7 Ways to Trust yourself More

Many people agree that building trust in themselves can have many benefits in different life areas. Consider 7 ways to trust yourself more:

1.  Deepen connection with yourself

Trusting our own intuition may not seem easy if adversity or traume have taught us to distrust.  These experiences are like energetic blockages to self-trust.  So, if feeling indecisive, consider asking or journalling, “is this what I really want?” When we repeat this, true feelings get louder.  We only hear when ready to truly listen. As we reconnect with inner voice, creating boundaries happens naturally and help us distance from harmful actions or relationships.

2. Practice Self-Compassion

Sometimes, a mistrust of self can come from a lack of self-compassion.  Sometimes we forget every human is imperfect.  Come what may, life choices do not define us. Being kind to ourselves makes us less judgemental.  Shifting into self love and acceptance is the road to building the foundation of self-trust.

3. Revisit the power of intention

Although it’s wonderful to have lofty goals in the long term, it can help to set some reasonable goals that are achieveable in a shorter term. If we only aim high, we may get frustrated or discouraged. This could impact self-trust and affect overall energy level and motivation.  Setting clear intentions are ery important also.

4. Value Solitude 

Many people are afraid to be alone. It can bring up feelings of discomfort or loneliness.  While loneliness may harm your mental health, there are benefits to spending some quality time in solitude. Alone time can help you work out your own needs and preferences. It gives you time to make decisions that feel right to you without being influenced by the external.

5. Master a New Skill

When you lose trust in yourself, you also lose confidence that you can cope or care for yourself.  Building mastery over a specific skill can help you regain your self-esteem and trust in your ability to cope with life’s challenges.  To get started, choose a skill that evokes enthusiasm. Commit to learning and practicing this skill until you feel confident in your ability to perform it.

6. Consult a Mentor

While on the journey to learning something new or shifting habits and life focus, it can be helpful to work with a mentor or coach to keep you on track.  It is valuable to be exposed to different perspectives that you may not have considered.  Interacting with someone having deep insight or simialr life experience has unexpected benefits.

7. Commit to Dreamwork

What we dream during the night can be very educational.  Yet, many people do not recall details regularly or see value in closer reflection.  Dreams can reveal how we are feeling and coping with life or obstacles we are facing. It can offer insight about level of consciousness and other gems. Consider taking exploring self-view from different vantage points during day and nightime hours.

5 Timely revelations

Now is the moment to reflect on these 5 timely revelations;

1) Learning is an ability you create and give yourself.

2) Answering another reveals what you are asking for at this stage in life, what you seek to learn.

3) Every acquired learning invites you to recognize to what degree you judge or accept true Self.

4) Forgetting all you have ever learned reveals you do not know what the world is for and can only ever feel the Truth.

5) Merging with pure love is being one with the heart, knowing there is no-thing to learn and everything to be.

Ride the learning curve

Notice what happens as you observe life experience as an opportunity to learn (or unlearn).  At some stages, you may even wonder where the learning curve ends.   What happens as you begin to feel there is no beginning or end? What if you imagine whatever you encounter you create as a gift to yourself? What if you do everything with the intention to stretch, to develop resilience, ingenuity and to allow you to see through all that is not really here? 

1) Observe emotions need not control you.  Take a step back.  Observe them, even sing a tune as a way to snap yourself out of the trance. Retain a clear head during situations that would otherwise shake your peace of mind. Know nothing ever does except inside the mind.

2) Be aware of your physiology.  The physical body is constantly giving you signs and communicating.  Be receptive. What you notice and ignore shapes the evolution of your life. 

3) Listen to the heart Be still. Quiet the mind.  Imagine places where you feel comfortable just being yourself.  Create them and go/be there.  Here, you truly listen to heart and soul.

Which messages stand out?

Anytime you are drawn to an individual, you are inviting yourself to learn certain things and unlearn others from this person about yourself.  Which messages stand out ? Who is your inspirational mentor of the moment?  What are they beckoning you to notice or realize that you had not been aware of before?  Every stage of awareness is revealing timeless, inner wisdom.

"I think kids [and everyone, really] should have a mentor and a role model, but that they shouldn't take one person's opinion to be what we call final assessment or judgment about how life is supposed to be."-  Sean Paul