The urge to judge is human. We all go through stages where we are more or less judgmental of oursleves and other people. You may recall periods in your life where your opinion seemed justified, where your feelings were colored by emotion but you did not realize it then
One question you may ask is, how attached or committed are you to your beliefs? Commitment can become a conscious decision to revisit your inner judge. You can grow to discern the gift in every perception. You can evolve to recognize that any assumed deficiency is actually a piece of a master puzzle. You are gradually collecting and connecting the pieces to feel more complete. Consider these 3 tips;
1) Recognize everyone has things to work on. The next time you catch yourself about to criticize or say anything negative about others, remind yourself that you also have your own growing to do. Any thought or feeling that does not encourage or build confidence, means you have forgotten you have access to greater compassion, wisdom and perspective.
2) Emotionally-wounded people heal with love. People relate through experience. People who share common experiences connect through feelings without words. From the moment you realize you relate to pain and suffering, and love, you begin to realize you can relate to everyone. Knowing this reminds you that unconditional love helps transcend uncomfortable silence and misplaced unworthiness.
3) Everything is a stage in a process. Any conditioned attachments, fear of change, yearning for certainty, all distract you from the core strength of your human identity. This impermanence allows for evolution, transition, and growth that indifference, disinterest or absent awareness would not.