John Holland & 4 tips to evolve at your pace

Its common for people to question how to "tune into" their lives.  John Holland's 2003 book explains how he was "Born Knowing" that he was a psychic medium, but it took him years to decipher the messages all around him that have led him to live the life he does today.  He has taught me the value of not listening for what I want to hear, but the value of opening my senses to detect all that I need to experience for my own personal progress.

Of course, not everyone feels destined to follow an esoteric path.  Whatever you're working toward, it has already been sticking out in your mind.  It makes sense to pause and reflect differently about what's going on around you, even if you don't make heads or tails of things, at least not right away. 

1) Probe your senses for clues to your gifts.  Information comes to us in different forms.  We get words, feelings, images, smells, tastes and experiences that defy our points of reference or even description.  People tell us things and we sense and intuit to point ourselves in desirable directions.   If you choose to consult a psychic about anything, they tune into energies to bring you face-to-face with what you already sense and know, but may not yet accept on a conscious level. 

2) Learn to harness your abilities. From the moment you discern a budding interest or talent, this is a sign to develop yourself.  You may obtain a high score on a test, be singled out for some accomplishment or, silently encouraged to sharpen an innate skill.  Its all an invitation to stretch yourself, to transcend self-doubt, and a means to put your nagging fears to rest.   You may compare this to rediscovering a stranger who turns out to be none other than your true, most authenic self, your best friend.

3) Evolve to manage your life (don't let it manage you).  Life is full of distractions.  People and activities are vying for your attention.  You may juggle jobs or responsibilities because you fear embracing the truth about yourself and the risks this entails.  Making a decision to be responsible for your life, how it evolves from here, is the chance to let go of blame and guilt and to embrace what matters.

4) Remind yourself each day is a 'Memory Day.'  Everyone doesn't realize each day is a new opportunity to begin fresh or start over.  Certain days may stand out in your mind forever while others may seem utterly forgetable and just fade away.  Some people believe we take memories with us when we pass over.  We have choices to focus on creating memories of experiences that enable us to feel good now, and to uplift the spirits of other human beings whenever we can.  Make a difference in someone's life.  Create lasting memories your way.   Whatever you feel is normal for you.  Work with it.

Where to go from here?

When it comes to goals, you may wonder where to go from here.  You may be bombarded with choices and feel unsure of your next steps. 

Take a moment to imagine what your world would be like if you lived consistently from your heart, expressed love and appreciation to people more than you already do.  You may be less aware of your true hopes and fears than you are about other aspects of your life.  If you are aware of your feelings, you may find it challenging to express them as you would like.  As you assess where you are,  and move ahead, these steps can guide you:

1) Listen to vibes within yourself.  You may forget to listen, but your own energy waves communicate as vibrations.  As you become more attuned to your energy fluxes, you will make choices that create a more harmonious life.  You will take steps that enable you to feel more comfortable and confident and achieve a new equilibrium.

2) Review the meaning behind your intentions.  Decide what you would desire to get out of a particular experience.  Your intention will determine how satisfying and fulfulling your choices will be.  You instinctively select your experiences and your thoughts and feelings shape how your intentions unfold. Imagine the joy of realizing your intentions.

3) Focus & visualize.  This is a way of directing your thoughts on one thing at a time.  All you need to do is learn discipline to focus on whatever you're doing during a particular moment.  How you visualize the activity differs from fantasizing, which gives your mind free rein to meander without control.  Your mind needs training to concentrate fully. 

Heal your unconscious self-sabotage

We each have many sides to our personalities that are active in different situations.  In reality, we are complex beings full of inconsistencies and contradictions.  We have parts we acknowledge and reveal to others, and more private aspects we keep to ourselves.  The hidden parts escalate and do us damage if we don't choose to review and transform.

Amidst your varied sides of your persona, you may be unaware of the deeply ingrained negative views that you generate, harbor and perpetuate, to hold you back from dreams.  As you learn to raise awareness of these negative views and why you have them, you slowly deconstruct your self-critical side to heal your unconscious self-sabotage.

1) Reflect on your past.  We all have memories of discomfort, situations where we were labelled negatively, such as weak, unlovable, inadequate, unforgivable, unworthy, or not good enough.  People may have told us these things, but we would not have heard them if they didn't echo from deep within our souls. 

2)  Realize you decide what's next.  To what degree we absorbed and grew to believe lies about ourselves led to misunderstandings about our abilities and potential.  In reality, we have no reason to feel ashamed or to believe we are bad, angry or less than we are.  This is a phase in a process where we can decide we will react differently now.

3) Recognize what you resist persists.  If you deny or ignore your anxieties, you are unwilling to come to terms with root causes of your pain.  Anger, resentment, guilt, shame and similar reactions need self-expression, yet you may repress them in efforts to deny the truth.   You will find you attract angry behavior from others to remind you about what requires attention inside yourself.

4) Discern anger and unforviveness are survival mechanisms.  As you grow stronger, you can find courage to understand your past on a conscious level.  Choosing to change opens your heart to a very different life.  Since at least 60% of your communication is non-verbal, bad feelings you thought you concealed were actually visible in your energy vibration, body movement, gestures and facial expressions.  Your life evolved based on these messages.  To grasp negativity was a survival mechanism enables you to learn from your past, to forgive yourself and move beyond it.

4 Advantages to connecting with your spirit guides

Many people like the idea that Higher Forces in some form are present to guide and protect them.  Yet, the same sorts of people may wonder if they would get anything worthwhile out of learning to connect and more actively work with their spirit guides. 

Before you decide to research this subject further, seek psychic advice or, investigate devoting time to a course, you may ask what incentives you have to decide to exert any effort in this direction.  As you contemplate, consider these four ideas:

1) Discern what you really want.  This process isn't as cryptic as you might think.  To connect with your spirit guides, you must learn to quiet your mind.  This is often achieved through meditation.  Experiencing serenity or "mindfulness" enables you to listen more closely to your inner voice, to develop new faith in yourself.  You grow to more readily distinguish between what feels good or not and what seems important or not.  You will grow to instinctively attract only experiences that reinforce good feelings.

2) Better appreciate all that you are.   Rather than criticize or judge what you think is wrong with you, you will evolve to focus energy on loving and valuing all of you.  You will recognize talents or gifts you overlooked.  This mindset empowers you to more actively uncover the innate qualities within yourself and to develop into who you wish to be.

3) Get to the truth of your fears.  Working with spirit guides is like an exercise of working through your emotional defenses.  This is about learning to be more honest and open about feelings. It isn't like reviewing painful situations in your mind and constructing barriers at the level of ego and unconscious.  Its about discovering how it feels to be humble, to uncover and discard your ego motives and, to move on. 

4) Realize you have power to change.  Spirit guides reinforce your self-confidence.  They offer a compassionate ear like a supportive friend that guides you to recognize answers within.  You will begin to detect skills you had forgotten you had.  You will sense a profound inner evolution.  You will instinctively ask your guides questions, such as "what could I do to nurture faith in myself? or, to move beyond obstacles that stand in my way? You will intuit what to do differently to create a more fulfilling existence.

What if your success is measured by pure joy?

Some people believe a sense of success is directly proportional to the joy you feel at a given time. That is, to develop conscious, deliberate awareness of what contributes to your joy shapes your perception of success.  You are free to choose your thoughts.  Discern whether your thoughts and beliefs are compatible and complimentary. 

Let's say its not physical objects or experiences that define your success.  Rather, its emotions evoked by the process and your visions of the way you would like things to be.  Your mind and physical body emit signals with intent.  You either adapt to align or do not align.  You either accept lulls and also temporary periods of satisfaction or, you take steps to better understand  what you want, why and how to generate good vibes more often.  If the latter would be your personal preference, where would you begin?

1) Raise awareness of your energy vibration. You may not yet really sense who you are, or where you're going.  You may not yet realize you are a vibrational being that attracts a vibrational reality.  Everything around you is energy.  Your focus determines what you attract.  To reconnect with who you are and understand the reasons that evoke joy within, you need to evolve to consciously perceive and align your vibrations. 

2) Connect with your non-physical, inner being. To connect with your soul will enable you to recognize your unconditional love, value and worthiness.  Your emotions are your guidance system.  How well you know yourself relates to how attuned you are to your emotions and the reasons that evoke them.  The intensity and frequency of your joy are vibrationally-related.  Nothing is more life-transforming than realizing where you are and how you feel differ from where you want to be and how you imagine feeling.  Choosing to re-align your energy means you begin to consciously accept who you are.  If you do not tend to this soul connection, nothing you do will create forms of success that satisfy you.

3) Learn to recognize when you are connected to your inner self.  How attuned you are to your thoughts influences how attuned you are to your feelings and whether or not they're vibrationally-compatible.  How you feel about your thoughts detemines what happens in your life.  To deliberately control feelings, means to mold your feelings, to make vibrational shifts up to more desirable levels.  Although other people may inspire or motivate you, only you can achieve conscious awareness of your feelings and inner being. You need is clarity of thought.   Beliefs and thoughts must become compatible.

4) Deliberately choose emotions that align you with your soul.  The sooner you realize when you are not aligned wiht positive emotions, the sooner you can take steps to change.  How you feel is your constant gauge of harmony or dischord with your desire or vision for success.  You can sense whether you lean toward abundance or whether negative emotions control you. If your belief isn't compatible with your desire, then you will not achieve it or experience joy.  Its not hard to activate beliefs that harmonize with your desires.  When you do, you will sense increased joy.

5) Relish the feeling of desire.  Through your interaction with contrast and variety, you envision and create new forms of joy.  Your habits of thought may differ greatly from the thought you decide you want.  Dominant, activated beliefs are what bring you more thoughts like it. The more you focus on a subject, the more you think, talk or, express feelings about it, the more active that vibration becomes, and the more similar thoughts and experiences are drawn to it.   Relish feelings you want to project and create them.