Human beings have a tendency to get wrapped up in other people's situations. You may do this for different reasons. It may relate to a lack of mental discipline, pure curiosity, your nature as a energy giver, or any variety of other reasons. You may or may not dream of being in someone else's situation. Consider 7 things to learn from other people's challenges;
1) You always do enough. When you know someone who is not well, or who is facing other challenges, it is tempting to fall into the trap of feeling you could always be doing more to help than you already are. This is a test for you to learn about overcoming helplessness.
2) Love & support are always valuable. Regardless of how someone around you is reacting to their own circumstances, your presence, thoughts and actions can provide different forms of support and encouragement. Whether or not acknowledged, positive energy is doing good and contributing to an invisible healing process. Sending kind thoughts also has a beneficial effect.
3) Your judgment can be transformed. Part of you may wonder or whysomeone continues to behave in ways that are self-destructive or otherwise, perpetuates their problems. Such external observation reveals your own inner judge. This reveals how you absorb negative energy and distract attention away from yourself. The inner judge is a self-created illusion. You can shift focus and use this energy to learn more about yourself.
4) Awareness is relative. Human beings have different levels of self-awareness. What you sense about someone else is not necessarily what they see or understand. Perception is shaped by experience. It often seems easier to notice faults in others or their difficulties than to acknowledge your reactions reveal useful messages about yourself.
5) Saving someone is not your job. It is common for altruistic human beings to desire to save someone from further misery, distress or suffering. At the same time, as someone repeatedly talks of problems without being willing to explore why they exist, this signals the person is not ready to consciously recognize the real issues or take responsibility for them.
6) Co-dependence offers a learning curve. Co-dependence is the idea that your behaviour enables someone to continue living in self-denial about destructive thoughts and behaviour. You cannot change a person, but you can change how you react to them. If you sense someone is doing something that is not good for them, you have choices as to whether or not you turn a blind eye, whether you help them feed a habit or refuse to take responsibility.
7) Nothing you assume as important actually is. Human beings get preoccupied with situations that evoke emotions. The situations themselves are irrelevant. Every person creates situations they need in order to step outside their comfort zone. You exist to teach yourself you are not meant to control everything or always get your way. Life is not meant to be constantly predictable, explained or understood. You are learning more about energy flow, attuning to love and the essence of surrender.
Tuesday, April 13, 2010 at 6:33AM