Dream Analysis of the Week- Rats & Relationships

Dream:

My dream was in my old bedroom at my childhood home. My sister was in bed beside me. I was scared of rats getting into the room. I thought they would come thru the skirting boards. My uncle came in checking everything was secure. He could find evidence that they were trying to get in. There were people from work in the room ensuring me that there was no way they could get in. They even pulled up the carpet to show me no holes. I kept looking at the closet thinking they’ll get in thru there. But I look at the floor in the closet and it looked secure. I was terrified. My sister took out a notebook and was adding up sums. She showed me how long I had left to live. I didn’t know why she was showing me this. It was all mathematical calculations.

Insight:

Why fear boredom? it's good when it enters your life. Boredom is a transitional state, a stepping-stone to the next stage of personal growth. If you understand its wisdom, you can use it to fuel self-reflection or spark your creativity or take life in new directions.

Are you "skirting?" Unable to advance specific interests? "To smell a rat" suggests you are convinced someone is trying to deceive you.  Even if you do not initially see proof of this, to focus on negative thoughts can invite in what you do not want.  Are you making something out of nothing? What happens if you pay no attention to bothersome thoughts?  The mind may be playing tricks.  You only experience what aligns with vibrations of love or fear. 

It appears you crave a sense of security, while your current experience echoes you feel unsafe and insecure.  The floor is like the foundation of your beliefs. You may question the basis of your trust. A carpet often echoes sense of warmth, comfort. Notice if you continue to doubt,  then contentment will continue to elude you.

If your "biological clock" is ticking or you feel time is running out to have a family, its not up to others to decide or impose their ideas of what is right for you and when.  Any hole is a two-edged sword: it reminds you that you are whole and complete with or without offspring.  The hole may also echo empliness you feel or low self esteem if you would like to hide your head in a hole. Don't be an ostrich and bury your head in the sand, hoping your problems will disappear. Facing, reframing them, is far more effective.

The bedroom is symbolic of the heart. If you close off the heart, fear being vulnerable, it is not open and cannot let anyone in to create a reliable friendship or romantic relationship. Confusion about unresolved feelings, or desire for intimacy suggest you are in process of tapping into and integrating lost childhood memories.  Get intimate with yourself,.  True intimacy in the external follows.

We all have different relationships with our siblings, or sister, from close to distant relationships.  Review your relationship with your sister. How is this changing or how has it changed? How would you like it to change? Do you feel she interferes in your affairs? Do you trust or question her advice? Have reason to trust or distrust?

A dream about your sister (that you do not have a relationship with) may signal your longing for connection and union.  Turns out, in the Bible Proverbs 7:4, it states a foolish woman "does not stay at home". This is sometimes interpreted as a sister who is causing trouble within the family.  One who causes trouble for family may also disrupt your life. Dream dialogue with older sisters sometimes points to our deep-seated desires for reliable advice and unvoiced concerns that go though our mind. We can be the sister we are seeking and see if this mirrors back.  We have opportunity to create a new kind of dialogue. Remind yourself it takes two to tango. How are you growing in her midst? How does she benefit? Does it teach you about avoidance or connection? Or is dialogue strained or non-existent?

We dream of extended family members when we are transitioning away from the expectations or influences of the immediate family. The uncle can represent a new way of going out into the world to provide for ourselves. At the same time, the word 'uncle' is associated with giving in (to "what" & with whom?- meditate).

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Dream Analysis of the Week- Pay Debts

Dream:

I was at my grandparents' house, on their front lawn (this grandmother is deceased. We did not get along). I asked a friend (also client) I do not know well for $1000 to pay my outstanding work bills. I felt uncomfortable asking her. This friend is regarded as being in a 'cool group' and someone "everyone is meant to impress."

Insight:

Many people have unresolved relationships with money.  There is often a tug of war going on inside which echoes scarcity and abundance. This can trigger guilt and shame alongside joy and excitement, a range of emotions.

You may be questioning the nature of certain obligations and commitments you create for yourself and the stress and anxiety it evokes.  There is something you feel you can do without yet,  what hijacks your attention is deep desire to do more, go further, be seen, belong or feel accepted.

Thoughts of impressing others draw attention to insecurities and issues of self-worth. You truly want to get-along with all sides of yourself, merge fragemented parts of your psyche. Parts of you may seem dead and buried, yet they are not.  Feelings are pointers to what is alive within you. When we think we create conflicts or that others do not like us, this is simply pointing to shadows we have not yet accepted/ integrated within us.

If you feel under peer pressure, you may hide repressed anger which itself masks hidden hurt. In truth, its not others that are the issue.  Focus instead on which aspects of yourself you are rejecting. They are struggling for attention.  Rediscover what it is to be real. No need to pretend to impress people, or to get along with them.

Lawns echo all with growth potential is interconnected, and opportunities are right "in front of us" whether or not we are willing to see this. The front lawn tends to represent what you are willing to put "out there" for public view. This also implies possible fear judgement, criticism and rejection.  Reference to embarassment echoes possible hidden fears about putting something new "out there" or showing people who you truly are. Watch what happens as you imagine the worst case scenarios.  See what you are truly made of. Be real. Pay the unwritten debt to your soul.

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