Move beyond simply thinking positive

If you tend to spend a lot of your time imagining where you're not, allowing your mind to wander away from the 'here and now', then you may be missing the key to realizing dreams.  It may be time to take a new, more proactive approach.

People will ask me about short-cuts, about full-proof strategies, to achieve the key to their deepest longings or greatest passions.  No single mindset will necessarily work for everyone.  However going further than simply thinking positively can help:

Recognize when you're avoiding what you want. 

You may desire to be in a siutation where you feel more comfortable about who you are and where you are, yet constantly avoid what evokes the real fear and uncomfortable emotions. I'm not talking about your current job or relationship or what you assume is the source of disquieting emotions.  I mean the idea of avoiding the initiatives, the risks or other steps you think success would require.  Avoiding change may convince you you feel less vulnerable in the short-term, but this will not enable you to confront your fear or enable you to feel less afraid.

Let fear in your front door. 

Are you the sort of person who arrives in a new situation and is already wondering what you could do to leave?  Did you think you were ready to embrace new responsibilities and already contemplate how you could get out of them?  To intentionally take steps which invite change, which bring you face-to-face with uncertainty, can be a very effective way to go further than simply thinking. 

So, if you think about what it would be like to have a different job, apply for it.  If your mind repeatedly wanders to thoughts of a place you've never visited, boldly travel there.  If you ponder how your life would evolve in a more loving relationship, become the change you wish to experience. Take the next step.  Believe in yourself.

Comments

[Loving Annie]

This is exactly what I needed to hear right now, Liara....

[Liara Covert]

Choosing to be "present," to uncover the meaning of your reactions, will enable you to gain more self-respect. You see, you're the only person creates your anxiety and thus, you're the only person who can resolve your own issues. Teaching yourself to think positive can be beneficial. After all, this can uplift your spirits and motivate you. Yet, posiitve thinking is less helpful if it only masks your real source of fear.