10 common mistakes & how to avoid them

Some people get drowsy or feel drained at particular times of the day. When do you feel most energetic or grumpy? You may feel prone to certain situations and struggle to grasp why. Consider these ten common mistakes and how to avoid them;

1) Believe mistakes exist. In truth, all experience is valuable and the concept of mistake is misleading. In essence, you convince yourself you have done something incorrect as a distraction from learning. To decide all experience is valuable shifts your focus from the illusive duality of right and wrong.

2) Choose not to pay attention. Deciding not to notice your behaviour suggests apathy or indifference and also possible unconscious motives. Anyone with this mindset is vulnerable to missed opportunities. Choosing to raise self-awareness empowers you to play a more active role in your destiny.

3) Blame circumstances on timing. How you choose to use the time you are given is what determines the nature of your life. If you hesitate to make certain decisions based on assumptionsabout "the right time," then you areunaware this mindset is problematic. Nothing is set in stone, now or ever.

4) Allow emotions to control you. Strong emotions emerge to reflect feelings about security, esteem and self-worth. People do not always realize that intense emotions distort their perception and trigger reactions that can be counter-productive. To shift in meaningful ways, make adjustments. Emotions can guide, but they are not your decision-makers.

5) Raise expectations. Whenever you anxiously await or anticipate things to happen, you forget about presence and get stuck in a future mindset. To heighten your expectations is to strengthen your footfold in the future. This does not help you as much as if you learn to dissolve yens for specific outcomes.

6) Assume you know everything. Pride, shame, fear of humiliation all surface in relation to arrogance. If you only believe you experience the truth, you are not open to receiving energy in form of other people's truths. Lao Tzu also adds, "Without going out-of-doors, one can know all he needs to know. Without even looking out of his window, one can grasp the nature of everything. Without going beyond his own nature, one can achieve ultimate wisdom... without undue exertion."

7) Ignore intuition. Not listening to your inner voice implies you lose touch with reality. Your mind, body and spirit are not consistently aligned. If they are, youhave unwavering faith in your premonitions and gut feelings. Trust in how to apply abilities is the secret of reconnecting to your core self. Unlock your inner door. You hold the key to intuitive understanding.

8) Allow dilemmas to perplex you. When you permit conditions outside yourself to control you, this distracts you from presence. You may be choosing to learn from a particular distraction, but recognizing it for what it is is the beginning of dissolving it. Choose to be solutions-oriented.

9) Be closed-minded. Not opening up keeps you in the dark about your conditions and what you are bound to encounter. To gain insight into what helps and hinders you, just observe whatgoes on around you. Work to transcendlayers of mystery and clarify what makes sense as you learn what not to do.

10) Get caught up in ego. A focus on material goals, external approval or competition suggests you are fixated on self-interest and measurable results. This kind of mindset invites energy imbalances.  Learning about energy healing and alignment is helpful in relation to psychological patterns. You can employ practical techniques to help detach from ego.

Comments

[Carla]

“Ignore intuition” is sometimes a weakness of mine. That is something I have to work on for myself.

[Davina]

Hi Liara. "measurable results" -- a huge diversion! I think type A personalities should be renamed type Z personalities, because the constant drive to achieve only diverts folk from being awake to the here and now. I KNOW, cause I'm a type A.

[Talon]

Your site is really nice, Liara. You have wonderful insights and information here. I'm enjoying my reading time here.

[Mark]

I love number one, there are no true mistakes, all things happen for a reason. Our awareness will help us define the purpose.

[Liara Covert]

Carla, to recognize a perceived weakness is also to acknowledge a related strength, even if you do not yet consciously realize it. To be human is to lean to one side of duality or another until you evolve to discern the real issue you are bringing to your attention. Underfunctioning or overfunctioning are sample observations. You decide what is meaningful. Judgments dissolve at your discretion.

[Liara Covert]

Davina, to evolve to do things "just because" is relatively rare. People tend to be goal-driven. They are conditioned to be results-oriented. That translates into many hidden expectations and disappointments that distract you from your core focus of being and accepting as you are.

[Liara Covert]

Talon, some people are shocked as they learn to see through ther own behaviour. They do not consciously realize how their thoughts evoke anxiety and how perpetuating stress creates a vicious circle. People forget what it means to do too much and too little. Your decisions to honour your instincts may invite short terms confusion and anxiety but create longer-term rewards.

[Liara Covert]

Mark, why people fear mistakes draws people back to illusion. When people tell you they make mistakes, you can choose not to believe them. They make no mistakes because mistakes do not exist. When your motive to move ahead in your life is strong, you may evolve to where you consciously choose to make some decisions in order to evoke feelings of discomfort and to learn from them.

[Meryl K. Evans]

This reminds me of Edison's quote about not failing 10,000 times, but rather he found 10,000 ways that don't work. I think that's the essence of #1. Thanks for the important reminder. I try not to dwell on mistakes -- but it's hard when you serve clients and want to offer the best service possible.

[Robin Easton]

What a juicy list. I love it. I laughed reading it because I've never seen anyone write these things in quite this way.

It reminded me of a friend who was always saying that she was "no good". After a talk one day in which she had said that several times,she told me about something that she wanted to do but just woulnd't be able to because she was "no good". I looked at her and said with a straight face and matter of fact voice, "You're right you couldn't do that because you aren't any good." Her head shot up, she looked at me indignanty and said, "But I AM good. How can you say that? I just sat still and looked at her and she burst out lauhging and said, "Wow, I wouldn't let anyone else tell me that, not even you, so I have to stop telling MYSELF that." She never said it again, and started to be more gentle and loving with herself. I said to her, "Everything you say to yourself, ask yourself if you would like someone else say that to you? If it would hurt you if they did. And if it does hurt then don't say it to yourself any more." We talked a lot about that and it is still something we both use today.

I guess just the way you worded these statements.somehow made them SO obvious. I like that. It also highlights the absurdity of them, which makes us all see them more clearly...and remember them. A wonderful fun way to approach sharing this. Thanks dear Liara.

[Liara Covert]

Robin, as you raise awareness, whatever you grasp seems obvious because you are already beyond it. To draw people's attention to what they already know but selectively ignore is a gentle nudge or wake up call. Human beings often behave in ways that may cause you to wonder whether they are sleep walking. In some way, every human being is sleep walking otherwise they would not be human. People are selectively aware for a variety of reasons. When you permit emotions to control you, this obscures your vision and lossens your grasp of reality.

[Miguel de Luis]

Hi Liara

You made me remember a quote of one of my teachers: "if you are too young to do something valuable, soon you will be too old."

[Liara Covert]

Miguel, as one evolves, age and time lose all meaning. If a person stops wearing a watch, that person gains insight into how time is invented to fragment human perception. Charlotte Perkins Gilman says, "Eternity is not something that begins after you are dead." This implies its wise to embrace the philosophy, "It's not what if, it's what now."