5 Reasons to diffuse anger

You are not forced to believe in reality. Still, reality exists whether or not you believe. Similarly, to become aware of certain feelings like anger, is to permit the feelings to be in your mind at least part of the time. To acknowledge negativity can be a step toward diffusing it and letting go so it ceases to obscure your vision. Consider five reasons to diffuse anger;

1) Energy is available elsewhere. Some people will work themselves up, get the adrenalin and heart rate pumping and sense the intensity of anger gives them renewed energy. The thing is, a person has access to unlimited energy in a peaceful state. Yet, this is poorly understood and rarely mastered.

2) Uncontrolled anger distracts. Each experience is a test that encourages you to get to the crux of a matter. To allow self to dwell on negative energy moves the focus of your energy away from love, learning and problem-solving. Quick venting is a kind of avoidance strategy and emotional control.

3) It limits sensory perception. Every moment, you feel a range of vibrations. How aware and alert you are determines what you feel or not. Negative energy is dense and  heavy.  This 'dead weight' ironically obscures your ability to explore realms beyond the physical.  You block detection of spirit.

4) It blinds you from truth. If you believe you exist to learn lessons and move beyond your current mental state, then lingering anger blinds you from the truth you seek within yourself. It is buried beneath unnecessary conditioning and veils of emotion. As you sift through, you reconnect to  a core.

5)  Alternatives exist. Letting off steam can be done in ways that do not threaten one's health and well-being.  Exploring reasons behind anger deflates its impact and helps eliminate the desire to create it.  To discern and rechannel energy empowers you to make a positive difference in lives you touch

5 Tips to move beyond intimidation

The vast majority of human beings experience something called initimidation. This is often understood as allowing someone in a perceived position of authority to make you feel less than you are. Consider these ideas to move beyond intimidation and outline stepsto get your life back;

1) Recall Eleanor Roosevelt. This former U.S. first lady is known for this gentle reminder: "nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent." As you opt to be taken in, you give away power.  Rest assured, you can also take it back.

2) Learn to see it for what it is. If someone seems to force you into some behaviour, they do not.  You imagine fear to deter yourself for some underlying reason. The person who appears to coerce or threaten you draws to the surface feelings of inadequacy, insecurity and fear. To be willing to inflate someone's ego mirrors what you do to your own. An egoist is more interested in himself than you.

3) Recognize superiority is overrated. Some people would say superiority and inferiority do not exist. From this perspective, they are imagined states of being based on your level of confidence, shyness or brainwashing. These llusions dissolve the moment you stop believing power matters.

4) Transcend the smoke screen. When someone acts to push you around and you allow emotion to control you, you get distracted by a smokescreen. If you are building a business and taking market share, a competitor may be willing to do anything to regain clients.  As you shift focus to servicing clients and satisfying needs, you learn people who voice threats attract negative energy. Dishonesty does not pay.

5) See the homour in it. As you raise awareness, you begin to realize the mind plays tricks to help you learn. You find yourself so fascinating you permit yourself to get wrapped up in illusion. John Bradshaw says, "Ego is to the true self what a flashlight is to a spotlight." How you behave without knowing why becomes funnier as you evolve to sense mind games. It plays hide and seek to remind you the lighter side of existence.