Getting to the root of who you are involves true courage. This is not the heroic kind, putting your life or reputation on the line, that western society has come to focus on. Its about remembering how it feels to speak openly and honestly, fearlessly putting our vulnerability on the line.
In other words, we must be willing to take responsibility, set an example for living authentically. Otherwise, we simply create and encounter a mirror of our own deception. When was the last instance you risked being vulnerable and disappointed? How did that turn out for you?
Practicing true courage involves selectively sharing your vision with people who support you, not downplaying your dreams. Its about allowing tears or emotions to flow as they will, not hiding your true feelings as society so often teaches. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others and relate to them with compassion on equal footing.
If the root of everything is genuine connection, then everything you think, do or say either strengthens or weakens this connection. The topic certainly merits some attention. What if you feel energized or drained based on the degree you feel seen, heard and valued, based on the freedom you give yourself to offer input without fear of judgment?
Through her research, Brene Brown reveals that only one thing separates people who feel a deep sense of love and belonging (connection) from people who seem to be struggling for (or running from) it. This is the depth of belief in worthiness. True connection arises from an equal exchange of energy. How do you share or exchange energy to derive your self- worth? What are your behavioural patterns telling you about the nature of connection in your life?
If we want to fully experience connection, we must act as if we know we are worthy of it. We must also recognize being who we are doesn't require us to change. It simply requires self-acceptance to guide our life choices. Take an inventory of how you feel. Let go of who you think you are supposed to be. Olny seeing through the falseness can you embrace who you are.