Ease into the flow

Relationships with some people come so easily while other relationships seem awkward and strained. You may ask why? How can you get along so well with a friend or colleague and have parents, a partner, siblings, in-laws or other people, causing you to feel self-conscious or 'out-of-place?' What is the nature of incompatibility? What does this tell you about harmony?

As you get-to-know yourself, sorting through feelings and vibes gets easier.  You actually know yourself better than anyone, yet may temporarily lose confidence.  Rest assured, openness is a trait you have as a child and you can tap into it at any moment.  Why do you think it felt much easier to express your feelings more directly then? Ease into the flow;

1) Be more aware. Ask the source of love in your life what you need to work on. Keep an open mind.  Watch which emotions arise as you listen and hear the observations. Discover negative vibes  are not telling you about people so much as why you resist expressing love. Invite love to come in and replace negativity. Zero in on why you may think someone won't accept you or like you, and why this matters. Reasons for discomfort you thought you'd never solve resolve themselves. Issues actually begin in your own imagination.

2) Open your inner channels to feel. Recognize that anxiety or worry are telling you valuable things about your complaints and reactions to particular people. What do you fear? What might other people fear about you? Allowing your energy to flow reminds you the more fulfilling life you envision can't come if you're stuck in a mode of self-criticism. You can't control what others may think. This is an invitation to release thoughts you outgrow.

3) Feel good about yourself. Your own desires create, deepen or sever relationships based on what your mind allows. If someone clearly asks you not to contact or interact with them, it's their call. Such people have and may deny their own issues. As you release your own negative thoughts, any unwanted energy will dissipate and stop controlling you. What remains is grounded in compassion.  Trust this process and negative energy won't return.

4) Accept flashes of insight. The truth is that quieting the mind enables you to reframe the relationships you live. Observing your own thoughts and behaviour triggers flashes of insight.  The mind says all pieces will fall together and the heart knows no puzzle ever fell apart.  Intend fulfilling relationships and this is your experience. All is always well.

Turning points

You may ask how you know whether your life is evolving in desirable ways.  If you make such an inquiry, my guess is, you already know the answer.  Yet, will you choose to do anything about it?

Consider where you focus your attention. How you perceive your life shapes it more than your realize.  Your imagination is the canvas. You paint the canvas with visions and dreams and things you would like to happen.  You do this on a conscious and subconscious level. Your feelings can undermine any original ideas and goals.

For example, you may aspire to follow a life path yet, deep down, fear success.  If this is true, your choices may systematically make it very difficult to follow that chosen path.  In effect, you may not really desire to follow this path at all. 

At any time, you're surrounded by options.  You tell yourself if you really desire to do what people tell you and what you may think you tell yourself.  Your future person is talking to who you are now. This may seem hard to grasp, to be in two places at once.  Yet, the only way to get yourself to where you wish to be is to already be there, and look back to how to get to where you already are.

Turning points are like milestones.  You sense you're on the right track in life, making decisions that happen in what you perceive to be a logical sequence.  Changing who you are doesn't have to seem like you're losing anything.  In fact, the healthiest changes are those that enable you to overcome fear and see that what you're gaining is far better than what you ever had or how you previously felt. 

Ultimately, its not really a question of losing or gaining but rather, transforming. You forget who you were because you're so excited about who you are.  Being 'in place' is happiness.  Anything else you simply invented to cloud the real education. 

Accomplish without effort

As you learn to exert energy in directions where you experience the least resistence, then you realize how easy it can be to live in meaningful ways.  Have you discovered your intrinsic nature?  This is the way to manifest your dreams in ways that they materialize all around you.  You may have heard the phrase, "less is more" or "do less and accomplish more."  This suggests that its not how hard you work or how productive you are that matters, as much as how comfortable you feel doing what you do.  Do you struggle or is your life relatively effortless?

If you look around you, the creatures which are the most happy evolve based on their instincts.  Flowers don't fly like birds because their nature is to grow and blossom.  Fish don't run on land like foxes because their role is to swim.  As each creature grows up to follow its intuition, it concentrates on making what it does better.  These creatures, like you, can experience harmony.

As for people, each individual discovers where less effort means more through experiencing love.  As you discover a passion in something, you no longer feel as though you're working because what you do becomes pleasurable.  You look forward to it.  You enjoy the present moment.  You're 'in your element.'  You can enjoy what you do where you are without a sense of chasing an illusion that always gets away.  To feel good about yourself is not a way to waste energy, but to direct it wisely.

Whenever you decisions are motivated by love and oriented in directions that nurture love, you become more motivated and energetic because what you share comes back to you in multiples.  This is a way to improve yourself because you're slowly erasing negative feelings and motives in order to focus on what truly matters.  Rechannel your energy in love and you can also discover you can shape your life in positive, unexpected ways. 

Once you accept what should be happening in your life, and you commit fully to this thing, you're listening to your energy and intuition, which isn't expending lots of energy.  In fact, you're learning a new way to relax.  You grasp that improving who you are is grounded in understanding who you were, and in understanding that person is no longer.  You can hope for your life to change while you also learn to accept and take responsibility for what you are and why.

Read your vibes

From the moment you consciously consider a choice, ask yourself honestly what you think may happen regarding different options.  What kinds of messages does your body send? What sort of energy reverberrates through your soul? Does your heart race? Do you feel tense or calm? 

Success is something that can be foreseen and measured, in part physiologically.  As you evolve to detect even subtle nuances, you sense feelings in goosebumps, shivers and shakes.  Your whole body is manifesting signs in your tone, word choices, and inclinations about the courses of action you should choose. What do you recognize? What do you choose not to recognize? Your mind takes selective issues into account, perhaps ruling out those choices other people wouldn't take.

Your physical reactions don't have a vindictive streak or a sense of win-lose perspectives.  The function on their own frequency, in a realm of rationality.  Did you ever wonder whether even the heart itself has a level of understanding of what is 'good for you' separate from a conditioned mind?  Are you more apt to listen to your heart or mind?  Perhaps you find a middle road or seek one now to reconcile diverging ideas of success.

Your notion of success is shaped by every choice you make, every thought you generate, every feeling you experience or, decide to repress.  The more you permit your preferences, hopes and dreams to rise into conscious awareness, the more likely you will be to follow intuitive choices that you sense in many ways are the best ones for you, because of directions you think they take you. 

Re-orient in the storm

In business, you may hesitate to choose a single road because your creative mind gets wrapped up in too many possibilities.  You may be motivated by excitment and desire to shape change yet, be unsure what should happen next.  Reading widely and seeking avenues through mentors, seminars and courses, will all assist you to narrow your forcus and pin down apppropriate roles and courses of action during turmoil.  Consider these tips for re-orienting in the storms of life. 

1) Advocate strategies for your future.  Somewhere along the line, you need to make choices.  You may be used to following standard operating procedures in automatic mode when its time to learn how to function for youself in manuel.  Learn to relish the challenge, strain and tragedies. 

2) Focus on applying your beliefs to societal structures.  Group experiences may become important to intellectual stimulation and your desire to discuss and debate.  Take part in local Chambers of Commerce, attend Rotary meetings and other associations to test the waters for some of your ideas. Sharing lessons learned may provide you with useful and timely ideas.

3) Let your intuition guide you.  If you happen to have many 'irons in the fire,' you would benefit from solitude to figure out which pursuits are really valuable and which ones aren't priorities.  Discern what's important to you and what would positively affect your community.  Where your pursuits aren't helping, they're hindering and may require quick attention.  Separate business issues form other issues.

4) Don't be concerned with others.  Its easy to become concerned with what other people may be thinking, judging or whether they deem you as incompetent.  It can be tough to face challenges of intellect if you see your professional role as an extension of who you are.  Realize vulnerability is good if it forces you to face your fears and weaknesses.  Deal with them.  The people respect you is far less crucial than whether you have valid reasons to respect yourself and abilities to apply lessons learned wherever you find yourself.

5) Recognize when ego is a problem.  You'd be surprised how ego can be a reason for business disintegration.  How you perceive, react to and attack problems may reveal you don't have a clear grasp of reality.  If you're dealing with emotion-laden, personal issues on the side or related to your business, it would be in your interest to learn to separate them from courses of action.  

6) Pay attention to the facts.  The consequences of the situation beyond your control are less relevant.  Conduct a logical analysis of what needs to be done by when and for whom.  Create a hierarchy of needs and desires and determine which changes are really warranted.