When is it time to rethink where you are?
Wednesday, April 23, 2008 at 7:40AM Some people might tell you anytime is the right time to do what you want. Yet, if you listen to your gut, voices about responsibilities and commitments will echo that this isn't always true. Its a kind of balancing game. Which voices do you hear inside yourself?
Take a friend of mine, a home builder. He is licensed and capable, but he's bored and senses he doesn't follow his true passion. He told me he repeatedly took trade courses to expand his license, but his teacher refused to certify him. He admitted being frustrated. The man's teacher was convinced he would be exploited. He admits his personality isn't aligned with the job. He came to me expressing impatience for change.
The context of your situation always invites you to find blessings in your circumstances. How often do you notice them? You may begin to recognize signs that are pulling you away from what you know. If you ask yourself if its appropriate to rethink who and what you are, then this may simply begin with questioning what you do. Remind yourself that;
1) You are always building bridges. Everything you learn is actually preparing you for something you have not anticipated. When you choose to value each experience for what it is and not where it may be leading, your perspective shifts to transform you.
2) Barriers in your perception appear. When you sense what you do is incompatible with what you would really like to do, you realize discomfort can be interpreted as a positive sign. Knowing what you don't want prompts you to explore and embrace what you do. When you find reasons to doubt, judge or generate negative energy, these are barriers to how you really want to feel. This brings you closer to the more inviting light.
3) The journey never ends. The totality of yourself is something you piece together throughout your understanding of life. To believe in possibilities, in positive outcomes and meaningful experiences, all helps define your path. Some people assume freedom is frightening, that change is something to be avoided at all cost. Yet, as you choose to think you have been grooming yourself for this moment, then you reframe everything and focus 'on the now.' To choose to be humble and indifferent is the antidote for impatience.
Reader Comments (6)
Blessings to this community.
I had a friend who suffered a severe set back recently. A large business deal fell through after she had already altered much of her life to the "new lifestyle."
As I was helping her move the other day I asked, "Where do you think you allowed this to happen to you"? Her answer is exactly as you said, "I wanted it way too much."
There is of course nothing wrong with wanting, unless the thing you want, or the wanting itself, becomes your identified state. All that is left is a state of wanting, which brings with it, more wanting.
I don't think about redefining myself because every time I do, it is always redefined for me by the force greater than me. It is vital to listen to your intuition and know which steps to take to keep stepping to your own beat.