How to break the vicious cycle

Your current relationships may not be the dream you have in mind. Part of you may not be aware that you have the power to break the vicious cycle of situations.  They exist to awaken you to new ways of thinking, feeling and understanding self. As you ready to make positive changes, consider these tips;

1) Realize you are in the midst of a vicious cycle.  When relationships evoke discomfort, the common thread is you.

2) Cease blaming others for your negative emotions. Learn to grasp root causes and heal triggers of these signals. 

3) Take responsibility.  If dialogue, commitment, or compromise do not come easily, what does it tell you about hidden fear? How can you reframe everything for the better?

4) Use patterns as a guide for self-acceptance.  If you focus on appearances, this suggests low esteem, inadequacy and ego-based misperceptions that do not serve you.

5) The answer is always love.  Only by loving and accepting all of you as you are now do you invite soul love.

7 Ways to forgive your negativity

Many people find self-forgiveness to be very difficult. You may not realize how hard you are on yourself. Now is the moment to recognize you have a choice. You can decide to step back, explore and reframe what stands out.  Consider 7 ways to forgive lingering negativity;

1) Sense layers of experiences remain hidden inside you.

2) View forgiveness as an evolving process now and always.

3) Learn to discern when and whom you offend and why.

4) Recognize as you forgive others, you can also forgive self.

5) Open the mind to see beyond linear cause and effect.

6) Ponder the relevance of emotions as a guage for loving and accepting yourself.  

7) Accept all thoughts and feelings as teachers.

Pay attention to the signs

Submitted for analysis by Anonymous in Tallinn, Estonia.

Dream- I pulled up to a used car lot driving a fancy sports car. I arrived with the intention of selling what I had and replacing it with something more practical, like a bicycle. Yet, the car salesman was directing his junior colleague.  Both carried an end of a long pole.  In the middle of this pole, a woman hung upside down tied to the stick and her mouth was duct-taped. I could not see her face clearly. The men said I could make an appointment for the following day. I looked away. My instinct was to leave.

Hightlights-  discomfort, fear, impatience, torture, angst

Interpretation- Every dream encourages you to identify objects and themes that stand out. If you choose to view every element of your dream as sending you messages, you still decide what is important for you to notice and examine now.

To drive reminds you who controls direction of every stage of your life, even if you choose to be consciously unaware.  One useful exercise is to view your current conditions from the perspective of every person in your dream. Note dominant and passive personalities as well as the part of you that is forced to keep quiet.  You choose what to muffle or ignore.

The ego is motivated by opportunity to control your life perspective and overall behaviour. When it feels threatened, fear is evoked to keep you where you are. Through mental discipline, you learn to transcend ego control and expand your perspective beyond artificial limits ego creates.

Beliefs are adopted and discarded as you shift consciousness. What you are taught is acceptable or unacceptable may differ from what you feel inside yourself. Priorities and values change when you are ready to adjust perception.  Materialistic practices no longer suit you. Some people are conditioned to resist change, yet you can evolve to see positive sides to it.

The bondage theme draws attention to physical, emotional or other kinds of repression. You o someone else may be tightly controlling what you say or do. Consider what you fear and why you lack confidence.  This image invites you to permit freer, creative expression.  Regardless of perceived conditions, you are only ever a prisoner of the mind. The sexual view of bondage also implies suppressed passions. As you learn to be more honest, you choose to surrender.  Unleash the real you.

10 Ways to access your answer

At this moment, you have unanswered questions that invite new attention. This is an opportunity for an exercise in raising consciousness. Follwo these simple steps to access your inner answer;

1) Know you have capacity to control your mind. 

2) Take the time to clear your head and meditate.

3) Ask the universe the question that comes to mind.

4) Picture the question in symbols and feel sensations.

5) Allow the answer to flow into the mind.

6) Do not doubt but process thoughts freely.

7) Transcribe whatever images, feelings emerge in you.

8) Trust significance is found where you choose.

9) Love and accept yourself and the whole process.

10) Be grateful for everything, everyone and energy.

Learn of the Singing Revolution

Most people don't think about singing when they think about revolution. But song was the weapon of choice when Estonians sought to free themselves from decades of Soviet occupation.

"The Singing Revolution" is an inspiring documentary account of one nation's dramatic rebirth. It evokes love and oneness, as well as humanity's irrepressible drive for freedom and self-determination.

Watch this trailer which helps explain why the Songfest (Laulupidu) occurs every five years in Estonia. Imagine 30,000 singers and over 70,000 spectators. It is a very moving experience that emerged as a timeless tradition during a very emotional history:

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