3 Revelations about Control

The desire to control is a common unconscious phenomenon. Many people are unaware of their own driving force or what exists beneath it.  Consider three revelations about control:

1. The effort to control arises due to fear.

In other words, control is a defence mechanism.  As you identify the fear, question its validity. Ask yourself, Is it true? If you’re afraid the night will be ruined, question that assumption.

2. Control is a result of being attached to a specific outcome (as if we always know what is best).

As we trust that we’re okay no matter what circumstances unfold, no need arises to micromanage the universe. We let go, open ourselves to all sorts of unforeseen possibilities that are unseen when we’re attached to one “right” path. What can you directly influence? Is your focus here? Or are you in someone else’s business? When we’re trying to control things outside of our own sphere, things fall apart rather than together.

3. The energy of control is less powerful than surrender.

When our vision gets very narrow and focused, our breath goes shallow, adrenaline is pumping and the heart rate increases.  It almost always does. Let that feeling of freedom guide us toward loosening our grip.  The more we want something, the more we are conditioned to hold on. yet letting go results in something beautiful.

The real power of choices

How many times in life do you tell yourself to behave in a certain way with the thought this will bring you a certain outcome?  The linear way of seeing is conditioned and a common assumption.

The ego will have you believe your behaviour determines a certain outcome, even when the unfolding is meant to be regardless of your behavior.  Perception alters experience.

Get this: the terms and conditions of your experience are pre-determined before your incarnation. Yet, you can make choices to change how you see, feel, live the quality of each moment.

Brace yourself: your choices do not make things happen.  Your choices determine the quality of the experience you are living out.  You are only talking to a  screen, versions of yourself.

Ultimately, every experience you have is an invitation to recognize the heart is always open.  Love flows freely unless you get in the way.  As adversity arises and you get emotional, ego is dissolving from your field, and you are being more authentic and deserve more love. Every experience invites you to be loving and to appreciate yourself more.  

Thus, unexpected change has the power to inspire your deepest growth.  When your focus and attention are not on loving yourself more then you unconsciously and energetically create relationships and conditions that invite you to do this.

Flexibility serves you

Reflect on occasions where circumstances do not pan out as you initially envision.  How do you feel about this? Being flexible serves you. Notice what it feels like to resist the way things unfold. Notice how much easier it feels to adjust to changing conditions when you are not attached to particular outcomes. Feel your way to the right choice.

"Nothing is softer and more flexible than water, yet nothing can resist it." - Lao Tzu

What is the call?

Everyone is chosen but few hear the call.  Sound familliar? What is the call you currently hear?  A call to deeper awareness?  A call to more or less action, even inaction perhaps? Whatever you hear is right for you now.  You create conditions that enable you to explore the unexplored or learn lessons you are ready for.  People you invite into your life are all there for a purpose too.

Consider this: at this moment, infinite possibilities present.  Notice how a light heart guides you in certain directions.  You need not clarify exactly why or be certain of the final outcome.  Notice the impact of inner focus and unclouded senses. Guidance is always available. Just ask.

"Do what you can with what you have where you are." -Theodore Roosevelt

Release your vision of outcome

What is in your highest good presents in ways you may not at least initially recognize.  How often have you come to feel that not getting what the mind echoed you wanted turned out to be a good thing?  How often are you temporarily blinded by situations that emerge to stop you from going down a path not in your best interest? What prompts you to shift and see the blessing in disguise?

Take at least a moment to reflect on periods of frustration, fear, or anger.  Notice how choosing to feel anything other than compassion and appreciation reveals where you are resisting opportunities to help you expand.  You decide whether to Transform your life.