Look into the mirror and be honest with yourself. Notice which thoughts arise and which feelings stand out. How often do you view things through the lens of an unconditionally loving heart?
The universe, or soul or higher self are always whispering to guide us in loving directions. Higher self always sends us the minimum message required to achieve the highest good. What happens if you choose not to hear what the higher self is conveying though events you encounter in your life or what dreams are revealing? Notice what happens if you resist the signs the body is giving you. It breaks down. You get sick so you must slow down and are given another chance to see.
Ultimately, you are only ever loving or non-loving to yourself and perceived others. To recognize that everything is forgivable and redeemable is to know everything can be rectified. All your words and gestures are simply energy vibrating. If you ascertain you do something unloving, do loving things on your own accord to create or re-establish balance. To walk in self mastery is to do things out of love or the universe will go great lengths to get your attention.