How to help someone you cherish

Part of you is connected to everyone so someone else's hardship may seem like yours.  How often have you felt you would like to help someone out of their misery? Can you recall when you have wished to alleviate someone's pain? Maybe you dream of eliminating their obstacles or heartache.  As you begin to align yourself, you realize loving them means allowing them to forge their own path.  Every person exists to climb his or her own mountains, and sometimes people decide to slip and fall.  They may or may not get up.

You may be a parent who hopes to save your child from making the same mistakes you perceive you did.  You may be a spouse who would like your partner's life to be easier than it seems at the office.  You may be a teacher who witnesses bullying and would like to fight your student's battles.  You may be  a health care worker who would like to minimize or alleviate a patient's suffering.  You may be a child caring for a sick parent or relative and hope for healing when the person does not wish to recover.  How to help them?

Right at this moment, you begin to realize the soul understands whatever you perceive is an extension of your own pain. You have worry, fear, doubt, grief that you might be holding onto. As you do, you project reasons to experience these feelings in the physical world.  Other people's experiences are what give them insight into themselves, into life. It is not up to you to live anyone else's life.

As you choose to help yourself, you are helping everyone around you.  You are not meant to control other people, to judge what is best for them.  You are invited to love them as they are, to love yourself as you are. Consciously choose to let go.  Align with self-acceptance.  You know deep within, that everything is well. Express love.  Your choices help you Transform Your life.

What is evolution?

Identity is loudly drilled into you by the ego mind.  From this vantage point, you evolve based on conditioned expectations.  In the same moment, who you are is revealed quietly in the heart.  Every human is trained to fear, deny or postpone expanding into the unconditional love.  Alignment of the heart and mind is one perspective of evolution.

All-the-while, you may sense different ways exist to grow and develop.  You are taught to build on what you are taught.  Another kind of evolution involves letting go of all that to make room for what is always here.  How does a person open his heart? Listen to the vibration of inner peace of soul. Put yourself in a place of silence.  What do you notice?

How you think does not truly determine what you feel. As you remove the mind from your perspective and trust intuition, then you shift focus back to the breath and heart.  You exist to recognize you outgrow beliefs and see beyond them. 

Heart is fluid and mind is rigid. The heart feels its way to the truth wheras the mind echos its own judgmental view.  As you open to Self-disclosure, and explore potential for changes within, you detach from logic and feel transformative.  As you allow unconditional love to flow freely, you move from evolving to remembering what is.

"In order to evolve, you must stand still long enough for your Heart to have a Conversation with your Brain." -Erin Dalli

Why not love yourself unconditionally?

Many people are unaware of how they treat themselves and the kinds of messages their own mind is sending.  Some messages are subtle and others less so, but how closely are you listening? Which thoughts are you focused on and which ones are you observing and gradually letting go?

You may also not realize that how you treat others is  inviting you to feel more connected to the world and your deeper self.  What happens as you see the game of life for what it is?  If you do not love everyone unconditionally, you say you do not love self unconditonally.

Some people sense degree of self-love is reflected in state of the physical body.  Some health symptoms seem chronic when you disconnect from mind. Could what you sense distract you from emotional hurt not yet healed in the subconscious mind?  Consider hints your body offers through your language;

1) Notice your word choices.  Hear self-criticism? What happens as you only appreciate?

2) Recognize underlying meaning in contractions. Each time you say "can't" this actually means "won't." It relates back to fear.  Only being truly honest enables you to answer the question fear of what/why.

3) Sense the impact of abundance. Why would anyone convince themselves they are not good enough, do not have enough of anything? Self-sabotage and low esteen reflect deeper issues that invite reflection. 

You are beautiful, sexy, lovable, successful, worthy.  As you move from ego-mind based thinking to heart-felt perspectives, you know this is a path that merges you with oneness.  This thing cannot be seen.  Love is the perfume of that which cannot be revealed though light.  Everything comes after. You are before knowledge and ignorance. Loving yourself unconditionally brings you to a place beyond worship and respect. Its the mosaic of diversity.

What do you reject?

On some level, every human being rejects aspects of the true self.  Why? Only you can answer such a question for yourself as you choose to be honest and attune to the messages you are always given. 

Negative thoughts or emotions draw attention to discomfort.  This actually draws attention to what you reject.  And yet, human beings have free will.  You do not focus on certain things by your own choice.

Consider that all human beings have a mystical side yet not everyone accepts mystical parts of the self. Why?  Fear of the unknown. Human beings are conditioned what to accept and reject. You listen or not.

Soul knows you as an energy being of peace and joy now. As you permit mental training to mould you into what you are not, you shift focus away from the timeless beauty and unconditonal love you are.

As you attune to how you really feel, you consciously make decisions in alignment with that or not.  You have reasons for listening to the mind or the heart. Every experience is meaningful for its lessons.  

Where does it take you?

You own journey is taking you somewhere.  You may sense you are a kind of energy vehicle in transit.  This process is an information-gathering expedition.  It is not about perciving tangibles but intangibles.

You exist not for learning about strange beliefs from faraway places.  You exist to awaken and reflect about your existence. You are inivited to understand yourself and to cope with your daily problems.

In some sense, you embark on a quest for truth.  You may take formal study, yet all experience is a wise teacher. Nothing you reach for in the external world reveals how to end suffering or trigger revelations.

As you move to a state of being where compassion has no bounds, you help everyone and the self all along the way.  Where you go is no different from where you are.  Accepting this changes everything.