How to take responsibility for what you avoid

Human beings are responsible for what they think.  Behaviour emerges from thoughts.  The two are not separate.  In other words, what you do results from what you believe.

Change can only truly happen at the level of the thinking process.   Altering your behavior alone does not correct the thinking behind it.  For example, you could choose to quit smoking cold turkey, but completely ignore or resist healing what motivated you to start smoking in the first place. Any change you make does not mean you grasp the motivation.

It is common for people to resist taking responsibility for what they avoid.  Fear is like feeling responsible for an incorrect choice without admitting it.  Fear is a sign you resist sensing energy imbalance or  hesitate to do what it takes to re-align at soul level. 

If you wonder what this really means, then remind yourself choices always relate back to your thought processes.  One perspective of fear is that this is what happnes when you abdicate responsibility for your thoughts.  To evoke fear inside is a sign you have made a choice that does not serve you. The result matters less than the underlying reasons.

How you behave right now is a symptom of what you think.  You are invited to take responsibility, to recognize and dissolve fear.  To hope to eliminate fear from your perception or to ask to be released is to ignore the conditions that created the fear. 

Imagine how effective it would be to treat only the symptoms manifest of an illness.  The result would not heal the cause of the illness.  This would be like putting a band-aid on a bullet wound and ignoring the bullet embedded in and infecting the underlying tissues.

Rest assured, it is possible to evolve where you realize you have nothing to hide.  You can also evolve to where you no longer choose to withold anything.  Deception nurtures fear.  Your authentic self knows fear when you resist dissolving your own illusions. 

Comments

[Eric S.]

Yes indeed dishonesty does bread fear. Always try to be honest with yourself and you can avoid many problem. Fear can be a strong motivator, but not necessarily for the good. Fear in certain instances, is useful though and can stop you from doing things you know you shouldn't.

[Liara Covert]

Eris S., misperceptions produce fear. Perception must be explored in depth before you are certain of anything. If you fear getting hurt and this prevents you from taking certain action, then you may assume fear is helpful. This may be the best answer to your question, yet, you do not question when you know. To query illusions is a key step to learning to dissolve them. When you evolve to only focus on thoughts that trigger love and self-acceptance, then you do not experience fear. All difficulty is linked back to fear.

[Robin Easton]

Some wonderful truths in here. I love this line:

"When you evolve to only focus on thoughts that trigger love and self-acceptance, then you do not experience fear. All difficulty is linked back to fear."

I realized after spending a lot of time alone in the wild that there are two basic emotions fear and love. I found that wonderfully simplifying and workable. I could then, as you say, choose. Very empowering!

I also really related to these lines:

"Altering your behavior alone does not correct the thinking behind it. For example, you could choose to quit smoking cold turkey, but completely ignore or resist healing what motivated you to start smoking in the first place."

I had a friend who quit drinking. After a while, the person said that they thought they would feel better. In fact the person felt much worse. I suggested that now they were facing the issuses that motivated them to drink in the first place. Amazingly, this person grasped that reality and over time moved through the issues. The person went on to find great peace.

[soulMerlin]

Hi Liara ~ Do you think fear is the teacher?

henry

[Liara Covert]

Henry, I view everything and eveyone as teachers. If you believe that fear brings you face-to-face with ego, then the premise of your question becomes its foundation, the core reason you choose to learn about yourself and evaluate accuracy of perception.

Consider ego is that part of the mind that believes it is separate or, on its own. It does not recognize any other part of you. The spiritual part of you is unaware of ego insofar as the spiritual side cannot conceive of fear or separation from what it is. Fear is not in its vocabulary. In other words, your spiritual side has no experience with fear by choice.

[Liara Covert]

Robin, ego exists based on its ability to compare. Thus, if a person is changing behaviour in the physical world, that person's ego recognizes what he is no longer doing, what is missing or, lacking. Ego does not grasp the concept of change without grounding itself in a concept of 'getting' or 'losing.' All of this reminds us that ego acts to confirm or reassure itself of its existence and the correctness of its thought processes. To move beyond ego is to begin to recognize abundance and other experiences that satisfy the soul beyond the physical body. Taking responsibility for fear is a strategy to overcome your misplaced confusion about what is really possible. You always have choices.