We've all been there. You can hear a penny drop in the silence as you to realize something makes sense in your life that didn't before. The truth is passed on and grasped through life experience. You may describe personal revelations as "ah-ha" moments, those instances when you gain profound insight to raise your soul-level awareness.

Yet, how can you connect with your soul in ways that will generate more positive developments in your life? You may be eager to reframe unresolved feelings and confusing events. To become an astute witness, you must learn to step back from your conditioned mind.  Consider these ideas to help trigger more "ah-ha" moments:  

1) Choose to not to view yourself as 'victim.'  Its a reflex to attribute blame, to judge about what you perceive was wrong with a person or a situation, and to complain how you suffer.  This attitude diverts focus from growth, nurtures negative energy and further disillusions you from the truth. Choose instead to step outside a victim mentality. Imagine how others  may interpret your behavior outside your emotional reactions or assumptions. Transform your energy.  Focus on positives in the "big picture" and learn.

2) Train your instincts to detect substance. Sharpening intuition enables you to connect your feelings with meaning behind your actions. In order to discern underlying meanings for your choices, review your behavior from an outsider's view.  How compatible are your behaviors with your views of love and forgiveness? Do your choices bring you closer to or alientate you from unconditional self-acceptance, spontaneous self-expression, and honesty? Each time someone or something evokes discomfort, its a clue to issues of substance in need of your attention.  Although your instinct may be to defend your spirit as you sense it now, you can learn new ways to preserve and nurture it.

3) Recognize the value of people as mirrors. All your friends, family, lovers and strangers, are like mirrors. How you react to them and conditions reflects parts of your personality. Learning why people behave as they do toward you mirrors what you are hiding from your conscious self.  How people treat you reveals a lot about how you treat them.  If you aren't getting the treatment you desire or hope for, then reflect on the nature of your behavior.  Does history repeat? Have you done this before or has someone done this to you with similar results?  This is a conscious and unconscious process.

4) Determine 'the real you.'  As you discover your strengths, weaknesses, and patterns, this helps you figure out who you are beneath appearances.  It all shapes self-confidence, esteem, self-worth and to what degree you permit unconscious fears to control you. As you admit underlying motives or, why you act as you do, and discern if your action confirms your intent, you grow to get in touch with your authentic self.