What if your relatives lived forever?

Regardless of how well you know your family or how much time you spend together, part of you wonders what life would be like if your relatives lived forever.  How would this reframe your joys, sorrows and burdens? Would you reunite someday?

I went to highschool with a girl who had three adorable toddlers when she suddenly died of complications from breast cancer.  She was only thirty-one.  Her spirit remains in the hearts of people who knew her. Echoes of her laughter live on.  Her children now adamantly believe they contact her, and do.

A friend of mine looked after his great-aunt until she died at one hundred and two. He tended to her house and garden, visited her regularly and assisted when she voluntarily went into a nursing home. While she was there, he arranged to have her bills paid, and organized her life the best he could.  She lived in aged care less than two years before she left this world. Then, her nephew managed the probate, taxes and more. She rests in view of a bay, gladly reunited with her husband.

I know a man who did not get along with his father in life.  Despite this, he keeps the deceased father's ashes in a soup tureen under his bed.  The living man says he does not believe in ghosts and talk of an afterlife makes him edgy.  Still, he cannot bring himself to release memories of life with this man.

As it happens, I have visited quite a few cemeteries. It may surprise you to discover what happens to plots and crypts that are rented by the year and at times, forgotten.  When a family dies off or becomes disinterested, cemeteries re-sell plots. Imagine you may have unexpected company oneday.  

As our parents get older, their health issues arise to remind us of fallibility and mortality of being human. Our physical abilities change.  Our faculties sharpen or weaken.  Parents do not expect to outlive their children.  Yet, some do. Children do not always find it convenient or desirable to stop their lives, give up independence and devote themselves to parent care.  Other children do not think twice about reorganzing their lives or relocating to do the best they can to help when needed. You do what makes sense to you and make your own choices.

How many people do you know who have moved back in with parents or parents have moved back in with them? I know some adult children who have never left home. They are into their forties.  Their lives revolve around parents they feel need them.

If your relatives lived forever in the physical world, that is, the ones you like and the one you do not, they would each continue to teach you things.  Your responsibilities would expand, but of course, that would not imply you would accept them. You can choose to believe in reincarnation, immortality or none of the above, but the connections you forge with people live forever in your heart. Love is everlasting.

How can you be in more than one place at once?

Many people dream of being in more than one place at once yet, hold the belief that this is not presently possible. What if you shifted your belief system to assume it is not only possible, but you are doing this beneath conscious radar?

Quantum mechanics does not conform well to human senses. The way atoms, molecules, particles and systems function, is subject to uncertainty. People do things Science is currently unable to explain and repeat in a lab. You may still ask how this enables you be in more than one place at once. How could it be? Do some research to clarify a few things for yourself;

1) Who are the types of people who do this? (they exist)
2) How would you describe their motivation?
3) What do you note about sceptics? (name/job/ belief- labels)
3) Where do your life, philosophy and mindset fit in? (i.e. why do you desire to do this and how are you willing to evolve?)

Consensus in the "real world" is grounded in the idea physcial entities behold three-dimensional space. This said, the core experience of three-dimensional space is limited to the awareness of three perpendicular axes: North-South, East-West and Up-Down. This omits the time dimension and ignores any possibilities such as those explored in dream dimensions, astral planes and out-of-body experiences (OBEs).

Rather than take steps to convince yourself how you can be in more than one place at the same time, it is desireable to work the other way.  That is, explore why you believe you cannot and systematically refute your own reasons. For example;

A) Disbelief barrier -- "I can't so I won't" idea must go.
B) Threshold of fear -- visual or new strategy required.
C) Misconception -- stop dwelling on the non-essential.
D) Dual consciousness-- realize you fragment awareness.
E) Uncomfortable with physical body-- learn to reverse this.
F) Reflex problem -- identify & step outside comfort zone.
G) Weak intent-- if you truly want it, you figure it out.

Uncover what you have always wanted

Many people go through life accumulating experiences and convincing themselves they work toward what they have always wanted.  The measurable things, the objects you can touch or buy, may become companions during your journey.  Yet a silence in your heart contains other whispered secrets. 

Part of you yearns to escape from aspects of the life you know. Other parts of you seem to prevent it. Something within you draws attention to debilitating afflictions and lacks while a soothing side fills the imaginary holes and heals the open wounds.  Your soulful side knows humanity fears all things as a distraction from everythng you already have.  When a person forgets the power of love, he forgets the key power within.

To uncover what you have always wanted, all you have to do is choose to live.  Choose to feel. Choose to take chances that bring you face-to-face with the prospect of losing. Permit yourself to be drawn to sources of your greatest fear. Decide to praise them and feel grateful. When your physical body cringes at certain experiences it has been given, you can reckon it is divine grace. You can even find courage and strength in grief.

Those things that motivate you are only temporarily veiled.  You gradually transcend your own silence.  You open your eyes and senses more fully.  You discover you have always wanted to stop fearing who you are.  Nothing about your truth wounds you more than denial or fear. You move beyond them already.

Believe the odds are in your favor

Every new experience evokes a new world inside you. That is, you expand on what you thought you knew and realize there is more to this life than what you had previously thought.

Now, many people regularly go through life feeling like they hold the weight of the physical world on their shoulders. They seem to attract other people's perceived burdens, absorb heavy energy, and clutch tightly to the familiar because it is there.

This is a reminder that impermanence is reality.  You may exert an enormous amount of energy in an attempt to keep things as they are, but it will be to no avail.  You are not meant to keep people as they are at a given moment. Life as you know it will shift like the crust of the earth that is in constant motion.

You experience perpetual changes, but you are also raising awareness to discern the good in all of it.  Life is a process. This is not meant to scare you or cause you to feel as though you cannot count on anyone or anything.  Believe the odds are in your favor. Your health, happiness, and peace are waiting for you to rediscover them.   Your outlook begins and ends in you.

3 Ways to go further than harness potential

People write to me asking what is the best way for them to share their experience in order to inspire hope, goodwill and the realization of dreams. Some bloggers specifically ask how they can inspire more strength and determination or, how best to meet the needs of their particular audience.

If your core motivation is to connect with people, you will discover many ways exist to do this. As a budding chef of life experience, you learn to go by feel, taste and improvise.

As I develop articles, I have come to realize that a number of things are going on inside and around me to help me do my best. Consider these ideas that empower you to live life on your terms and go further than harness your potential;

1)  Realize you are a work in progress. You are constantly building on your communication skills.  As part of the process, this means you you are sharing new learning consciously and unconsciously. Its all good, even if you do not register it all.

2) Recognize power in deliberate intention.  As you consciously visualize or imagine how you wish your efforts to affect people, this sends energy pulses out into the universe. Think about a wave that comes into shore and goes back out to sea.  You lose visual sight of it, but the power and energy still exists somewhere and transfers it somewhre else.

2) Do what you do from the heart. This matters. If you write with thoughts about what your readers may or may not like, then you are not allowing your thoughts to flow naturally. As you teach yourself to stop thinking about approval or disproval or the possible usefulness of your experiences for others, then you begin to realize everything you say or do has intrinsic value for someone. The more you choose to love and accept yourself, the less you will think what others think.