6 Ways to show unconditional love and acceptance

Unconditional love and acceptance may not come easily to you. Your role models may have sent mixed messages or, these may be strange or foreign concepts.  How you view your existence, purpose and interpret meaning can change dramatically.

Everyone can evolve to become more aware of the reasons for their behaviour. Knowledge can empower you, no matter where you are or how you currently view the world. You are in process of resolving inner conflict and developing new perspective.

What you choose to see relates to your beliefs as much as to hidden issues within you that often go unnoticed or ignored. As you choose to exercise kindness and patience with yourself, you are working through another stage in your growth process. Consider six ways to show unconditional love and acceptance;

1) Rather than ask what a person does for a living, inquire instead what evokes joy and contributes to a meaningful life.

2) Rather than value people based on what they do, opt instead to love and accept them because they exist as they are.

3) Rather than live your life to please others, choose instead to grow to understand and learn what it is to please yourself.

4) Rather than do what is conditioned or expected, swallow your pride or fear and choose instead to do what feels right.

5) Rather than criticize, reprimand and emprison the mind, decide instead to boost esteem and praise freedom.

6) Rather than highlight drawbacks of loss, mistakes and failure, concentrate instead on the benefits of all experience.

Comments

[Jay]

I never ask what people do for a living? When did that become a way to value a person? We are so much more. I am not just an accountant, blogger, and dream coach- I have dreams, values, and a heart that screams so much more. Thanks Liara!

[Buddha of Hollywood]

I love #3
Unconditional love of others starts with unconditional love of the self. Love your post! Unconditionally :)

[Daphne]

Hi Liara,

This is a lovely post. I will remember especially point 1. Instead of asking what a person does for a living, in future I will ask what makes them happy or what gives life meaning. I'm sure they will be surprised, and I'm also sure we'll connect at a deeper and more meaningful level. Thanks for the tip.

[Davina]

Hi Liara. Exercising patience and kindness with Self has taught me a lot. When I'm connected with it personally, it makes it so much easier... and authentic, to feel it towards another person. The first item on your list is important. We so often are fixated on labels and define ourselves by what we do. Digging deeper than that label to find the person underneath gives them permission to show up.

[Happinessisbetter]

Great post! I really don't like asking and being asked what I do for a living. That really hit home with me. It's interesting to point out that we have been hanging out with two friends of ours. We've hung out 5 or more times for a few hours at a time. I have no idea what they do for a living.

[Ian Peatey]

Liara

This post reminded me so much of one of my favourite poems - The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer ... the first lines are:

"It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing."

If you're interested you can find the full text on her website http://www.oriahmountaindreamer.com/

Thanks for the reminder.
Ian

[Evita]

Hi Liara - great list as usual and oh so, so beneficial for a deeper and more freeing existence for us and the parties involved.

Unconditional love I find is preached by so many, and actually practised by so few.

[Miruh]

Hello Liara,

Good tips, I especially found #3 and #4 the most important in my own personal growth. They are the fundamental lessons I had to learn before I could make any spiritual progress.

[Liara Covert]

jay, a lot of people do ask what a person does for a living as an effort to figure that person out. As you say, there is more to a person than temporary labels.

Buddha of hollywood, we love you unconditionally too!

Daphne, raising awareness of subtle nuances changes every person, regardless of whether they realize it or not. The words you choose and the circumstances that prompt you all shape your story. It is an engaging epic that continues.

Davina, you are the only person who ever gives permission or prevents you from acting. All messages you send yourself are powerful guides. You choose when and wheer to empower yourself with your own inner knowing.

happinessisbetter, people often experience revelations as the result of letting go what they perceive they no longer need. You redefine what is important based on how and where you focus your attention. As you become aware of questions you do and do not ask others, you are getting closer to what matters in your heart.

Ian, the poetry you mention is especially meaningful to me. I am familiar with Oriah's life story and her poerty. Thanks for sharing the website so others will discover her perspectives. Glad you rediscovered the new layout here!

Evita, those who practice authenticity often preach little. They reveal truth through examples. You choose what resonates or not and live your life as you see fit.

Miruh, each new personal revelation is meaningful in ways words are unable to describe. To recognize what you need is an empowering thing. The mind chatters constantly. Its up to each of us to learn to read energy between the lines.

[Melinda]

Liara,

Another beautiful and inspiring post. It made me remember how inspired I was when I first learned of the theories of Carl Rogers, who believed in unconditional positive regard.

Take care,
Melinda

[rummuser]

One of the greatest sayings in Sanskrit translated means Only that which pleases oneself makes all pleasant activities possible. In other words, selfless and unconditional love in reality is simply that which pleases me to extend. If it does not, I simply will not.

[Liara Covert]

Melinda, people often associate inspiring ideas with particualr individuals. Another perspective is that people outside ourselves reflect what we are thinking and convey it in such a way as we grow to understand what we have sensed all along, but had at the tips of the tongue!

rummuser, Sanskrit offers profound wisdom. Some human beings will also go to extremes. For instance, they will give of themselves to the point where they are exhausted or even ill and convince themselves their state somehow pleases them. The exercise of interpreting words such as "extend" can include "over-extend" untila person learns the lesson and significance of creating boundaries.

[Bruno LoGreco]

unconditional self-love the essence of life. One of my favorite questions to ask someone I just met is: What do you enjoy doing when you're not working?

Ones development unfortunately will determine if these behaviors can be easily adopted into everyday life.