The value of a grain of salt
Thursday, March 29, 2007 at 8:38AM If you've never tried goal-setting, it may seem scary to you. Maybe you think this requires lots of work and you'd prefer to spend your time differently. Maybe you make other excuses. People may have also told you stories about their failures. Sometimes people permit fear to make an activity seem harder than it is. They spend time going about it the wrong way, giving their fear too much control.
You won't get results just because you avoid or think you do enough of the 'right things.' Goals aren't usually achieved simply through the efforts of your choice, and boasting about what you did. Think again. It's unwise to assume you'll resolve your fear by doing nothing or only doing things your way. Take your fears of goal-setting with a grain of salt, or decide your rationale isn't good enough.
If you have set goals before, didn't follow through and gave up, you may also be turned off the whole idea. Either way, if you're results-driven or motivated by a sense of progress you didn't have, that's an issue. Let's step back a moment.
Why has goal-setting lost its appeal to you? Is it because the process didn't live up to your rigid expectations or you didn't get what you wanted? Please! Intentions are insufficient. Consistent action is needed, and patience and self-confidence. You don't only work your timeline. Other variables are at play, like events beyond your control. Take pride with a grain of salt. Don't give up. If at first you didn't succeed, learn why and start again. Chances are, your wisdom will propel you further.
The truth is that goal-setting will be as easy or as difficult as you make it to be. Decide in your mind that you'll be willing to have faith in your life and your potential. Believe that if you consult other people for advice and take steps to learn about you, then goal-setting will come naturally. Each and every day you can trust yourself, you will evolve to find ways to satisfy your needs. If you struggle to get your heart in the right place, my advice to you is to just let go of fear and trust the events already unfolding. Learn to open your eyes wider. Recognize connections.
Reader Comments (2)
You make an excellent point. Attitude is what determines whether you wish to set goals at all and attitude also determines how confident you are that you will achieve them. Take your own skepticism with 'a grain of salt,' that is, don't permit a speck of self-doubt to control you. I have faith that your new venture will evolve in positive directions. As long as you remain open to learning, you will have infinite potential. Best wishes, Liara