Entries in Self Improvement (93)
Liara Covert
To meditate on something other than the self is the way to widsom. To discover the meaning of selflessness changes you from the inside. Are you ready to deepen your understanding of unconditional love? Will you accept that all you do is useful?
Everything unfolds as is predicted, not based on the visions of self-interested people, but as is meant to be. You will recognize when trials seem unavoidable in your life. Yet, you will also evolve to sense trials arise and test you for good reason. Uncover the wisdom.
To ask yourself how a given situation will improve you isn't a question to pose before an experience. Only after you live and learn are you in a position to reflect or grasp why obstacles stood in your path. You create obstacles to learn to overcome each of them.
From whichever vantage point you gaze, the world and your conditions will appear different. Yet, you are always the same being. This shows you that only your perception and self-image change, not who or where you are. Improvement is a state of mind.
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Your thoughts and beliefs sometimes create feelings of heaviness which are misplaced and misguided. What would it take for you to release any blocks that prevent you from living a more uplifting life? What would you have to do to hear what your Higher Self tells you?
If you detect an awkward heaviness, its an invitation to lighten your load. You simply need to learn to anchor your mind in a new place. A sense of improvement is associated with taking steps to feel better about yourself, more relaxed, loving and grateful.
Learn to listen, trust, and take action guided by another part of yourself. If certain choices don't enable you to feel good, realize options exist. You can explore them anytime you choose. Shifting attention to what you imagine feels good will bring this.
You are alive and thinking as you are in ways that can only help you. All you need to do is listen and reinterpret messages. Discomfort signals your desire to heal a wound. Anger reminds you untapped energy can be transformed and rechannelled. Worry teaches the power of faith. Discard what you no longer need. Choose to strengthen your inner self.
From a very young age, we each begin accepting messages that reinforce we're anything but perfect. Society bombards us with reasons to question our self-image, our comfort zone, and our overall self-view. What are your early memories of not being good enough?
You may reflect on school, athletics, creative endeavors, physical growth where you compared yourself to other people. Maybe they seemed to receive more praise or encouragement. Each person who seemed better than you reinforced your deficiencies.
You may have developed ways to measure yourself against levels and standards set by other people. Why do you exert effort in an attempt to live as other people believe you should? How can you expect to live up to changing ideals over which you exert no control?
As you evolve inside yourself, you begin to grasp how standards of perfection set by other human beings could be ever-shifting, increasing, decreasing and hard to follow. Its unrealistic to believe you can shapeshift at the same pace and evolve into what someone else wants. What you can do is reframe your sense of happiness to measure perfection.
Obscure notions of perfection stem from other people. These ideas are hard to pin down. From a spiritual point of view, being connected to forces beyond you remind you that you are a sentient being of perfection. You are perfect as you are. This means you need not exert effort to please others or take steps to evolve into something you're not.
What if the love inside you is a sign of your innate perfection? What if you need not struggle? What if happiness is not a carrot at the end of a stick you must pursue? If your understanding of perfection is based on temporary, changing, and external conditions, it may seem unattainable. Yet, if you sense that perfection is a synonym for infinite love energy inside and around you, then you realize its static and accessible always.
Curiously, you may evolve to think the concept of self-improvement is problematic. If you sense this implies things are wrong with you that require fixing, then you begin to see how the fallacy is perpetuated in culture and your mind. You live the life you believe. You dream about what you don't have or experience or, you dream about all the wonderful things you already are. Some people fluctuate in-between. Where do you stand now?
Lots of people reflect on what's good for them or not. Its not always straightforward to distinguish between truth and lies. Consider these 5 ideas which may prompt you to reflect on your own misconceptions:
1) How do you feel? If you act purely based on your sense of truth, then you would expect to feel nothing but love, happiness, inner peace and contentment. If you are permitting your mind to wander, to believe or defend injustice, suffering or rationalize discomfort, then you hypothesize the opposite of love about society. You are also lying to yourself that it doesn't matter.
2) Where does drama originate? Any drama or crisis you experience is grounded in lies, mainly about yourself. It begins when you decide you aren't something you really are or, you choose to ignore what you want to be based on what you decide you should be. If you evolved to believe you are perfect, lovable and nurture unwavering faith without lies, your life would be very different.
3) Can you identify what you're not? Any time you focus attention on what you're not, or make life choices that aren't true to your passion, you build on a false sense of self. The curious thing is humans tend to build a on lies to rationalize whay what they do makes sense, even when they don't believe it does at all.
4) Why might you only "try?" This word means to anticipate failure. If you have faith in the idea you will "try," you believe you aren't up to snuff or will inadvertently fail. To believe in an outcome will invite just that.
5) What is your point of view? The story you convey about yourself isn't necessarily generalizable. A particular experience may apply to you, but not to other people. You can defend what you want to believe in your own mind, but not impose it on others. Your truth can become someone else's lie if you force an idea.
You may not feel free to be who you are. Ask yourself whether you feel trapped by expectations and images you assume are yours. What you believe about yourself doesn't all resonate with your soul. Some traits you have adopted aren't really you. What you sense is you isn't necessarily the truth. Its simply what you choose to believe right now.
Many people consciously reinforce self-judgment. When you do this yourself, do you recognize it? Its always possible to raise awareness and learn to dissolve inappropriate beliefs and feelings. What would happen if you praised yourself more and judged less?
Throughout your life, you have met people who have shaped your self-image with their comments about your strengths and weaknesses. The emotions evoked within yourself tell you a lot about what you may secretly believe or disbelieve. These questions invite reflection on which parts of yourself evolved out of love and which ones grew from fear;
1) What kinds of words have people used to describe you?
2) Which character traits have come to stand out inside you?
3) How do qualities you notice within grow out of external comments?
4) Why do you feel a gap between traits you have and those you would like to have?
5) To what lengths would you go to change and live up to expectations?