5 Tips to move beyond intimidation

The vast majority of human beings experience something called initimidation. This is often understood as allowing someone in a perceived position of authority to make you feel less than you are. Consider these ideas to move beyond intimidation and outline stepsto get your life back;

1) Recall Eleanor Roosevelt. This former U.S. first lady is known for this gentle reminder: "nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent." As you opt to be taken in, you give away power.  Rest assured, you can also take it back.

2) Learn to see it for what it is. If someone seems to force you into some behaviour, they do not.  You imagine fear to deter yourself for some underlying reason. The person who appears to coerce or threaten you draws to the surface feelings of inadequacy, insecurity and fear. To be willing to inflate someone's ego mirrors what you do to your own. An egoist is more interested in himself than you.

3) Recognize superiority is overrated. Some people would say superiority and inferiority do not exist. From this perspective, they are imagined states of being based on your level of confidence, shyness or brainwashing. These llusions dissolve the moment you stop believing power matters.

4) Transcend the smoke screen. When someone acts to push you around and you allow emotion to control you, you get distracted by a smokescreen. If you are building a business and taking market share, a competitor may be willing to do anything to regain clients.  As you shift focus to servicing clients and satisfying needs, you learn people who voice threats attract negative energy. Dishonesty does not pay.

5) See the homour in it. As you raise awareness, you begin to realize the mind plays tricks to help you learn. You find yourself so fascinating you permit yourself to get wrapped up in illusion. John Bradshaw says, "Ego is to the true self what a flashlight is to a spotlight." How you behave without knowing why becomes funnier as you evolve to sense mind games. It plays hide and seek to remind you the lighter side of existence.

Comments

[soulMerlin]

"Ego is to the true self what a flashlight is to a spotlight."

That is a gem of a quote and something that I will mention to a young performer I am working with :)

Thank you so much for your kind visits - I am still rather immersed in creative rehearsals at the moment, which are very absorbing, but which distract me from my nightly love of blogging and reading blogs.

xhenry

[Liara Covert]

henry, every human being encounters situations which challenge their patience and charge up their emotions. It is always possible to learn to discern and release undesirable energy. As thoughts flow more effortlessly without fear, then a person realizes it is not necessary to fight or struggle against former impulses. You can instead, heighten sensitivities and move beyond them.

[rummuser]

I am naturally blessed with a high sense of humour which comes to my rescue in tight situations. This enables a certain amount of detachment from the self and also enables one not to take oneself too seriously.

[Liara Covert]

rummuser, humour is indeed a faithful friend. It is a powerful tool that empowers human beings to reframe wherever they perceive to be. When you absorb energy vibration based on fear, you perspective differs greatly from when you experience the world through a filter of pure love. This peaceful state is attainable for everyone.

[Alexys Fairfield]

Hi Liara,

There is nothing more despicable than a bully, someone who tries to make another person feel inferior because they (the bully) are insecure.

I think if we all channeled John Wayne, the bullies would back off very quickly. We have to tell ourselves, "Okay today I'm John Wayne." ;D

[Liara Covert]

Alexys, for fans of classic John Wayne movies, this could work. However, its also possible to surmount fear without aspiring to be someone you are not and without forcing yourself to carry a gun. The key is to recognize that your thought process is key to change. As you choose not to be effected, not to listen, not to be bothered, then nothing phases you. In a book called, Man's Search for Meaning, a man named Viktor Frankle wrote about his experiences in Nazi death camps. Before his capture, he was a trained psychotherapist and brain surgeon. This man concluded that human beings are prisoners of their thoughts and can release themselves from such mental prisons anytime.

[Jannie Funster]

I agree wtih the one who said there is no inferior and superior. We are all the same.

Except for the enchanted creatures living in hollow trees who pilfer single gloves and socks. They are far superior to us mortals.

[Liara Covert]

Jannie, grasping that invisible thread of universal equality reminds human beings how to reconnect. Any other thought, feeling or behaviour reflects you have lost perspective and are no longer grounded in the truth. Human beings will often encounter other people who disagree with or who are jealous of what they are doing. Negative vibes masquerade behind different masks. It is up to each person to become more discerning and learn to see through facades. This removes their illusive power.

[Alexys Fairfield]

Hi Liara,

I am fascinated by Mr. Frankle's findings. I believe we are prisoners of our own device - including thoughts.

The real meaning is finding how to turn the key to the prison door.

[Liara Covert]

Alexys, each human being holds a key. Its a matter of jogging the memory and tapping into that infinite, inner knowing. You control your own balance and imbalance.