8 ways to stop resisting change
Sunday, February 1, 2009 at 12:18PM Humans are encouraged to love every being, including themselves. This seems to require a stretch beyond what most people think is possible. Universal acceptance implies respecting all views about physical, mental, emotional, spiritual sides, and dimensions you may not yet acknowledge or even consciously register.
At this moment, if you are unwilling to adjust your views or unsure how to be more receptive to the unfamiliar, then you could dream the ideal. You could change. Why do people resist change or shifts in their beliefs? Consider these eight ways to stop resisting change. How and where do you relate?
1) Reframe discomfort. Everybody creates mental, spatial and other comfort zones. Examine yours. Why feel awkward when people get too close or, offended by ideas that oppose your principles? Why doubt an event because you have not shared a similar experience or when you are unable to explain it? Your feelings reveal levels of flexibility and rigidity. They are clues to deeper fears, resentment and views worth attention.
2) Transcribe thoughts. Many people will assume things are too difficult as they are. Things you hear about the physical world may not seem to jive with your senses. You may not consciously realize your thinking process or how you doubt and deny inner signs. To journal thoughts empowers you begin to see through fears and other illusions that ego creates.
3) Choose maturity. Over-protection from disappointment prevents self-directed learning. Children will grow up without coping skills and become intimidated by the adult world. Choosing maturity enables you to learn to manage new situations. Regardless of the past, you can be willing to grow.
4) Deny history must repeat. You may be thinking, it did not work last time, or improve, so why now? As you become more conscious, you slowly dissolve misplaced assumptions. You become bold, daring. You chose to shape new events.
5) Develop mental discipline. Memories of pain, suffering, confusion or discouragement may drown your senses. Emotion is a dimension of ego. Conditioning creates instinctive reactions that occur to a perceived threat or challenge. As you realize emotions become the body's response to a thought, you realize you can change them without filtering.
6) Tackle self-worth issues. Life events tests your levels of self-esteem. If you do not believe you are good enough, talented enough, or enough in other ways, then esteem blocks you from taking action. You may not have been taught how to embrace life with a positive attitude. Its never too late to learn.
7) Expand perception. As you discern peer pressure and external ideas for what they are, you realize conforming is a choice just like awakening or transcending is a choice. To learn to release unnecessary feelings leads to unfamilar sensations. You shift to a different state of alertness. You rediscover what it means to be present, to attune to energy fluctuations. You confirm your reality with new thoughts. They may defy words. This is okay. Sensing expands to teach you.
8) Shatter your myths. Part of you may wonder if your impetus for change is grounded in self-love or inadequacy. How do you know? Where you believe only change will make you happy, then inner work would be desirable to strengthen self-acceptance. How does resistance affect your life?