10 Reasons your current role may appeal

Just for fun today, brainstorm reasons why you currently do the work or offer the services you do. This exercise invites you to draw attention to things you are not yet seeing in yourself.  Career transition coaching explores values and core motivations.  Consider  9 reasons people tell themselves their role appeals:

1) Desire: it fulfills various desires that you may not yet put your finger on

2) Trust: something about the envirnoment or colleagues stimulates trust

3) Belonging: feeling part of a select group with peer acceptance or recognition

4) Gratification: the nature of your work offers quick solutions

5) Leadership:  being a pioneer or boss appeals, all that triggers leadership-related emotions

6) Love: The need for love is common and people seldom find long-term solutions to fulfill this need. Does your product, service, work setting evoke love, nurture self-worth and appreciation from co-workers?

7) Greed: Good money may appeal to the ego and be a pivotal reason you do what you do.

8) Hope: Hope is what drives the human spirit to look for solutions and push forward even when things look bleak. When you offer solutions that enrich lives, health, relationships or careers, this can have staying power

9) Fun: when what you do keeps you feeling light-hearted and at peace wth yourself, you feel stimulated

10) Soulful: something about the way you do the things you do touches or expresses your soul and enables you to touch or comfort the soul of others

5 Tips to shift gears

If you hold a vision and it is not entering your life experience fast enough,  then its the perfect moment to shift gears.  Ponder these five tips;

1) Recognize you do not want what you think but the feeling of having it/ being here

The underlying message is to focus on the feelings you imagine are evoked by the envisioned experience.  This is about shifting focus and energy from separation (how to get it or make it happen), to unity (how it feels to be in this place or to experience something right now). 

2) Accept time is an obstacle you create you close the imaginary  gap 

Dreams are realized instantly in the inner realm. You are already 'here'.  You imagine someone and are instantly with them, imagine going to a place and imagine the jouney unfolding. Allowing an experience to enter your awareness involves consistently acting as if no gap or timelag exists. 

3)  Talk as If

Its important talk as if you are already doing something to make it more real. Speak about it in the present tense and often.  This aligns you with the specific dream vibration and allows it to take shape into your experience.

4) See everything as energy first

From the moment you see everything as energy, frequency and vibration, you shift from believing something is possible to knowing its already happening. This shifts your energy from separation to being a living example your vision.As the vibration of acceptance, worthiness and love take over, this is energetic, heartfelt living. When you only see one flow of energy, situations enter your scope faster.  This is an exercise in letting go of separation. 

5) Let the universe determine the details

The universe can deliver your dreams in infinite ways.  It may be easier and quicker for your dream to come in a way you’ve never considered. The what always comes before the how is important to remember. The how is not up to you.  Simply allow yourself to feel the way into the perfect circumstances. The universe does the rest. 

4 Ways to increase self-esteem

Many reasons exist why clients hire mentors (coaches).  Individualized program design, accountability, time management, and soulwork have increasing appeal.  Clarifying and aligning with core values, career/ business transitions, moving from headspace to heartspace, intuitive guidance, are also key. Whatever your reason, you are here to clarify more about yourself.

Coaches exist to help clients believe in themselves, to reinforce high self worth. In order to be effective, a mentor has to have high self-worth.  Working toward more consistent self-acceptance and self-worth often arises as a core major focus of coaching. A person’s attitudes, abilities, and cognitive skills make up what is known as the self-system. This system plays a key role in how we perceive situations and how we respond to different situations or opportunities.

Anyone with high self-esteem (self-worth):

• View challenges as tasks to be mastered (is solution-oriented)
• Develops deeper interest in heartfelt activities (increasingly intuitive) 
• Commits to what matters with confidence
• Visualizes and feels the way into new realities

Anyone with low self-esteem:

• Avoids or feels disheartened by challenges 
• Imagines and focuses on reasons why something is unreachable
• Focus on personal failings and negative outcomes 
• Lacks confidence in personal abilities

If you wish to increase self-esteem, you must respond to the world like someone with high self esteem. Ponder four ways to increase (and stabilize) self esteem;

1. Choose to Master Experiences

This is about focusing energy and attention, performing to the best of your ability, knowing you are. Visualizing and feeling realized dreams in this moment strengthens self esteem and brings them into your scope of awareness and experience. This is an exercise in vibrating like a master, convincing yourself of what already is.

2. Select Role Models (or Blaze a Trail)

Witnessing other people successfully completing a task is important inspiration for increasing self-esteem. Seeing other people succeed via sustained effort, it inspires observers that they can do the same. 

3. Increase Awareness of Self-Talk

Talk to yourself regularly in ways that reinforce you have what it takes. Recall encouragement that helped you achieve a goal. Ask people to support your intentions.  This empowers you to believe in any task at hand.  

4. Psychological Responses

Our own responses and emotional reactions to situations influence self-esteem. Moods, emotional states, physical reactions and stress levels all contribute to what a person feels is realistic or doable in a particular situation. By learning to envision success and feel the experience in the present is what creates a comparable reality.  This strengthens and stabilizes self-esteem. You have to tell yourself how it feels to already be doing what another part of you is working toward.

What I want is what you want

Excerpt from Alan Watts:

Notice what I want is what you want and I cannot specify what you want. 

When you do not know what you want, you may not have thought about it, or so many choices arise, you cannot choose.  A naive view is a desire to control everything, some kind of technological omnipotence or power where the"I" (ego) is in charge.  Craving is the source of suffering and exists due to ignorance. All disappointments are the result of frustrated desire and believing in the illusion and constraints of time.

When you reach the state of not wanting, not seeking, this is desirelessness. You have to let go and let it happen.  Its not about arriving anywhere, not about a journey or being results-oriented at all.  To be in complete control is not something any sensible person wants. Every moment, the universe is simply reacting to your perceived problems until you see they are imaginary.  See if you can calm desire and be a master of life.  When you get control of everything , what would you do with it? Turn off pain, foretell the future, read your thoughts, be above ordinary human frailty. Go beyond all pleasures at your command.

Why don't you know what you want? 

a) You have it

b) You do not know yourself because you never can. The Godhead is not an object of its own knowledge.

I do not know is the same as humility, and unconditional love. If you know you do not understand. When you cease to cling to yourself, you access infinite power.  It is common to waste energy trying to force things. The moment you stop, that wasted energy is available.  When you stop defending yourself, you are letting go of energy you suppress, allowing it to flow.

 What is helping you ?

1) Courage to see beyond fear

2) The fact that everything is in decay, dissolving, process of constant death is helping you because you do not have to let go.  Nothing exists to hold.

3) The power that comes to you does when you do not reach out for it.  It arises when you can be trusted fully with power (and do no harm) 

5 Steps to increase personal power

Notice living in your personal power involves doing what you love, feeling relaxed and at peace most of the time, materializing and monetizing your life purpose without self-sabotage.  Sound like a mouthful? Currently not your reality? Ponder five steps to get greater access to your own innate personal power and unleash the gifts you exist to bring to this world;

1) Tap into negative energy within and express it in a refined way  

This is cathartic. Take personal responsibility for misinterpretations of situations at different stages of your life and recognize the energy can be rechannelled or expressed differently.  Rather than expressing anger outward, recognize that from the moment underlying reasons for it are understood, this energy is harnessed and redirected in ways with unforeseen benefits.

2) Notice self-worth is self-love in action 

Do things that people with high self-worth and self acceptance do.  When you hold yourself in high esteem as a person, you respect yourself and others equally. Express kindness, compassion, love without expectations.   

3) Establish clearer boundaries

This is about finding courage to clarify and present who you are to the world.  It is done from a new level of high self-worth and requires you clarify for yourself what you will and will not do and limits to commitments.

4) Let go of the non-essentials

 Be honest about what evokes suffering, resentment and struggle.  Shift focus of attention to life circumstances that resonate joy and completeness.  Trust yourself more.  Like atrracts like or more of the same energy.

5) Commit to your dream and connect the dots

Only synchronicity exists. Be receptive to what you uncover. about yourself and take steps to actualize what the heart and soul are guiding you toward.  Its already in you.  Simply allow it to flourish.