Go where you seek to go

In order to accept yourself, you benefit from asking yourself what is acceptable for you to live and for you to experience. In your mind, walk through what you think will happen to you if you continue living and thinking as you do now. Then, consider what you think to you need to do to be honest with yourself about how you are.  What would this include? How will you achieve it?

The good news is your brain can take you anywhere you’ve ever thought of going. Be bold! Daring! You simply need to explore what you have the potential to do. Cease to be the person you have been in order to become the person you have always aspired to be. Peel the layers back and discover if your choices are enabling you to be true to yourself.  Empty your mind of anything that might take your mind off a positive future. Take steps to define your new future.

Negative publicity or criticism is often better disregarded. Don’t permit the views of other people to dissuade you from what your heart tells you to do. If you haven’t yet learned to listen closely to yourself, away from other people, you can still learn to do this.  Consider what experiences have taught you meaningful lessons.  Why do you think certain choices haven't worked for you. What kinds of distractions get in the way? What can you do to pull up your socks? Remind yourself that the world is your oyster. You can go wherever you choose. Just go. 

The necklace

A friend of mine told me a memorable story about her father's infant sister. During the aunt's childhood, at age three, she wandered off into the forest near her house into the forest.  She was missing overnight. Her family grew very worried. When she was eventually found the next day, she said that "the lady took care of me."  Her parents were initially confused.  They thought that perhaps a stranger had cared for their daughter.  They expressed gratitude.  Yet, the little girl shook her head.  She pointed instead to the fact that she wore a necklace with the head of the Virgin Mary.  She indicated this was the lady who looked after her. Her parents initially doubted her story, yet she convinced them that she must have had guardain angels.

Do your dreams unlock secrets?

When you awaken, how often do you remember your dreams? If you remember even part of your dreams, do you think they have any significance? What might you learn from them, if anything?

Some people are convinced that understanding their dreams is the key to gaining insight into themselves, their mistakes, goals, this life, possible past lives and even death.   These people think dreams have the power to unlock secrets within themseves. They write them and learn.

Other people don't recall their dreams and may have no interest in their possible significance. In fact, some of these people even think that trying to interpret dreams is meaningless. They go further to say any interpretation is not only a waste of time, but a true, self-created illusion.  According to them,  Freundian, Jungian or other views of dream interpretation are hogwash.  What do you think?

Power questions & power talk

Whenever you speak, realize words are powerful energy.  They hold potential based on how and what you express and to whom. Language has different impacts on people and the world as a whole.  Get ready to engage in power questions and power talk.

Even from something as simple as how you approach another person, you can gain more than a wealth of information.  Critical thinking becomes a valuable tool as you learn new approaches to obtaining information, and to weighing the pros and cons of what you hear. How words are formulated determines the power and impact they will have. 

Whether you seek to strengthen your relationships, to build a business, to deepen your sense of connectedness to spirituality and the world, or to enrich some other area of your life, consider the power of communication in the form of relevant questions.  Begin by asking yourself "why." 

Questions are a means to create abundance and affluence because they:

• Enable you to avoid arguments tactfully, with diplomacy and get to the point.
• Remind you how it can be desirable to talk less and listen more to others' needs.
• Allow you to empower someone to recognize what he/ she really wants.
• Probe into the mind of another person to teach you things about yourself and that person.
• Encourage a sense of appreciation, since you request and value the view of another.
• Help you realize that promoting respect and self-respect will lead to fruitful collaboration.

In addition to asking pertinent questions, the way you come across will determine whether you deserve the faith and confidence of another person. Your behaviour can help you win and hold the attention of other people or become the reason why you aren't to be taken seriously. So long as you always talk well of other people, be it past relations, colleagues or business competition, you will give others reason to praise and value you in varied capacities. What would stop you getting there?

Sleep when you're dead

You may have heard the phrase, "no rest for the living." This refers to the shared belief that people experience joy in being alive yet, shudder at its related miseries.  Many people get bogged down with fatigue they associate with growing old.  Do you overlook wisdom that comes and enables the mature to live with ease?  What you choose to see relates to how you see goals.

1) Personal life: whenever you feel restless, you may feel alienated with reality.  Get in touch with your feelings.  Determine how different people you know and have known make you feel.  Contact and renew old acquaintances that enriched you. Focus on developing relationships that encourage and stretch you.  Distance yourself from the people who aren't enabling you to grow.

2) Work life: if your mind is inconclusive or unfocused, you may feel indecisive.  Work doesn't have to seem like a struggle.  Maybe you assume rewards only result from struggles.  The Western view toward life promotes activity.  You may feel a need to prove yourself, to leave your mark.  To do this, you must identify what you desire in short and long terms.  The Eastern view toward life promotes neither activity nor inactivity, but action through inaction. In this way, you may feel drawn to cooperate with the flow of nature and opportunities.  Either way, you "shall" act.

3) Spiritual life: to exist, you are on a personal journey.  It's your task to define the parameters.  If you seek to be an authentic individual, you will benefit from taking steps to get-to-know yourself on the inside.  This mayaor may not involve exploring religion.  In order to discover your true nature, you need to learn not to be bothered or highly influenced by people or your surroundings.  How do you do that?  Learn to meditate.  Ponder your thoughts and reflections. Explore your creative potential in writing.  Read books and listen to tapes that encourage spiritual awakenings.

4) Leisure pursuits: as a way to promote self-discovery, it's helpful to learn to listen to yourself.  What you think you would like or dislike is to be explored.  What do your senses tell you?  Growth comes through being true to yourself.  That means going out for a sports team, taking a language class, upgrading your sailing skills, training for a marathon, joining a bird watching club or yoga group. Take up whatever activities spark your curiosity and inspire your imagination. To isolate choices, brainstorm 5 interests.  Look into options to join at least one new group.

5) Dreams:  these are the goals which may seem a bit further off. What you hope to achieve may not be realisable tomorrow, but its important to write a list and keep that list somewhere where you can see and read it regularly, such as a fridge or bedroom night-table. As you identify 5-10 objects and experiences to work toward, then you can begin to define desirable timelines and what ideas you have to make them happen.  This will be an organized, step-by-step process.