Rethink your assumptions

You invite each person into your life for different reasons. Part of your job is to figure out less obvious reasons.  When things aren't going the way you assume they should at work or in romance, its tempting to assume people influencing your mood shouldn't be in your life.  But wait! Think again. What could you be missing?

1) Reflect on why that certain someone annoys you.  This may be a person who has a crush on you or who follows you around having chosen you as office mentor.  It could also be for other reasons. Admit the real reason you're annoyed. Its not likely the person at all.  It could be what he/she represents or reminds you about. Whenever your attention is drawn to something, this is a good thing. Figure it out.

2) Rethink that romantic scenario that didn't work out.  Part of you may resist because you believe this would be a waste of time.  Yet, when a romance doesn't pan out, its because deep down, you didn't believe this person was right for you.  Being moody, indecisive, feeling weird or sensing things are going nowhere is all good.  Things have indeed gone as you hoped inside. What did you learn about you?

3) Review the true sources of your frustration.  Okay.  You may not be on the most preferred list of specialists in your field.  You may not be the first person asked out on friday night or have the most friends. Yet, if you're frustrated about your relationships, the best place to look for answers is inside. Are you compatible with your choices? Do you love and accept yourself? Would you prefer other company? Only you can choose to change your environments or entourage.

Set your mood to set the stage for success

Your mood tells you a lot about the kinds of of subjects activated in your mind.  What you think about is what you will experience. You set your mood and this sets the stage for events you invite and expect. Whatever your perceived reality, or sense of success right now, your mood can be consistently changed, if you choose.

You may not realize you don't deliberately offer thought, but gravitate to think about whatever happens around you. When did you last review your mood or "emotional point of reference" for success? Its in your interest to examine any emotions that prevent or hold you back from realizing dreams. Consider these five questions:

1) What might trigger insecurity? If you had an experience where you lost a deal or someone you loved, it may have escalated to where you now expect negative or undesirable outcomes. You may always worry when someone you cherish travels, imagining you will lose another person or something else you value. Reflect back and work through reasons for such feelings. What would it require to feel secure?

2) What might trigger emotional vulnerability? If you've ever had relationships where you were 'let down,' exploited, betrayed or, attracted unreliable people, then your abilities to trust and delegate may have been affected. Why might you see yourself as a victim? As you seek greater success in your relationships, its advisable to begin with a review of self-acceptance, self-image and self-worth. If you're unhappy, how can you expect other people to feel happy or complete with you?

3) What might trigger health fears? If you generate fear regarding any aspect of your health, then you stifle health and healing. Did anyone you know experience major pain and suffering? Do you assume certain family ailments are hereditary? Do you anticipate dying young because your relatives did? How else would you explain your fear-producing reactions? If you desire health and well-being, you need to uncover why you don't think you deserve it. Reality begins and ends with you.

4) Why might you feel powerless?  You need to understand that you control what you observe, what you envision, and how you feel. Its important to resist blaming and scapegoating. Channeling energy in such directions simply deprives energy from the direction you really want. If you only respond to what you observe, then you have not yet learned that success comes from separating yourself from external events.

5) What might explain your low expectations? Are you brainwashed? Have you ever been warned you'll have trouble with your kids? that your partner will leave? that you'll never make enough money to pay bills? that you'll never change? that you aren't smart enough to learn new skills? that your physical body is worn out or will never heal? that you shouldn't expect to do better than anyone you know? Unhappy people project low vibrational energy. You can transcend it. Simply decide not to listen.

Saved from drowning

Analysis of the week on dream submitted by Anonymous of Melbourne, Australia.

Dream: I saw clones of a woman wearing clothing from different periods in history.  Each one stood separately around a lake. I strained to see them clearly.  My focus was drawn to a woman in the water who was drowning. Suddenly, transparent spirits appeared near mermaids. They raised the woman to the calm surface of water and prevented her from drowning. She didn't initially see them and tried again. They saved her. She surfaced with bluer eyes than before. She exited the water herself.

Predominant Emotions: Overwhelmed, reluctant, fear, hope, increasing clarity.

Interpretation: You acknowledge different perspectives exist to a situation and may attempt to be in many geographic or emotional places at once. Water is like a mirror that reflects your true emotions. Feeling overwhelmed or over-zealous are not your only choices. You have the power to save yourself from any additional stife. To realize spiritual support systems can be like life preservers means you are aware of ways to revitalize yourself.  You also realize that you're never truly alone.  Perhaps you would benefit from being more open and expressive about certain feelings?

Clones as dream symbols invite you to reflect on feelings about external domination or sources of control. Clothing reflects how you are perceived and how you also perceive yourself. You may feel "outdated" or even, "before your time." Its useful to take note of your vibes about clothing. Were they positive or negative? Did you feel confined or awkward? At ease and accepting? Each is a sign that invites you to deal with an issue. This dream also echos possible past lives and belief in reincarnation. Regression may reveal more. You recognize strong connections to events past and may find it challenging to sever ties. Take time to explore nagging guilt or grudges.

Mermaids that surface represent why you have been mysterious or secretive. Eyes draw attention to what and how you choose to observe. Notice what sorts of thoughts are "surfacing." Your unconscious may be telling you to look deeper inside yourself to find the answers that will enable you to put things "into a better light."

Radiate & stretch your mind to receive

Have you ever thought that if you desired something, you could make it happen? You may not realize the Universe can produce whatever you desire, so long as you don't undermine it with doubt.  No need to grasp complex math or formulas.  This is the magic of positive thinking.  It works whether or not you think you understand it.  You radiate your energy and stretch your mind to receive what will be coming:  

1) Build your experience and expand with every accomplishment.  That's right.  As you build your confidence, you widen a sense of possibility in different areas of your life.  You come to expect good things and they take shape to enrich you.  You get what you ask for, whether its a conscious or unconscious request.

2) Align yourself with what makes you feel good.  Summon the power of desire.  Your level of contentment or satisfaction reveal whether you're behaviours are on track.  Permit yourself to visualize and experience the benefits of those things you ask for.  Feel excitement, anticipation, joy, and bliss.  Its all shaping your future. 

3) Discover you can achieve any desire.  None of this, "but, I don't know..." or, "he won't let me or, she won't let me!"  Its impossible to receive what you desire and to resist at the same time.  As you take steps to recognize how you're blessed, to express gratitude, you uncover all the evidence in your favor.  Will you listen?

4) Take responsibility to experience your desire.  Decide you will live in a state of pure joy, that there is no dream you will not accomplish.  Remind yourself of your abilities and your potential.  Guide yourself to environments that enable you to focus on your truest inner power.  Remove all mental and emotional blocks to feeling health, well-being and harmony.  Eliminate all negative thoughts.  Connect the physical life force to the deepest desires of your soul.  Believe in yourself 150%.

4 Points to get your bearings

Romance is a subject of frequent inquiry. People ask themselves whether they 'feel right' or sense they may be making a big mistake. Rather than quickly succomb to your worst fears, I invite you to ask yourself four questions:

1) Would you rate this relationship as a positive or negative experience? If  this question seems to oversimplify your situation, then take out a sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle. Write (+) at the top of one column and (-) at the top of the other. Now make your list. Based on the side with the most comments, you can figure it out for yourself. Recognize whether your initial view was overly-impulsive.

2) Which lessons are you learning through this relationship?  This might seem like another way to say, 'what am I getting out of this?' The point of this is not to bolster your ego.  Its meant to prompt you to assess yoru situation honestly. You invite people into your life to help you learn about yourself. How is your partner like you? How does he or she 'act to 'press your buttons?'

3) What do you sense you are teaching or sharing with each other?  As you learn about trust, faith, communication, commitment, understanding, unconditional love and other types of sharing, you may discover incentive to rethink, reframe or revise your view of your relationship. Reflect on the qualities you would like to see and experience. How does this compare with your life?  What can you do to change you?

4) Which life lessons you have learned or continue to learn?  Every situation has a bright side.  Yes, you can detect benefits in every choice you make.  Even if you decide that you aren't exactly in your ideal relationship, its important to realize it takes two people to make it work.  If your relationship isn't working, then you have something to do with that.  Change yourself.  Set an example.  Evolve into the person you would like to to share yoru life with.  You will attract compatible people.