At some stage, if you allow yourself to be controlled by anger or other emotions, you may ask yourself whether someone deserves your forgiveness. Step back. Who or what is asking this question? Recognize the inner judge and behind that, the ego mind has your full attention until the moment you begin to sense the nature of this perspective does not feel quite right.
As you observe this view from a more objective vantage point, you begin to recognize that exploring the concept of forgiveness assumes; a) its possible to do something wrong; b)that you can weild real power over another person; and c) that somebody other than you exists. Watch what happens as you shift attention away from the conditioned mental filters and you begin to see though your own assumptions. Be open to seeing from a new vantage point.
If you ever contemplate forgiveness, you temporarily forget you also have the option to see everything through the lens of the heart. This lens only knows pure love, acceptance and appreciation. It sees something good in everyone and every situation. The heart is aware;
1) All is well in this moment; Only the mind judges and creates a sense of duality (good/bad)
2) You cannot exert control over the external world, only how you respond to it
3) There are truly no divisions or separate self
4) Seeing through the eyes of another is a mirror reflection
5) The fear of not being loved is unfounded
6) Unconditional love is the essence of being (Love is what you are)
8) Nothing is actually taking place as the mind would have you believe