Life is what you make of it

Life is as easy or as hard as you choose.  In essence, life is what you make of it or nothing.  How does it feel to let go of attachment to outcomes and to recognize fear is all in the mind? Discover what a different point of view is like.  Expand your horizons.

"Life is easy when you have no fear and no preferences." - Ajahn Brahm

What do you run away from?

What do you run away from? Why is this?  What difference does this make if nobody is there?

Notice whether you allow others to impose their world of emotions on you.  You can choose to deflect or transcend such things. Simply stop taking things personally.

Notice if you always seem to be busy and/or get your kids' schedules jam-packed. Why are you really avoiding solitude and silence? Watch what happens as you reach that unspoken threshold.  Life as you know it,  falls apart.  Nature takes things into its own hands.  The universe reminds you that you cannot avoid facing yourself forever.

When you are finally alone, and the mind is quiet, you, the "ego" disappears.  As you view this as a symbolic release of what is not you, you start to notice thought and awareness of thought. The desire to control thoughts and events is replaced with trust and awareness of feeling.  Fighting, conflict, competition all cease. This is the end of a sense of togetherness, loneliness and comparing. In fact, no other remains. How do you respond to nothing?

Whether or not you spend time with others, you can choose to be friends with yourself. When you run away from something, like during nightmares, a goal you doubt, a relationship or opportunity you deny yourself, fear of not being, getting or doing exerts a hold over you. 

As you stop looking for answers outside yourself, the loving heart melts that which blocks you from merging with everything.  How you relate to peace determines whether you allow yourself to be disturbed. Grasp how it is to be free.  You are the problem and solution.

"People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself. But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates." -Thomas Szasz

"When you stop controlling things, you are not disturbing life, and life does not disturb you."
- Ajahn Brahm