Paranoia got your goat?
Monday, June 4, 2007 at 10:30PM If you do what you love, and this represents success, why has paranoia suddenly got your goat? Dissatisfaction or fear may slowly seep in. You feel a bit moodier. People withdraw from you. You feel underappreciated or resentful because of what you used to experience that is all gone. You start to wonder whether the grass must not be greener somewhere else. Why can't you get there? What not now?
1) Trust yourself. Trust evolves as you realize your intentions, that you have your best interests at heart, and this feeling isn't dependent on external events. What people say or do is separate. Its your character that may desire the best for others and motivate you to do what you choose will be the best for you. Can they be one in the same? Intuition shapes your reality.
2) Relate to other people. Read up on how other people feel about their own vulnerabilities. Learn about the benefits other people have experienced as the result of examining perceived failures and occasions when their plans didn't turn out exactly as planned. What did they gain? How can this help you to adopt coping models based on real people who kept on performing with a revised vision?
3) Accept imperfection. Nobody always gets everything right. This explains why we're human. To make mistakes, admit faults and weaknesses is the first step to coping and managing anything well. As you learn to combine fallibility with problem-solving, you'll build strength to overcome things. To recognize your strengths will reduce anxiety and enable you to gain a positive focus.
4) Don't lie, even if you think it helps. You may promise yourself never to say things you don't mean, and then justify the exact opposite. Being real means you're brutally honest, no matter what the cost. When people inquire about your success, you may exaggerate in order to boost self-acceptance and avoid negative consequences. If you accept reality, and admit it, you won't have a guilty conscience. The results of deception are more destructive than telling the truth.
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