Honour Yourself

Notice what it is to honour yourself. To honour oneself means that we care and show ourselves as much love and kindness as we might show others, even treat ourselves better than we imagine others would like to be treated. Does it ever feel like you are more present for others, that you are more connected and in tune with the needs of those around you or that you want to please everyone? We are all helping each other along a winding road. We are crossing the abyss that separates us from our true selves. Journeying to and through the heart space is perhaps the most transformative of all journeys. This is about growing aware of and letting go of all we are not. There is so much conditioinng that exists to separate us from ourselves and each other. When the challenging situations arise, our first response may be to ignore this, attempt to get rid of discomfort, judge ourselves for it, view ourselves as a failure. Recall the story of Buddha shooting 2 arrows. The first arrow represents the painful emotions we want to escape or send away. We shoot the second arrow because we dislike our insecure, anxious, failing self. In essence, the tendency is to blame ourselvs for the experience. When its a habit to shoot those second arrows, or in other words, revert to a habit of judging ourselves, we are creating an abyss that is locking us in our self-created suffering. It solidifies our identity as a bad self, creates that undercurrent that "there is something wrong with me." The reality is that any self-aversion creates an abyss that separates us from others, and obscures reality. The answer is always to love ourselves, to love and accept ourselves into the freedom we tell ourselves we long for. Depending on our outlook, the outcome changes. Everything comes back to love. Its who we are and everything guides us back to the truth we know and feel in the heart.

Bedrock of the soul

Each time you attribute blame, you do not see bad people are illusions, and less-than-desirable choices you made lead to where you are and the insight you now have. All of this is a clue to how you are gradually reconnecting with the bedrock of soul, or your true self that never leaves you.

Absolute rights or wrongs may not exist. Decisions are made out of love and in response to fear. The latter often leads to trouble. Yet, to make choices in response to love raises awareness about yourself. Why would you choose to believe other people are responsible for choices that don't work out for you? What reasons would you have to take action if you will only ever feel a victim of circumstance and of nasty people? You would likely sense no reason to feel motivated at all.

The bedrock of your soul is the free will to interpret life as you choose. You create and perceive the reality and determine whether it feels good or bad for you. Each situation offers clues to potential benefits, to potential ways you could sharpen your understanding or otherwise gain. This is a new phase in your self-growth.

What if you suddenly became so solution-oriented that you no longer recognized situations as problematic? What if you began to understand that you have all the tools at your disposal to satisfy your needs? Although challenges can promote growth, peace of mind about your identity and motivation would further increase and expand on your growth.

As times passes, you will sense which steps or course of action will satisfy you. What energizes you now? Why might you begin to feel empowered? All that matters is what you experience and what you retain from each experience. At times, your beliefs and desires may be at odds. In efforts to reconcile them, you'll get-to-know parts of yourself and realize what is truly necessary to build on what you know or understand.