7 Things to learn from other people's challenges

Human beings have a tendency to get wrapped up in other people's situations. You may do this for different reasons. It may relate to a lack of mental discipline, pure curiosity, your nature as a energy giver, or any variety of other reasons. You may or may not dream of being in someone else's situation.  Consider 7 things to learn from other people's challenges;

1) You always do enough. When you know someone who is not well, or who is facing other challenges, it is tempting to fall into the trap of feeling you could always be doing more to help than you already are. This is a test for you to learn about overcoming helplessness.

2) Love & support are always valuable. Regardless of how someone around you is reacting to their own circumstances, your presence, thoughts and actions can provide different forms of support and encouragement. Whether or not acknowledged, positive energy is doing good and contributing to an invisible healing process. Sending kind thoughts also has a beneficial effect.

3) Your judgment can be transformed. Part of you may wonder  or whysomeone continues to behave in ways that are self-destructive or otherwise, perpetuates their problems. Such external observation reveals your own inner judge.  This reveals how you absorb negative energy and distract attention away from yourself. The inner judge is a self-created illusion. You can shift focus and use this energy to learn more about yourself.

4) Awareness is relative. Human beings have different levels of self-awareness. What you sense about someone else is not necessarily what they see or understand. Perception is shaped by experience. It often seems easier to notice faults in others or their difficulties than to acknowledge your reactions reveal useful messages about yourself.

5) Saving someone is not your job. It is common for altruistic human beings to desire to save someone from further misery, distress or suffering. At the same time, as someone repeatedly talks of problems without being willing to explore why they exist, this signals the person is not ready to consciously recognize the real issues or take responsibility for them.

6) Co-dependence offers a learning curve. Co-dependence is the idea that your behaviour enables someone to continue living in self-denial about destructive thoughts and behaviour. You cannot change a person, but you can change how you react to them. If you sense someone is doing something that is not good for them, you have choices as to whether or not you turn a blind eye, whether you help them feed a habit or refuse to take responsibility.

7) Nothing you assume as important actually is. Human beings get preoccupied with situations that evoke emotions. The situations themselves are irrelevant. Every person creates situations they need in order to step outside their comfort zone. You exist to teach yourself you are not meant to control everything or always get your way. Life is not meant to be constantly predictable, explained or understood. You are learning more about energy flow, attuning to love and the essence of surrender.

Comments

[C. Om]

Very powerful and wonderful insights shared here. All too often, people let the illusion of not being able to do for others trick them into believing they, themselves, have a shortcoming. Being detached from the worldly aspect of things and still feeling connected to the whole may sound paradoxical, and yet it works.

[Bernhard]

I like to learn from other people's situations, but I really don't wish to be in someone elses shoes. However, I do try to see through their eyes by listening carefully to what they have to say. And then I let it go. Just by being there for someone, we can help them to raise their vibration where they may have time to stabilze that good feeling and begin living from a new and higher perspective.

Yes it certainly isn't healthy to carry someone else through the threshold. You can point out the door, but someone has to use their own energy to walk on through it.

Ultimately, we can only be our own Saviour by believing in our selves.

Yes, by getting too wrapped up in what we are experiencing, we can get side tracked or derailed on our journey home. But everything in its own time on the way to beyond time.

[Liara Covert]

C.Om, everyone is interconnected with everything. As you open yourself to learning opportunities, you realize you can detach emotionally to what is unfolding and yet be connected on other levels. Energy is a tool you are attuning to heighten sensitivities with a higher purpose.

[Liara Covert]

Bernie, your comments are poignant. There is a phrase that says, you can lead a donkey to water but you cannot make him drink. It is up to each donkey if he chooses to feel thirsty, look for water or take any other steps to shift perspective and life experience. Every being can learn from every other. Silence and astute observation are excellent teachers. You attune to energy vibration and take it in. Suddenly, an energy being realizes he has never left home. The journey of leaving and returning is only in the mind.

[Jannie Funster]

It is interesting to note that nothing really is as important as we think it is. I do recognize this. It would be so easy to do nothing much at all in life and be just as happy than constantly reaching for goals and achievements.

[Barbara Swafford]

Hi Liara,

This is the first time I've been on your blog and I love what I've found.

In number 5 where you say, "...At the same time, as someone repeatedly talks of problems without being willing to explore why they exist, this signals the person is not ready to consciously recognize the real issues or take responsibility for them." reminds me of times when I've tried to 'save" a friend or family member. Age and/or wisdom has taught me this lesson. I've since learned the responsibility lies with them and now all I do is listen.

[Liara Covert]

Barbara, your point offers a priceless gem. Listening is a way to learn to step back and detach from the emotional side of situations. Family and friends are on their own journeys of evolving self-awareness. Regardless of where you are on your own path, your presence and unjudgmental energy can send valuable healing energy to encourage self-acceptance. Love is only partly learned through example. What a person is willing to remember inside at soul-level only happens when a person is ready to accept.

[Mark]

Excellent! Yes, there is a reason for everything and a reason behind each action.

[Liara Covert]

Jannie, as a human being gains insight into the meaning of nothing, then one begins to recall the meaning of impermanence, impurity and the non-ego mind. That is to say, it is possible to sense completeness and illusion on different levels. Each one is a patient teacher.

[Liara Covert]

Mark, reasons present every moment. The human soul is aligning with the mind and this process can seem like a game of catch-up. All things are created by mind alone and all challenges are healed within layers of the complex mind. Faith and trust help immensely.