How many people do you know who can't seem to figure out why they don't have the life they want? These same people are unaware that what they think they want is really what their peers and their external influences dictate. Is something wrong with this picture? Would you rather not decide for yourself what contributes to your happiness and make more proactive choices?

When people other than you dictate your reasons for happiness, they design what they think you desire, but they don't really know you. Only you can truly evolve to recognize what makes you feel happy. When you finally have the job you have been desiring, all the money you want and are the envy of your peers, you will still sense a mysterious hole. Perhaps your ego has been driving your desires rather than your heart? When your heart is at the helm, you set a course to make the most honorable and righteous choices.

Some people assume being happy means being the centre of attention, having certain material possessions, or something that evokes  jealousy in others. When you are happy inside, you are making choices that lead you to feel good without harming others. When you refuse to succomb to fear, judgment or doubt, then you find the money, the conditions and the people to perpetuate your state of inner happiness. This will flow effortlessly.  You realize you have everything you need and always did.

When it comes right down to it, you are not a porter, so stop carrying other people's baggage. Discard what you don't need. Extract the extraneous thoughts and feelings which are in your head but were never yours. Explore why you chose to adopt certain points of view. What did you gain already? What will you gain from accepting that people will not always react the way you expect? What can you learn about your own core hopes and dreams by filtering out the confusion and arrogance that your ego created?