Break your pact with defeat

As you realize you have lived and learned, how do you convince yourself that what used to motivate you hasn't lost its meaning? If these personal milestones are vital to your life, then they will not lose their meaning, so long as you continue to honestly focus on sources of motivation. 

Some people come to a point where they feel past challenges they met were not big enough or below expectations.  This may trigger a sense of regret or defeat for what wasn't done.  Its possible to continue appreciating what you have done after that chapter is over.  Its may be desirable to choose not to win when victory is possible.  You might ask what incentives exist for choosing defeat? What price would you pay for not being true to yourself?  Are you a prisoner of your own guilt?

What about distraction from things you don't choose to face? It might seem a cowardly move, but perhaps abandoning your dreams appeared agreeable somehow.  People have been known to deny or destroy what they love without logic or explanation.  Have you or anyone you know ever been that severe?  To sacrifice what you think you want most is only done for something you desire more. 

As of right now, if you believe in what you do and how you feel, then you will forgive yourself for anything that is past.  The most effective way to break you pact with defeat is to promise you will no longer reprimand yourself or choose to destroy your connection to sources of inspiration.  Rise above such self-betrayal. 

Embracing the truth will free you from the problems you have created for yourself.  Open your soul and listen to what it tells you about your dreams.  Tapping into your own courage will assist you to triumph over defeat.  Do those things that make life worth the effort.  Give yourself credit where credit is due.  Remind yourself you set the healing process in motion.

Role models & 3 Traits that stand out

The story of a role model's life amy be a story that reflects on all humanity. Do you dream of holding such a role? Examine your underlying motives. Are you ready to be responsible and accountable? What makes you think someone else is a suitable candidate?

1) Does the person have traits worthy of our attention?  In the early days, at least, some part of us admires the person.  He or she may empathize with our plight or personal situation. We seek to know more, while taking it on faith that what this person tells us is necessarily the truth. Over time, conflicting stories will arise in the media about the person who initially struck us as a leader. We choose allegiance to stories. We evolve according to stories. 

2) Is the person surrounded by powerful friends?  This may prevent people from touching them, and it goes beyond security preventing physical harm. Why do some people feel they require distance and protection? Even if you found a way to reach them, would you take that risk to speak your mind? You may be the sort of person who respects rules for what they are or, you may act based on fearing punishment for ignoring them. Consider role models who don't choose to have bodyguards and do what they can to relate to people.  They demonstrate their own patterns and character traits that don't boast of of seek help from supposedly 'powerful people.'

3) Is the person inspirational?  Some role models do not consciously choose to set standards, but they must still face consequences if people put them on a pedestal. Whether they fall into or out of this status or, whether a public chooses to keep them there, is partly due to our inclinations and partly destiny. Some people seem born to be role models and others evolve into them with help.

Paranoia got your goat?

If you do what you love, and this represents success, why has paranoia suddenly got your goat?  Dissatisfaction or fear may slowly seep in.  You feel a bit moodier.  People withdraw from you.  You feel underappreciated or resentful because of what you used to experience that is all gone. You start to wonder whether the grass must not be greener somewhere else.  Why can't you get there? What not now? 

1) Trust yourself.  Trust evolves as you realize your intentions, that you have your best interests at heart, and this feeling isn't dependent on external events.  What people say or do is separate.  Its your character that may desire the best for others and motivate you to do what you choose will be the best for you.  Can they be one in the same?  Intuition shapes your reality.

2) Relate to other people.  Read up on how other people feel about their own vulnerabilities.  Learn about the benefits other people have experienced as the result of examining perceived failures and occasions when their plans didn't turn out exactly as planned.  What did they gain? How can this help you to adopt coping models based on real people who kept on performing with a revised vision?

3) Accept imperfection.  Nobody always gets everything right.  This explains why we're human.  To make mistakes, admit faults and weaknesses is the first step to coping and managing anything well.  As you learn to combine fallibility with problem-solving,  you'll build strength to overcome things.  To recognize your strengths will reduce anxiety and enable you to gain a positive focus.

4) Don't lie, even if you think it helps.  You may promise yourself never to say things you don't mean, and then justify the exact opposite. Being real means you're brutally honest, no matter what the cost.  When people inquire about your success,  you may exaggerate in order to boost self-acceptance and avoid negative consequences.  If you accept reality, and admit it, you won't have a guilty conscience.  The results of deception are more destructive than telling the truth.    

Participate and prosper your way

Surrender to the things that direct your path.  In order to participate to the fullest in your life, you need to be willing to give up everything you thought you knew and thought you had. At which points in your life have you been touched by people and circumstances that made particular days seem very different than the others? How do you reach out to people? Who approaches you? How does it all fit together?

Nothing about your life is a pointless exercise. Are you the sort of person who would refuse to believe or adopt anything that doesn't fit with who you are now? Some people live in fear of their destiny and are reluctant to take steps to change or to influence how it unfolds. Although you have the ability to zero in on suffering all around you, its also within your power to focus on healing.

To be open to learning means you're also prepared to build courage and take stands in life. Its often easier to accept an insult or ignore it than to confront others and fight for your rights. You have the strength inside to create cheer and joy. Learn why participating in life is to recognize you have a hand in the evolution of things. They don't happen without you. There is no disconnect. You can actively and enthusiastically shape your life or permit attitude to define a less desirable path.

As you realize what you learn can influence how you think, and you're ready to revise thoughts, the choices you make will prepare you for what's next. How you felt in the past may not longer fit the person you are now. Live, learn and prosper your way.

Make the most of your life

Today is another day where you have the power to make the most of opportunities. You have the ability to strengthen "can-do" power. You can tap into the energy and enthusiasm inside yourself to be good to people and to respect yourself. Why not decide to make the most of your life? Of course, its up to you to decide which steps you will take and to shape the attitude to move ahead.

To take advantage of where you are right now, begin by thinking about the positive things you can you recognize already. Its your ability to focus on these things that influence your mindset. This helps you to isolate what aspects of your life you think require attention. Would it involve how you interact in certain relationships? Could it relate to how you nurture patience in a given situation? It may simply be to stop wanting to change everything. Learn to sense happiness now.

As of right now, you can access those answers you look for. Build faith in yourself. You can learn to consider that discomfort you experience today isn't a something to endure, but something to value and appreciate for what it teaches you about yourself. You're bigger than whatever is trying to break you down.

No event has to prevent you from becoming all that you can become.  You can bring new life and hope to whatever situation may be difficult or seemingly too far gone to turn around.  Change your point of view and you'll find that you have the ability to transform your life for the better.  No matter where you are, now is the right time for positive change. Believe you'll turn things around. Reframe them for the better.