Each time you attribute blame, you do not see bad people are illusions, and less-than-desirable choices you made lead to where you are and the insight you now have. All of this is a clue to how you are gradually reconnecting with the bedrock of soul, or your true self that never leaves you.
Absolute rights or wrongs may not exist. Decisions are made out of love and in response to fear. The latter often leads to trouble. Yet, to make choices in response to love raises awareness about yourself. Why would you choose to believe other people are responsible for choices that don't work out for you? What reasons would you have to take action if you will only ever feel a victim of circumstance and of nasty people? You would likely sense no reason to feel motivated at all.
The bedrock of your soul is the free will to interpret life as you choose. You create and perceive the reality and determine whether it feels good or bad for you. Each situation offers clues to potential benefits, to potential ways you could sharpen your understanding or otherwise gain. This is a new phase in your self-growth.
What if you suddenly became so solution-oriented that you no longer recognized situations as problematic? What if you began to understand that you have all the tools at your disposal to satisfy your needs? Although challenges can promote growth, peace of mind about your identity and motivation would further increase and expand on your growth.
As times passes, you will sense which steps or course of action will satisfy you. What energizes you now? Why might you begin to feel empowered? All that matters is what you experience and what you retain from each experience. At times, your beliefs and desires may be at odds. In efforts to reconcile them, you'll get-to-know parts of yourself and realize what is truly necessary to build on what you know or understand.