Tell-tale judgments

Whether or not you realize it, when you judge other people, underneath it all, you are really reflecting being judgmental and non-accepting of yourself. In order to evolve to become less critical of others, you first need to learn to be less hard on yourself.  This is within your reach.

You may mutter under you're breath, "That was stupid of me!" or "How could I be so dumb?"  Maybe you've criticized your forgetfulness or other traits simply because this comes easily.  This could be because you've heard it in movies and read about it in books.  Perhaps you've heard people you know say it to you so often that you've been conditioned in destructive thinking. That's a tell-tale sign. You're in a fantastic position to experience a new kind of freedom. You just may not know this yet. 

From the moment you begin to accept yourself for all that you are, strengths and weaknesses, even perceived imperfections, it is from this point that you will finally start accepting people for who they are. This isn't as difficult as you might initially think. It requires honest self-reflection, a willingness to explore your fears about yourself and a sincere desire to change your attitude.

As an exercise, take out a piece of paper and separate it into two columns. In one column, list those things you like and appreciate about yourself. In the second column, list those things you dislike and desire to change.  As you learn to realize the second column contains stumbling blocks to you getting ahead, you can learn to work though them. Why do you feel as you do? Discover that what people have always told you doesn't have to influence what you think.  Being yourself the key to your happiness. Recognize benefits in every aspect of your character. You can learn things about your past, present and future.  If you have judmental friends or family, this history doesn't have to repeat.  You have power to change the course of your behavior if you choose.