourselves. Notice in truth, we are more than every colour in every spectrum and every music note in every octave. Meditation is the path to let go of illusions, reclaim territory from the mind. As senses expand, we register new depth and texture, tune into a growing range of vibration, frequency, sound and light. Paradigm shifts echo changes in intensity, perception and expansion of consciousness. To know the nature of energy is to grow conscious of multidimensionality and blossom into new directions to feel more alive. Energy wisdom is the fountain of immortality.

Dream Analysis of the Week- Hugging the Sun

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Dream:

I was hugging the Sun in a furniture store. It was very disorienting. What is this about? 

Insight:

A dream may be viewed from our own dominant level of conscious awareness. On one level, the sun may refer to a pillow on a piece of furniture, a source of comfort in the 3D world. Once you embrace your value, talents and strengths, it neutralizes when others think less of or judge you.

On another level, the sun metaphorically embodies many spiritual properties that lead to degrees of awakening, completion and enlightenment. In many cases, this major shift still remains unconscious to the dreamer. The dream sun in encourages us to look inward as opposed to the outer world. To feel disoriented suggests confusion or indecision or self-doubt about some key life area.

The 'Great Central Sun' refers to the sun of the inner heart often missed or completely forgotten. Pay attention to the time of day the dream is taking place. The state or level of Sun mean something is ending, and/or also beginning.

Furniture is often symbolic of ideas you 'rest upon' or believe in.  Letting go of ideas we outgrow is a healthy was to sell or give away 'old furniture.' Reflect on your experience and interaction with different kinds of furniture. For instance, does it have legs or wheels? Is it stationary? Malleable? Is it something you can now do without?

Hugging echoes love and compassion, as wella s a readiness to help yourself and/or another. In another way, you may be in the process of hugging or embracing your own journey deeper into the unknown.

A dream store is often a physical space or building that reflects our state of mind. Reflect on the details of the area- was it tidy?, cluttered?, well-organized? Logical? Shutting down? Financially stable? How would you describe it? Dreams invite us to create awareness of our bodily state, free from any narrative of it being “good” or “bad.”  of curiosity and exploration: “This is a bodily feeling.  It is one I am feeling-this is what it feels like.”

Without this sense of awareness, we often create narratives around our negative feelings that involve blame. We blame ourselves or those close to us for making us feel bad. A loved one or the environment we’re in may inadvertently trigger us, which can lead our body and brain to believe that the person, place, or physical thing is the problem. This creates real interpersonal problems and perpetuates conflict. It can also cause a bias toward negativity in all our interactions, as we look for someone to blame for our bad feelings.

In truth, blame is a coping strategy. But as a coping strategy, it is both easy to fall back on and highly ineffective. To be fully aware of our bodily feelings can guide us to experience these feelings outside the context of blame and, hopefully, understand what may actually be triggering them. This deepens the journey inward.

To make reference to the Tree of Life and Kabbalah, the Ein Sof conceived the general plan of Creation (Adam Kadmon). This general plan contains all the details that had happened in the past, the details happening in the present, and those which will happen in the future. Here time is not a factor. The Adam Kadmon or Primal Man is the general plan of the universe symbolized by the Tree of Life. All universes, from the upper to the lower, are within this general plan. The Keter of  Adam Kadmon is the plan itself; the Chokhmah of Adam Kadmon is the universe of Atziluth (Emanation); the Binah of Adam Kadmon is the universe of Briah, (Creation); the six lower dimensions of Adam Kadmon are the universe of Yetzirah (Formation) and Malkuth of  Adam Kadmon is the universe of Assiah (Action or Materialization).  Adam Kadmon contains all info that Ein Sof or Infinite entail.  

Silence is required to move beyond structures of unconscious influence.  Silence is non-dula and wholesome. To allow thoughts and feelings go by without personal identification is essential.  One cannot see oneself clearly if one cannot see who one is in the present moment.  Clarity sprouts with non-jugemental awareness of oneself.  Attention to oneself moment-by-monet changes one's reaction to the world one projects.  What one is cannot be affected by temporal states of memory.

Among our Individual Services, we offer Dream Consultations  for single and multipole dreams we put in context as well as offer an Astral, Lucid & Dream Yoga Course.  Contact us for more information.

Transform your frequency

(Image Credit: visionary art Samuel Farrand)

Notice what we perceive in a non-physical environment is determined by our sklll in reading and translating energy transformations. In holographic reality, energy shifts and changes in stages that evolve from one state or form to the next.

Every moment, our body receives, decodes and transmits light. Our experience varies based on level of consciousness and intiations successfully passed. At any given moment, our perception of reality reflects our understanding of ourselves.

As we allow blockages to dissipate, to communicate in new ways, we deepen adventures in consciousness. Every adventure has an entry point, a middle and an exit point. Some relate to a beginning, middle and end of a path. Others relate to a spiral or simply energy in motion without a predicable path. Come what may, each chapter or stage of the journey alters us. We are never again the same.

As it is, we transform in parallel with the evolving journey. To be on the same wavelength as someone allows us to read the mind. tap into the hive mind or collective consciousnes is to know that telepathy is possible on a wider scale. This is not an easy shift for everyone. Deeper connection happens through the vibration of compassion. Learn to tune your own frequency.

10 Tips to be radically responsible

Get back on track-

Commit to our 21 Days of Radical Responsibility Program

Start with 10 tips to be radically responsible (for your life):

1. Make choices based on what’s actually true, rather than what you think should be true.

• Listen to how you feel in this moment-be aware of signs, signals, sensations as pointers.

• Tune into the heart vibration and rhythm of the breath. To feel calm or rattled is a reliable guide.

2. Assert and reinforce your feelings, needs, boundaries, requests.

• Be aware of when someone attempts to talk you out of your feelings

• See everything as an opportunity to trust yourself more

3. Own your choices and visions. Don't blame others or the external.

• Know you are who you are because of all your experiences

• See the lesson or blessing in all situations whihc you create for yourself to grow

4. Honor personal power of others. 

• Treat them as whole, creative and resourceful rather than needy

• See your role is to allow others to make their own choices rather than control them

5. Filter for present-moment thinking

• Be aware of tense of language spoken
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• Let go of thoughts of past or future

6. Focus on what's in your control

• Focus on yourself and your responses to the external

• Accept what is within your power and reach

7. Be radically honest with yourself and your values

• Be aware that every choice has consequences

•  Do not go along with others simply its easier (recall Dumbledore: "The time comes Harry, when w must choose between what is right and what is easy.")

8. Practice your ability to respond to your emotions, sensations, and thoughts in useful ways 

• Validate your truth, intuition, signs and signals from within you

• Meditate to sharpen subtle senses

9. Practice self-compassion: treat yourself with kindness and grace

• Set realistic standards
• Love yourself, your choices & inclinations

10. Take action. Action is reciprocal with confidence. Don't stay stuck because you're unsure or the path is unclear. Take a step forward.

• Notice feacing fear is the reliable choice (so long as it doesn't put you in harm's way)

• Recall your thoughts and feelings direct every moment of your life – no one is coming to save you=