3 Tips to help overcome neediness

How many people have you met who don't feel as if they can do anything without their partner? Ever heard the term 'clingy?' Maybe you've been afraid to be alone.  Maybe you're unaware how needy you are, or sense a desire to change.  If you have ever felt "needy," it would be useful to learn more about your needs and those of others.  Consider these tips to help overcome your illusion of neediness:

1) Find the humor in it.  Ever hear an employee say, "I'm indispensible!" That attitude tends to reflect a certain ignorance about reality.  Other people could almost always take your place.  Loosen up! Find reasons to laugh at yourself and your views of your relationships.  What caused you to feel indispensible? Step outside that perspective.  How do you make a unique contributions to the world?

2)  Look beyond peer pressure.  Would insecurity help to explain your feeling of having to be with someone? Reasons behind your belief require attention.  If you fear being dumped, detached or abandoned, its in your interest to sort through these issues.  Fears are always based on past experience or assumption. Whatever anyone else did to you or to someone you know is irrelevant to the future. 

3) Break it down.  Reflect on your feelings.  What do they tell you about your self-acceptance?  If you uncover pain, guilt, shame, doubt or parallel emotions, this may reveal low esteem.  Since you attract what you think about, you may find you repeatedly attract people who reinforce negative feelings.  Move instead to affirm loving thoughts about yourself and others.  You'll discover like-minded souls who will help you to heal.  Its desirable to manage growth in steps, at  your own pace.

Tap into the healing environment of intimacy

The most authentic human needs aren't materialistic. Human beings dream of finding meaning, of sensing identity and gaining insight into love. To be seen through loving eyes is to tap into a healing environment. How many people have you met who have never known what its like to feel love or compassion? Do you know?

To be truly seen as we are, that is, to be loved and appreciated with all our idiosynchrasies and imperfections, is to be healed in a setting of growing intimacy. To feel comfortable confiding in someone you care about is to make yourself vulnerable. Yet, it also opens you up to deep healing. This offers you chances to share parts of yourself that will not only transform your soul through growing faith and trust, but they can also positively enrich and heal others. Why not start fresh?

Lots of people say they seek love, but far more spend time hiding from it or dwelling on past hurts which they never permit to heal. You may know friends who dwell on stories of their emotional scars and short-lived relationships. Regardless of your past, of what you've heard from others or feared inside, deep down you realize you deserve more than superficial comfort, more than second-rate love experiences.

Real love is healing, comforting, and enables you to feel reborn. It will test you in so many ways. To sense encouragement is like an invitation to evolve into who we really are. We grow to understand a deeper sense of completeness through intimacy. This enables you to transform how you feel and what you think you know. Healing is continually expanding through you. All you have to do is catch the wave and learn.

5 Advantages to listening to your vibes

As new waves of energy appear, you may regard them as new opportunities or experiences opening to you. This may shake you up. Yet, each time you make conscious changes that are attuned to your inner self, you also align with your Higher Self and its intentions. To be aligned with your core self and passions is to transcend fear and realize your goals more quickly. Why wouldn't you listen to your vibes?

Still, you may know people who avoid or reject shifts in thinking, at least in the beginning. Some people equate the prospect of change with life disruption or discomfort. These people feel unable to handle what this represents, and ignore sensations of higher energy. At any time, you can decide to listen more attentively to your inner messages and change as you see fit. Consider these five advantages;

1) Discover Higher-self loves unconditionally. To recognize the impact of love vibration is to sense paths to your greatest fulfillment. This brings increased clarity and harmony to areas of your life that will benefit from guidance and growth. It may impact jobs, your relations, and other conditions.  You transmute or rise above negative energy and really feel good in any situation.

2) Learn to see beyond misperception. Some people believe they must struggle or even surpass a pain threshold, before they listen to the soul. Transition to a higher frequency can be experienced through love and joy rather than suffering. Your fears may not intially disappear, but you'll evolve to stop reacting with fear. Instead, you'll confront the fear, choose to send love and discern the real message behind it.

3) Fine-tune your heightening sensibilities. Some people have already begun to explore ways to sharpen skills and awareness. You may be startled at the accuracy of your ESP and have more faith in your instincts. You may deepen meditation, channeling and telepathy. The more time you devote to listening to the signs, the more surrounding energy levels will become apparent. You'll begin to believe your potential for growth and expansion has no limits. You'll sense synchronicity takes on whole new significance. Your awareness will trigger revelations.

4) Connect with like-minded people. You may find your understanding of things orienting you to interact with different people. The desire to network, to share ideas and to contribute to raising the awareness of others, all emerge as priorities. If you allow it, direct experience guides you in ways that have a profound impact on your spiritual consciousness and life situations.

5) Evolve to a Higher consciousness. Your reality will change as you realize this life isn't about getting what you want as much as being certain you really want what you ask for. The sacred secrets of manifestation function according to energies of the Higher realms. Imagine the time may come when you exist on Higher planes and experience what you think about immediately. As you embark on this deeper quest, you will realize the power of light around you and within you gets stronger each day.

"You just get the vibes of your surroundings and it rubs off on you." -Gordon Lightfoot

Sever uncomfortable ties that bind

Analysis of the week on dream submitted by M.S. of Brisbane, Australia.

Dream : The setting was ancient China. I was a warrior engaged in battle. I observed buildings with roofs having eaves that curved upward toward the sky. I saw sculpted gargoyles staring down at me. While I was distracted, my cunning opponent cut my head off with his long sword. For a time, I watched the battle as if from above before rising even further above it. (As it is, I'm not Chinese).

Predominant Emotions : preoccupied, disconnected, bored, alienated, spellbound.

Interpretation : Like a warrior, you may fight against people or a situation in waking life, but sense your heart just isn't in it. You may feel you’re getting nowhere fast. Your ego may also be in conflict with other parts of you. Battles are sometimes linked to frightful work habits that cause physical or emotional exhaustion. Your mental and physical body may thus be at odds for attention. Why not take a rest? Your rational thinking may basically be incompatible with your irrational impulses.

Perception of buildings tends to reflect how you see yourself. It’s encouraging you see from varied vantage points. This implies you contemplate choices and are in the midst of inner growth. Looking upward suggests you may be unable to live up to high expectations (either your own or those of other people). Gargoyles represent external judgment or your own hidden fears over issues you have yet to divulge.

Distraction could be interpreted as a change of heart.  Some aspect of your life is no longer compatible with your evolution.  You may be ready to alter your focus in a meaningful way.  Transition will be in your favor.   A new project or responsibility could be in the pipeline. Change is a choice and can a blessing. Sever uncomfortable ties that bind. Begin with doubt, guilt or impatience you create in your mind.

Swords symbolize ambition. Be cautious. Whatever your plan, don’t lose your head over it. Another possibility is a lean toward sensuality or eroticism. If you happen to be over-stimulated or repressing instinctual urges, cutting things off is a bit much. After all, its not the size of a thing or idea that matters, but what you do with it.

Recognize you're a gateway

Regardless of what you desire or hope for, the key to realizing goals is to recognize you're a gateway for the passage of intention energy. As you learn to give and receive love, that is, to give and receive unconditionally, this will lead you to sense new meaning in life. You will realize you never act alone or without support.

To think about it another way, any vision you have for relationships, career, health, growth or purpose, all comes back to how you feel about yourself and what you think you deserve. One basic goal many people have is to feel more confident about bigger goals and plans to achieve them. Consider these ideas to enhance goal-setting:

1) Heal any fears about giving or receiving love. If you harbour any fear of not succeeding in your projects or dreams, this hinders a sense of progress. You send out energy into the universe based on your vibrations. Negativity, doubt or self-destructive thinking is a low vibration which invites more of the same. Healing fears invites more upbeat experiences. You have to be looking for them in order for them to find you.  If you keep working when you are tired, you get stuffed and cannot perform.  Learn to let go.  Trust this is an investment. Put it away for a while.  Relax. Come back to it with a clear mind.  When you devote your whole self with joy, you get more work done in less time with less stress.

2) Forgive anyone who may have hurt you or held you back. You may be tempted to blame others for holding you back from where you think you should be.  However, your own choices and emotions have led you to where you are. If someone didn't react the way you'd hoped, this may be a blessing in disguise. Forgive them, forgive yourself. Step into the light. Your positive feelings offer clues about meaningful goals.  As you listen, you will raise your energy vibration and focus differently.

3) Love & accept yourself. What is unfolding does not have to affect how you feel about yourself. Keep nothing. Dwell on nothing of the past. If one goal does not work out the way the ego wants, listen to the heart.  Know this makes you available for another opportunity you would not otherwise be free to notice. Press the delete button. No person, no set of conditions, no stroke of luck, no mentor, can guide you until you decide you are worthy regardless of goals you achieve. To love yourself fully is to trust what you feel in the heart. Even if the external world judges you based on exam results, your future does not depend on exams. The more you love yourself, the more you feel successful whatever you do. Recognize you are a gateway to self-acceptance.  Quiet the mind.  Meditate on feeling good wherever you are.