Consider states of mind thrive on negativity and control. Some people sense fear prompts one to control and perpetuate delusion. One discovers that to access the doorway to the heart requires a shift in focus.
What happens as you take off the pressure? How does it feel to realize you do not have to please anyone? As you empower others, you cease to judge and exert control. To judge indicates you have an ego that assesses and you do not understand truth. As you raise awareness, everything is unjudgable.
Why judge self? To be unconditionally aware reminds you how to be unconditionally kind, loving to self and others. You are free and have no reason to judge. People who free themselves do no harm and teach freedom to others. The less you control, the deeper you connect with the infinite joy, health and energy within. The effort to control others reminds you that you have an ego. To detach is to gradually vanish.