Be yourself. That is, be wholesome, sound, resonate peace, contentment and well-being. Ask yourself what wholesome feels like and what the mind says this means to you. Notice whether this invites you to alter points of reference. Then, recall the essence of love.
Take a moment. Notice words you use to describe yourself. Notice whether you allow people and the external world control how you think and feel. Recognize you are taught to fixate on points and you can also adjust your mental filters. What prevents you from seeing more clearly though the lens of the open heart? Sense a shimmering light. How does that feel?