How to help someone you cherish

Part of you is connected to everyone so someone else's hardship may seem like yours.  How often have you felt you would like to help someone out of their misery? Can you recall when you have wished to alleviate someone's pain? Maybe you dream of eliminating their obstacles or heartache.  As you begin to align yourself, you realize loving them means allowing them to forge their own path.  Every person exists to climb his or her own mountains, and sometimes people decide to slip and fall.  They may or may not get up.

You may be a parent who hopes to save your child from making the same mistakes you perceive you did.  You may be a spouse who would like your partner's life to be easier than it seems at the office.  You may be a teacher who witnesses bullying and would like to fight your student's battles.  You may be  a health care worker who would like to minimize or alleviate a patient's suffering.  You may be a child caring for a sick parent or relative and hope for healing when the person does not wish to recover.  How to help them?

Right at this moment, you begin to realize the soul understands whatever you perceive is an extension of your own pain. You have worry, fear, doubt, grief that you might be holding onto. As you do, you project reasons to experience these feelings in the physical world.  Other people's experiences are what give them insight into themselves, into life. It is not up to you to live anyone else's life.

As you choose to help yourself, you are helping everyone around you.  You are not meant to control other people, to judge what is best for them.  You are invited to love them as they are, to love yourself as you are. Consciously choose to let go.  Align with self-acceptance.  You know deep within, that everything is well. Express love.  Your choices help you Transform Your life.

Comments

[Alexys Fairfield]

Hi Liara,

This is probably a difficult lesson for most - to let go - and still care - and not do anything to interefere with that individual's karma. It is something we must do in order to let spirit work. One technique is to bless the lessons of others and be there if they need you.

[Hilary]

Hi Liara – Our destiny is our own .. we can set examples as we go through life, we learn from our own mistakes .. and yes often I want to help others out of their own misery. I just wish comfort and peace for my mother – and this is difficult to meld into my own well-being as I wish to be with her .. being peg fed – now – is probably not a help, but I wouldn’t have wished it any other way for 2 and three quarter years. My feeling is that I’m learning from her experiences and her way of dealing with the situation – she is quite incredible .. as she now cannot hear (or read) – so communication is very limited. As you say I must love her as she is .. which I am and do .. and do as much for myself as possible too .. I think I probably am .. I feel ok, just sad – but that’s the way of the world. Happy we’ve had so long, sad for this tricky perhaps extended period. Express love - I do, and love is all .. at the end ...

[( : Natural Moments :)]

By focusing on other people's problems outside of our own inner world, we actually build or maintain the tension of the status quo. By detaching to external dreams and dramas, a leak in the egoic bubble begins to deflate the tension, allowing for people to manage their own affairs and lessons in life.

[Liara Covert]

Bern, your insights point out that allowing the self to get emotionally involved in someone else's perceived problems is indeed a distraction from the reality of your inner world. You could regard a troubled friend as an opportunity to share love and compassion. Such a gesture would reinforce the truth you know and resonate. Yet, from the moment you permit self to be emotionally drawn in and manipulated by someone else's doubt, negtivity, anger, frustration, or fear, you allow self to get wrapped up in drama that does not actualy exist. You may do so for your benefit and then remember to let go.

[Liara Covert]

Alexys, as a person grows more discerning, that person is able to detach emotionally without being aloof or uncaring. The universe shows us many opportunities for lessons. As you see through them and expand, you graduate from those lessons, they dissolve and new ones present. Physical existence is part of an ongoing circle of timeless, universal experience. You grow with/ in love.

[Liara Covert]

Hilary, being supportive and caring of others is something we can do at any stage or every stage of life. To recognize tha love knows no limits enables us to be more unconditional with our affection and appreciation. To love and remember to unselfishly let go is a timeless lesson. Many people would like their loved ones to remain with them forever in physical form. This is not part of the process. It is like telling water to remain a liquid when temperature and conditions prompt it to become a gas. Some people may forget soul is immortal and constantly changing into form and formless states. This is the natural course of energy flow.