Realize the implications of your core beliefs
Sunday, April 20, 2008 at 6:58PM Each of us lives a life based on what we focus on. This goes further than simply relating experiences back to a passing thought. It can actually be traced back to core beliefs. How well do you know yours? Are you aware your telepathic thoughts have implications?
You reinforce your reality both consciously and unconsciously. You may find it easier to intuit core beliefs in other people. Yet, as you begin to link behavior back to thoughts in others, you will gradually become less blind to your beliefs. You will also begin to discern "positive" and "negative" only gain meaning when you get convinced you're dissatisfied. To become more aware of why you reinforce this negativity helps shatter your illusions.
Let's say you feel as though you have recently faced an unusual number of unforeseen challenges. How you react to each influences what comes next. So, if your words and actions are reinforcing resentments, anger, bitterness, thoughts of doubt and failure, then your experience will reinforce this. Do you connect events with your core beliefs?
Consider a man I know was excited to get married and felt devastated when his fiance broke it off less than a month before the event. A number of issues surfaced during pre-marriage sessions with the minister, such as the bride-to-be was still married and had emotional baggage from prior marriages she wasn't willing to work through.
A week after the broken engagement, the woman returned to her estranged husband and demanded money from her ex-fiance to pay wedding bills. Now, the ex-groom-to-be paid the first half and then discovered some bills didn't exist (i.e. the wedding venue rental deposit had been returned a month before ex-bride-to-be broke engagement.) The ex-groom-to-be stopped further payment. He blames the ex-fiance for strife and missing personal property and she blames his inability to communicate and listen for her lot. Lawyers are now involved. As beliefs generate negative emotions, a situation can spiral.
Clearly, dishonesty played a role in the disintegration of this relationship, but each person is accountable for his or her own actions which are themselves based on core beliefs. How well you know yourself influences the kinds of partners you attract and the kind of treatment you accept. To become aware of your own ideas and beliefs about love, trust, understanding, faith and other qualities, you choose experiences that can help you to remove your own blinders. Do your core beliefs work to your advantage?
In other words, the life experiences you choose enable you to come face-to-face with how you judge yourself. On a conscious level, you may not be aware of things like; low self-esteem, negative self-image, self-destructive behavior or self-limiting thinking. A core belief stays invisible if you assume its a fact of life and not a belief about life. Whether or not you are willing to acknowledge and deal with core beliefs determines whether your physical experience reinforces them or teaches you anything different.
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You somehow have a way of summarizing my thoughts or meditations. One of the "challenges" along the way of this self-disclosure is to be willing to go through the discomfort of "becoming." The patterns and deep rooted distortions that quietly hide behind the scenes and manifest in our daily lives are patterns we have grown comfortable with, even if they bring us pain. When we begin to notice them, it feels unsettling. Persist in your new path, and the discomfort slowly melts into a state of expanded awareness, or what some call bliss.
Rest assured, all of us can choose to become more aware of how we structure ideas and assumptions and why our most common practice is likely not in our best interest. The key is to evolve to recognize reasons behind your actions in core beliefs and to be willing to discard ideas that are no longer compatible with who you are and how you see yourself.