As a child, you begin to build an identity based on what you are told about yourself. As a teen and adult, this identity is reinforced unless you explore love and discover what it is beyond conditioning. Stories and images begin to stir the imagination, to create expectations for and assumptions about love in relationships. When you judge someone as lovable or loving, you create a sense of separation from love. The process invites you to lose yourself.
Everybody feels unconscious guilt or discomfort if he has not uncovered true nature. You come to sense you cannot forgive anything you think is real. Anything you think is real temporarily seems to own or control you. As you begin to forgive yourself, this slowly dissolves the guilt and what is unreal falls away. Its not what you do outside in the external world, but what you do inside that matters. pay attention to your thoughts.
Anything that disturbs you is a call for love. Once you begin to trust that you are loved, you can transcend the world and see it as an illusion. You loosen up that separation and feel interconnectedness or oneness more. As you allow yourself to disappear in oneness, you realize there is no you because you are everyone. Whatever you see is the Self in a different form. When you lose yourself, you actually find yourself, that which you are seeking is here.
Eventually, you go back to the being you have always been. The observer and the observed arise from observation. The third factor is the cohesive quality of pure love.
Unless you realize the essence of true unconditional love, whatever you do in life is not satisfying. Notice you can fool a human being about love but you cannot fool an animal. They are attuned to deeper sensing. Watch how they sniff you with more than the physical nose. They see through illusion and experience love through every cell of the body.
In essence, every question is a seeking of love. The reply is always the same. Ultimately people only wish to confirm 'all is okay.' The need arises from something deeper than the words. Whatever emotion you are feeling, all you want is peace, contentment or security. All of this is encompassed in love that is being here. Lose yourself. Embrace true nature.